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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 3:15:25 PM   
fullofgrace69


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just report him, someone from another site, got my number of a so called friend and posted it on here i spent a weekend fielding calls from all over the world (it was rather amusing actually me and another subbie friend got to freak out a fair few Doms) but i reported him to the police, got a crime number n confronted him with it, he backed down totally, he deleated the account and apologised and we've since worked through it. but bullies tend to back down if they are confronted with real threats....go to the police, or at the -very- least report him to cm an msn....good luck x

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 3:27:58 PM   
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The best way to combat this is not to care what he does. It's a bit of mental judo. If he threatens to post pictures of you on the internet. Say fine... Then all the real men will know how hot I am and hopefully I will meet one that will kick the shit out of you for trying to threaten me. People use fear to control others. As long as you aren't afraid then they can't harm you. 

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 6:41:36 PM   
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quote:

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And in the future, please remember that anything put on the internet is public forever. You post a nude pic and your grandchildren  could come across it. Remember that.


eeeeeewwwww!

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 8:56:34 PM   
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To the OP..the more power you give this douche, the more he will take...NEVER give into the demands of any form of blackmail...I had something similar happen to me in the past..He threatened, and I said "do as you will,it matters not" because frankly it did not..I was more willing to deal with whatever fallout may occur than to put up with that individual ever again....There was nothing and is nothing more he can do or say..because I simply did not care..Tempting

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 9:10:26 PM   
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trust in what they say.  They are giving you good info.  Definetly do not back down.  Also, if you report it to the police, don't be disapointed if they can't prosecute ::cough::  I heard they have more cases then they can handle.

Nothing is worse then allowing a jerk to have power over you.  In the end, they really only have the power you give them.  Like LaT says, take back your power.

quote:

Folks, this is blackmail, a major crime, pure and simple


So.  I actually have proof of blackmail.  Think the police are doing anything about it?  LOL

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 9:24:16 PM   
Aslanemperor


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ORIGINAL: neveralone

ok i dont know where to post this but i will post here.

basically i started chatting to a Dom from here on msn. i decided i didnt really want the distance of the relationship and im not one for online D/s i just get nothing from it and feel stupid really... that is just me and my opinion im not knocking anyone elses view. so i said that to this Dom after we chatted for a while before anything was commited thinking that was the right thing to do.

He then threatened to post my pics i sent him (nudes included) all over the internet and to people and Doms to make me unable to find anyone new. i got scared and did as he asked me. then purposly didnt speak to him when he spoke, he just added other email addresses and posed as someone else before telling me who he was.

this is the latest msn log...i am "a" he is "P"



u know what ur choices are
and u know the consequences

a

there is no choice if i dont do what you say you will post my pics, your a dick if we are honest

P

and your a tease

a

im not
im not confident enough to be a tease

P

so whats it gonna be

a

you made that choise

P

no i havent
you need to make it

a

i liked you but your too full on and that scares me

P

its only because your shy about your body

a

i am yes and your not going to be able to change that

P

myabe
maybe not
so ill ask again
whats it going to be

 
a

i liked you but your too full on and that scares me

P

and you already said that

a

thats all there is to say

P

are you going to do it or not

a

do what

P

what i want

a
no
P

so u know whats gonna happen

a

oh well

P

ud rather have that than be with someone who likes you

a

i have no choice,

P

yes u do

a

how so, if i say i dont want to be with you, you post my pics online, if i go with you which i dont want to things will fall apart in time and you will post my pics...i cant win i dont like you
 
P

if you were with me i wouldnt post anything

a

there that prooves my point

P

ok so ill make you a deal

a

which is

P

you give yourself to me for one day, and serve me however i want, and then we part ways
ill leave u alone if thats what u want



i have not replied yet to his last message i was hoping for advise first.

ang

Wow...  What a jackass...  Ok, I saw others post about this, but I'm going to reitterate.  Firstly, what he's doing is blackmail, and it's against the law.  Actually, last I checked it's a federal offense, especially when done over the internet since it crosses state bounderies.  Also, posting your pictures without your consent is against the law.  Look at the Paris Hilton scandle.  Alot of porn sites got sued for that.
Finally, if he does post your pics, it would suck, but it's better then giving him more amunition.  What if he films this strip session he wants you to do.  Then he has even more leverage to blackmail you with, and whose to say he's not already spreading the pics.  If I where you I would just get the cops involved and put this bastard away.  He gives good Doms a bad name and should die a horrible death of some unimmaginable STD delivered by a huge gay prison inmate named Sparkles as he makes him his bitch for the remainder of his dwindling life...
Thats just my oppinion though...

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/21/2008 10:04:50 PM   
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Okay, just going to say this short and sweet...........i think we met up with the same "wannabe"...........it is almost identical, although we had talked for a little while..........................ignore him, he will get tired and go away..............you are just feeding his fire by talking with him.

addi

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/22/2008 5:59:59 PM   
neveralone


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just catching up on this, thankyou all. so far i have heard nothing and seen nothing from him and yes like some peole have said, just dont care i am getting to that point, if it happens it happens.

again thankyou all for caring so much

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/22/2008 6:43:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: neveralone

just catching up on this, thankyou all. so far i have heard nothing and seen nothing from him and yes like some peole have said, just dont care i am getting to that point, if it happens it happens.

again thankyou all for caring so much


That's great news!  Good for you.

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RE: being pushed into things i don't want...help - 1/22/2008 7:32:01 PM   
Owned1


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You have learned from your mistake, we are only stupid if we make the same mistake twice.

One thing to think of is anyone who has a pic on-line or in any format for that matter could have it edited, photo shopped or whatever system is out there and have nude pics posted with their head.

I would only hope if that happens to me I get to choose who's body I am attached to.

As others have said-Never give into a bully ---that is what he is He is NOT a Dom he is simply a troll/wannabe/perv/nasty idiot.

Move on learn and enjoy life.  Don't dwell on the past

owned

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/27/2008 5:44:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: neveralone

ok i dont know where to post this but i will post here.

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He then threatened to post my pics i sent him (nudes included) all over the internet and to people and Doms to make me unable to find anyone new. i got scared and did as he asked me. then purposly didnt speak to him when he spoke, he just added other email addresses and posed as someone else before telling me who he was.

ang


You do have recourse not only on CM and MSN but also by law.
1. Report him to CM and any and all alias's you know of. Include a copy of his threats.
2. Report him to MSN as above. This is also a violation of their TOS
3. Inform him that he does not have a models release from you and since that is the case, IF he posts the pictures anywhere and it affects you (livelihood, residence, etc.) and even if it does not, he is liable under the laws of your state and possibly his for monetary damages to the limit that each state allows (which ever is greater) and possible criminal prosecution dependant upon the laws of either state.
4. Remember, people can be very vengeful, even if you do know them personally. Ex-boyfriends, Masters, Husbands etc, can when they become ex's do the same thing. Be very careful deciding who has nudes of you or even sees you dishable' on a web cam. Pictures can be captured that way as well.

poenkitten

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/27/2008 6:31:22 PM   
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I just learned that my pics are floating around the INTERNET under different claims of ownership,so from now on my pics will be embedded so they can't be copy,this ol' ugly mug who would want to claim ownership besides my self..to the op..Go the the police and if nothing else perhaps they can be present in the room while hes making theses threats..caught red handed works real well..bounty

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RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help - 1/28/2008 8:44:04 AM   
BikerDom4


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The giving of pictures in itself was not wrong , you were just wrong to trust him, he is obviously a juvenile and will use any means he sees fit to get you to do what he wants... Ignore him and be carefull who you trust in future....Tak care be safe an be true to yourself...

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