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being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:33:14 AM   
neveralone


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Status: offline 		ok i dont know where to post this but i will post here.

basically i started chatting to a Dom from here on msn. i decided i didnt really want the distance of the relationship and im not one for online D/s i just get nothing from it and feel stupid really... that is just me and my opinion im not knocking anyone elses view. so i said that to this Dom after we chatted for a while before anything was commited thinking that was the right thing to do.

He then threatened to post my pics i sent him (nudes included) all over the internet and to people and Doms to make me unable to find anyone new. i got scared and did as he asked me. then purposly didnt speak to him when he spoke, he just added other email addresses and posed as someone else before telling me who he was.

this is the latest msn log...i am "a" he is "P"



u know what ur choices are
and u know the consequences
a

there is no choice if i dont do what you say you will post my pics, your a dick if we are honest
P

and your a tease
a

im not
im not confident enough to be a tease
P

so whats it gonna be
a

you made that choise
P

no i havent
you need to make it
a

i liked you but your too full on and that scares me
P

its only because your shy about your body
a

i am yes and your not going to be able to change that
P

myabe
maybe not
so ill ask again
whats it going to be
 
a

i liked you but your too full on and that scares me
P

and you already said that
a

thats all there is to say
P

are you going to do it or not
a

do what
P

what i want
a
no
P

so u know whats gonna happen
a

oh well
P

ud rather have that than be with someone who likes you
a

i have no choice,
P

yes u do
a

how so, if i say i dont want to be with you, you post my pics online, if i go with you which i dont want to things will fall apart in time and you will post my pics...i cant win i dont like you
 
P

if you were with me i wouldnt post anything
a

there that prooves my point
P

ok so ill make you a deal
a

which is
P

you give yourself to me for one day, and serve me however i want, and then we part ways
ill leave u alone if thats what u want


i have not replied yet to his last message i was hoping for advise first.

ang
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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:38:39 AM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Giving in once will only make him want to keep pushing.

Simply refuse to reply to him ever again. You need to take the levers away and break them over his head.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:40:15 AM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		You can go to law enforcement for anyone posting your pics without your consent. Plus, what he is doing is blackmail. Go to the police. You said you did something to appease him? Why? What? I hope it wasn't something that will hurt you in the long run.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:42:47 AM   
neveralone


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Status: offline 		he wants me to strip and things on cam, something that when trust is built i dont mind but i just dont like or trust this guy. he is a member of CM so other girls may end up in the same situation

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:43:13 AM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Good advice above as well-and dump your old account so he won't be able to harass you until it's over with.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:43:46 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope  to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo
 
anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense.
 
and next time, grow up and use your head.

edited for typo due to long nails, smiles

< Message edited by LadyHathor -- 1/20/2008 6:45:18 AM >

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:44:34 AM   
Leatherist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: neveralone

he wants me to strip and things on cam, something that when trust is built i dont mind but i just dont like or trust this guy. he is a member of CM so other girls may end up in the same situation


Report him to site moderation, they can block members by isp log ins, and stop the games.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:45:43 AM   
neveralone


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Status: offline 		LadyHathor

i accept i was stupid

by posting here i was hoping to learn my rights as i have done not be ridiculed for a mistake

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:46:14 AM   
Leatherist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope  to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo
 
anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense.
 
and next time, grow up and use your head.

edited for typo due to long nails, smiles


She made a mistake, let's try something constructive instead of just beating her up over it.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:46:56 AM   
ToTheExtreme


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Status: offline 		Sounds like just an HNG to me, but possibly a dangerous one. At the very least I would report his chat and the obvious attempt at blackmail to MSN. I am certain it violates there Terms Of Service.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:47:39 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Take back your power. Tell the scumbag to do whatever he thinks he needs to do. It only shows how NOT dominant he is. Just a weak little weasel. God, if that is the only way a guy can get someone to submit to them.........pathetic.

Whatever repercussions there are from his actions they will be less so if you give him permission to proceed and remove the permission of his pathetic brand of dominance. Face it, there is no photo he can possibly have that is worse than some of the photos all over the net of our youg celebretards. Whatever they are you certainly can explain to anyone that would ask. He will have a much more difficult time explaining his behaviour and the need to abuse the trust you gave him.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:48:16 AM   
neveralone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope  to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo
 
anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense.
 
and next time, grow up and use your head.

edited for typo due to long nails, smiles


She made a mistake, let's try something constructive instead of just beating her up over it.


thankyou

can i actually report to this site as it happened on msn? this is what i was thinking then became unsure

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:48:46 AM   
KaylinSilverfurr


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Status: offline 		Seriously?

If it's not something you consented to, tell him to bugger off. If he -does- post your pictures, you have every right to track the guy down and file for harassment.
Save your chat logs, back them up to your computer or save them from here.
Block him again and don't talk to him. You've said no, you've explained yourself, that's all there is to it. In fact, message him again and flat out TELL him you are no longer interested in speaking to him, and if he does contact you again in any way, under any name, that you will go to the police.

As an aside, nude photos are nothing to be ashamed of. Espcially in comparison to having gone through childbirth.

After that, I suggests altering your profile a tad to reflect you've had some online experience, but do not prefer it over RL experience. If you're not that keen on the Ds online aspect, you should say that. Your profile suggests the opposite.

~Kaylin

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:50:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: neveralone


He then threatened to post my pics i sent him (nudes included) all over the internet and to people and Doms to make me unable to find anyone new. i got scared and did as he asked me. then purposly didnt speak to him when he spoke, he just added other email addresses and posed as someone else before telling me who he was.



1- I sincerely hope you learned to NOT give out nude pics .........

2- Don't give in, IMO. You never give in to a bully......

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:51:04 AM   
Leatherist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: neveralone

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope  to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo
 
anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense.
 
and next time, grow up and use your head.

edited for typo due to long nails, smiles


She made a mistake, let's try something constructive instead of just beating her up over it.


thankyou

can i actually report to this site as it happened on msn? this is what i was thinking then became unsure


If you can get the cooperation of msn to prove who the person behind the nick actually is, and his hostmask-you bet you can.

Honey you get the REAL name and billing address of this jerkwad-and all KINDS of legal nastiness can happen to him.

People on here should remeber that as long as they PAY a provider-they CAN be tracked down for pulling bullshit like this-they are NOT anaymous,and free to behave any old way they want to.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:51:27 AM   
SassySarijane


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Status: offline 		Block him, report the threats/blackmail to law enforcement and move on. Learn from this and don't send nude shots or do things to appease strangers. Value yourself and find those that value you. You can just never contact him again or you can contact him one last time to tell him you've reported him to law enforcement, shown them the convo logs and his isp and you're through and then block him and even change your messenger id and email and only give it to the contacts you want to keep.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:54:04 AM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		Sassy, I disagree with some of what you suggest. She should contact law enforcement first and let them tell her what to do for obvious reasons. He could get years in the big house for this.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:55:51 AM   
Likes2Spank


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Status: offline 		I can only say if you are going to send nude pics.. then be prepared for the worst. send nice pics. Let them wait to see you in person to see your body

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:57:38 AM   
neveralone


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Status: offline 		ok i edited the bit on my profil which i understand could have been misleading . my own fault there. i have said no to him and said i shall not be contacting him any further. i have saved the log and am looking now how to contact msn and i am contacting CM now as well.

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/20/2008 6:58:48 AM   
neveralone


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Status: offline 		oh and i will never be sending pics again, i dont know what i did it for it was one of my most stupid moves ever

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