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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 11:13:29 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I am more careful when I choose a gift for someone when it's obvious I'm going to be getting something directly out of it also, but I don't think it really takes away from it being a special and unique gift for them as well.  We're in a relationship, we WANT to fulfill eachother and enjoy experiences together so giving them something to help acheive that is a good thing.  One of our most common gifts for eachother is tickets to concerts- we both definitely get something out of that!

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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 11:17:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I bought MasterK a straight jacket for christmas because when we were browsing in a toy shop one day the look in his eyes when he saw it was priceless. I couldn't resist. 

When he chooses to use it is solely up to him.

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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 11:21:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yup. The very first ever gift I gave daddy was a dvd set he wanted, and it turns out the disk region is  spanish and you can't subtitle it to english, Daddy don't speak spanish at all, but he treasures the gift cause I thought of him. I took the time to find him something he said he liked and couldn't find. He still watches it sometimes even though he can't understand a word that's being said cause he enjoys the movie for the movie. He appreciates anything I give him, as long as it wasn't something I knew would offend like a satanistic logo or something I know he wouldn't appreciate. He appreciates that I thought and cared enough to pick something out.

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ORIGINAL: Asherdelampyr Absolutely, why not just accept that they were thoughtful enough to get you a gift?


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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 2:41:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I made a pussy flogger as a gift for Capnspankins. It's made of the softest most luxurious leather and it's perfectly balanced. I really got a kick out of making it, because I knew it was going to be used on ME, so I chose everything carefully, and it's pretty- soft tan falls and the handle is wrapped in brown velvet and brocade ribbon. I couldn't wait for him to use it on my greedy little self! He used it within hours of my making it...I probably would have had my feelers hurt if he hadn't.

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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 4:43:14 PM   
beargonewild


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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

How do you feel about a submissive/slave giving a gift such as a paddle, flogger or restraint to their dominant/owner for His/Her birthday?
If the item is to be used on the sub/slave, is it really a present for their dominant/owner or is it another way to illicit playtime from the dominant/owner? 
 
 
My answer:
Nothing wrong with my boy wanting to illicit play, but I would want to be the one to decide when I use it. If my submissive expected me to use it right away (such is the case with most gifts) and I didn't choose to, my boy may be a little hurt that I didn't want to play with it as soon as I got it. He would understand of course, but I think it would hurt his feelings somewhat.
 
Say you?


It would seem to me that when a gift is given to another, the recipient is the owner of said gift. It's another matter if the dom/owner decides to use the gift on their sub, using your idea that the gift is a flogger, whip, cat, eyc.  I equate this as if I gave my owner a nice gold chain to wear, I may think it would look good on him and would please me to see him wearing it. Yet once I gave this gift, it's my owner's choice to wear the chain or not.


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RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? - 1/13/2008 5:37:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it depends on intent. If she gives me something that I know she loves-it's probably for her. If she gives me something she loves to hate-but knows I love forcing her to do something she hates with it-it's doubtless for me.

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