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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask
Since this isn't something you find on the "Mistress" board, I came to ask My question here.  Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves?  Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave?

Seems to Me, in this type of situation, the word Master or Dom is being thrown around a little too casually.

Opinions?  Thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Okay, I checked google, I checked yahooanswers, I even checked mapquest.

Someone, puhleeeeeese tell me where Subs-4-U is located?  I mean seriously, this WAS a shopping assignment right? Because it's that easy, right??

Cali

GOOD ONE!LMAO!

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask

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ORIGINAL: SweetieSub37

This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me as i am about to get the silent treatment tonight from my Dom for not being able to complete an assignment.  it is similar to the OP's dillema - i was supposed to find someone for my Dom to chat with by 7:00 p.m. tonight or i would be ignored.  It's not like i haven't been trying...i've asked all my friends and tried to find nice people
online but to no avail. it's hard enough forging your own relationships without having to make a connection for someone else.

It made me feel better to read the replies in this thread anyway. I feel more confident about explaining my discomfort to my Dom and asking for him to
reconsider this assignment. 

Since this isn't something you find on the "Mistress" board, I came to ask My question here.  Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves?  Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave?

Seems to Me, in this type of situation, the word Master or Dom is being thrown around a little too casually.

Opinions?  Thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask

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ORIGINAL: SweetieSub37

This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me as i am about to get the silent treatment tonight from my Dom for not being able to complete an assignment.  it is similar to the OP's dillema - i was supposed to find someone for my Dom to chat with by 7:00 p.m. tonight or i would be ignored.  It's not like i haven't been trying...i've asked all my friends and tried to find nice people
online but to no avail. it's hard enough forging your own relationships without having to make a connection for someone else.

It made me feel better to read the replies in this thread anyway. I feel more confident about explaining my discomfort to my Dom and asking for him to
reconsider this assignment. 

Just to play advocate.... 
Say the task was given to get the girl more comfortable with the idea of having a third and to introduce the two first.
Or the idea is to find pleasure in having the girl complete a task that is uncomfortable for her, to make her squirm in anticipation of not being able to complete the task.
Not all exercises in mental submission/servitude are because the Dom(Master etc) is lazy.
Also we are unaware of their dynamic....
Remember what happens when we assume....

(in reply to LadyPact)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Thanks to those who answered.  Yes, the most ridiculous part of this was that, on the thread I pulled it from, not just one, but two seperate cases of subs who were going to be 'punished' for not finding a third.  While I understand that some subs might assist in the search for a third for a poly situation, I can't see it being  responsibility of someone besides the one who would wish to be the Dominant, and the one who was ultimately in charge of the dynamic.  Sure, it's fantastic that the potential sister sub would want to be involved, but it's really more important that the Dominant and the secondary sub match.

Edited because the whole 'punishment' for not finding a third is so far fetched to Me, I couldn't even type properly.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask

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ORIGINAL: SweetieSub37

This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me as i am about to get the silent treatment tonight from my Dom for not being able to complete an assignment.  it is similar to the OP's dillema - i was supposed to find someone for my Dom to chat with by 7:00 p.m. tonight or i would be ignored.  It's not like i haven't been trying...i've asked all my friends and tried to find nice people
online but to no avail. it's hard enough forging your own relationships without having to make a connection for someone else.

It made me feel better to read the replies in this thread anyway. I feel more confident about explaining my discomfort to my Dom and asking for him to
reconsider this assignment. 

Since this isn't something you find on the "Mistress" board, I came to ask My question here.  Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves?  Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave?

Seems to Me, in this type of situation, the word Master or Dom is being thrown around a little too casually.

Opinions?  Thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV


However, in  a poly situation where a Master and a girl are seeking to add another girl to the family, then no I think its perfectly fine for the sub/slave to look and make initial contact with another sub/slave. 

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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask

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ORIGINAL: SweetieSub37

This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me as i am about to get the silent treatment tonight from my Dom for not being able to complete an assignment.  it is similar to the OP's dillema - i was supposed to find someone for my Dom to chat with by 7:00 p.m. tonight or i would be ignored.  It's not like i haven't been trying...i've asked all my friends and tried to find nice people
online but to no avail. it's hard enough forging your own relationships without having to make a connection for someone else.

It made me feel better to read the replies in this thread anyway. I feel more confident about explaining my discomfort to my Dom and asking for him to
reconsider this assignment. 

Since this isn't something you find on the "Mistress" board, I came to ask My question here.  Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves?  Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave?

Seems to Me, in this type of situation, the word Master or Dom is being thrown around a little too casually.

Opinions?  Thoughts?

What the original Op of finding another girl for her dom to talk to by a certain time was point blank assinine to me...He set her up for failure and she did fail.
However, in  a poly situation where a Master and a girl are seeking to add another girl to the family, then no I think its perfectly fine for the sub/slave to look and make initial contact with another sub/slave.  Vanatru is completely capable of finding another girl for the family,  yet logic would dictate the two girls would have to find a common ground in order for the poly dynamic to work. For us, once I do make contact with a girl, Master and I both will set up a conferance chat and talk to her. It not only saves the perspective girl from having to type everything twice, but it also helps Master see where shes coming from and can get my imput on things as well should he require that.