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Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 1:38:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 quote: ORIGINAL: fit2pleaseu One that comes to mind..i kiss the collar and then rest my head between her breasts while she fastens the collar...Tightly. that is very nice too, indeed. I had a friend, a Master. that could steer his alpha slave almost with his eyes and little head movements. That made then a great impression on me Thats my goal

slavesunshine -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 4:42:40 AM)
I believe that protocol and rituals are apart of respect for your Master or Dom. I try very hard to know all of Master's needs. Also, every morning before the day is started and at the end of the night before bed I have a vow that I give Master. It reafirms everything for me and shows my devotion to him.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 4:50:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavesunshine Also, every morning before the day is started and at the end of the night before bed I have a vow that I give Master. It reafirms everything for me and shows my devotion to him. That is just.... Wow, really it is.

slavesunshine -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:07:26 AM)
Thank you Sir. It means a lot to both of us.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:10:21 AM)
Im just happy that people can connect on that deep of a level, it gives me hope that when I find the right Sub, maybe I too can find that connection :)

slavesunshine -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:15:25 AM)
Its the most peaceful thing to have that kind of connection between two people. I hope that you do find that with the right girl.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:23:04 AM)
Thanks

SayaNereida -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:28:14 AM)
quote: Sevice is getting the me the drink the Protocal is how they will serve me the drink. For many their is no specific manner to which acts of service is accomplished and for some thier is a specific manner to which acts of service is done. Another Act of service would be doing the laundry. The protocal would be how my shirts are very specifically hung in the closet. Thank you KoM for explaining: it's not the act that is protocal but how the act is executed. Saya

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:36:14 AM)
Right. Protocol is what makes it mean something..... at least to me.

KnightofMists -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:27:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressKay For myself I have found that the use of hand comand protocols without any verbal a great way to stay in touch with my submissive when we are out and about. He is constantly aware of my presence and is ready to respond to any command given I want to echo this specfic benefit of developing non-verbal cues a means to communicate with ones submissive. As a person that uses these types of cues it has resulted in my girls continuing focus and awareness of my presence. It raises their Mindfulness. The developement of this strength transfer well to other aspects of a person's duties and responsibilities as well as foster strength within the relationship itself. I would also like to add that establishing protocals should be at a pace that creates success and not failure. Everyone, including the Dominant must learn and suceed at doing them well. Since my girls also communicate to me by non-verbal cues, I have also benefitted as they have. lastly, MoGa... thank you for your thoughts

petpete -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:32:14 PM)
yeah sure i do!! No matter they come salty or sweet, hot or cold....[;)]

LPslittleclip -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 5:49:21 PM)
im a submissive and my M'Lady has some protocals that i enjoy doing like calling her M'Lady(not sir or dude) sitting at her feet serving her opening doors for herlighting her smokes(i carry 4 lighters for her)i feel great satisfaction in serving her and try not to offend her in anyway. im a soldier and a medic ive been deployed 3 times and had to be responsible for the lives of all in the command so it really is a releif to be able to put it all aside and serve only one i am very gratefull fot the time i can spend with M'Lady serving her. happilycollared by LadyPact LPs_littleclip

piercedntattooed -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 6:15:26 PM)
i really enjoy calling Him Master, i have to admit it did take some time getting use to though i love everything He has me do and when something new is added it gets even better i anticipate the next one to come

feralcat -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 7:26:25 PM)
Thank you for sharing about your "hand signal" communication. My slave and I also use hand signals (mostly for small things ie sitting,joining me in bed,sexual use ,etc.) as well as verbal commands. I think it helps a lot with our focus,his and mine, Mindfulness as you call it. It allows us to be D/s in vanilla situations and keeps us aware of each other. I have found it to be a learning curve for us both. I never knew how distracting everyday things could be. In the beginning, rook (my slave) would politely stand waiting for his signal to sit,and I would just be "going about my business" so he would cough to get my attention....lol...poor boy. This has helped me to slow down,to be aware of everyone at the table.Sometimes I catch him too "forgetting himself " and sitting without permission or just climbing imto bed. A gentle reminder puts him right again. Our form of address is different too. rook must ask permission to call me by my name- " Permission to address you informally?". In vanilla company he refers to me as "Ma'am" or nothing (just catches my attention in other ways ) or by my proper name only if he MUST)-never uses an abreviated form or a nickname....WAY too familiar. We did this from the start ,to keep him very separate from the rest of my "world"...a uniqueness that sets him apart. A small thing really,but we have come to treasure it. When he does use my name it is a bit of a jolt. It sounds almost foreign,but it certainly gets my full attention...almost like a safe word (if we are not in a vanilla setting). He mostly uses it to convey a deep emotion or unsettling situation. As for his name,well I call him rook...even in vanilla settings. I explain it away as a pet name,so even vanilla folk are getting used to it. So here again ,the use of his given name carries a lot of weight when he heres it from me. I find these little things, along with other rituals, really help keep our minds in D/s and remind us of who we are to each other. Thank you again for sharing as I hope to add more hand signals to our communication. Ms Feral

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Protocals....do you enjoy? (1/14/2008 10:19:32 PM)
This has become my favorite topic..... Anyway Even before I met my first sub I believed in certain protocols in every relationship. Those things would be little things, for instance, I only called my lover by his/her name if there was something important that couldnt wait. And I asked that they always ask to come over ahead of time, and that they ask me to join me in bed (to sleep). Maybe its just that I was never anything but dominant, not sure. To me at least there are a set of protocols to every relationship whether it be among subs, doms, family or friends. its those changes among each group that help to solidify what each different person contributes to our lives.

MistressVnus -> Without them..... (1/14/2008 10:48:36 PM)
what would there be? Just another round of kinky sex? Protocols, to me, are what make this lifestyle what it is. And just to give you a "hint" of the deeper side of a Dominant's mind, these protocols are done with "purpose." At least I hope they are. Mine are. Dominance with a purpose. Think about it. Pavlov and all that. Protocols are the heart of the matter. As for which protocols I enjoy the most?.....The main one...that supercedes all others....is that the slave/subs attention should be on me at all times, anticipating my next need or request. If that one is followed...the other's are a piece of cake. Sometimes the questions on these forums would require a book. I try to answer so that you get a hint of the depth of it all. At least the depth as I know it. Some are just "tops"...or "bottoms"...no committment.....just play time. That's fine too if that is what you're looking for. But not for me. I LOVE the protocols. Without them. What would there be.

Justme696 -> RE: Without them..... (1/15/2008 1:06:49 AM)
How do you think about "respect" beeing a protocol from the sub/slave towards the Dom(me) ? It seems outside that relation respect is almost gone between people

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Without them..... (1/15/2008 1:09:32 AM)
I can see how that could be, yes. really it matters what resonates within you.

MistressVnus -> Maybe because it's 4 a.m....... (1/15/2008 1:18:51 AM)
and I'm not reading things so good. But I really didn't understand what you are saying? Respect should be a given in any relationship. But, then, one has to respect oneself, first. Protocols are a bit different to me.

Justme696 -> RE: Maybe because it's 4 a.m....... (1/15/2008 1:37:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressVnus and I'm not reading things so good. But I really didn't understand what you are saying? Respect should be a given in any relationship. But, then, one has to respect oneself, first. Protocols are a bit different to me. I am not saying, but asking more. I totally agree with you. I respect all people. But I was curious if people join the lifestyle for a "protocol" called respect.

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