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IrishMist -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 4:43:23 AM)
quote: I think if you used fiddlefuck in the sentence, it would have been more pc. Well shit...Is that where I went wrong? /makes note to include fiddlefuck in all sentences quote: Note to self...fiddlefuck is now key word for 'i want sexyred'. Noted. LMAO she is adorable*, isn't she?

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 4:50:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 You have watched Secretary too many times for your own good! Be glad when they bathe themselves! quote: luscious...i'm going to have to get a spit gaurd for my monitor before i read anymore of your replies hehe. Well, jeez, its true. I am happy i have a Sir that showers twice daily and puts on colongne (Aramis, yum). As oppsed to many guys who hygiene is questionable. quote: well i understand girl...and aramis is very yummy! you just have such a funny way of saying some things and i love it.... edited to add that i have no idea how to pick one quote from many...dumb blonde moment hehe Blondes..... They drive BMW's cause they can't spell Porche!!!![:D] lol....i'll take a BMW....why didnt' i realize i could spell that easier than Honda?! geez...next time i'm going to confer with you before i buy a car! Well, driving a Honda blows that myth. Youre smarter than most who are crying as they pump all those gallons.

kitten4 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 12:49:33 PM)
Thank you, Jayxkes, for not being ignorant and rude. I appreciate it.

trappedinamuseum -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 12:55:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Blondes..... They drive BMW's cause they can't spell Porche!!!![:D] Especially since it is spelled Porsche.....

camille65 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 1:17:42 PM)
I agree with whoever (sorry for lack of credit person-whoever) said that it sounds like you want to be a pet, there is nothing wrong with being a pet as long as that is established as the dynamic.However I don't think that is even close to being established if all he is doing is occasionally topping you instead of giving you structure. Being in a relationship and having an emotional need unmet hurts, it hurts you and eventually the other person.For myself, I will never ever again put myself in a place where I know I can't get my needs met in hopes that it 'might' change with enough work. Maybe that sounds selfish but I see it as taking care of myself. I stayed for 2 decades with a man and I just kept hoping, hoping he would really hear me. That he wouldn't brush off my words or look at me like I was a freak. Hoping for him to respond to me, let me be who I am. I needed structure and he had zero interest in any power exchange. I don't believe that someone can learn to love being in that balance. It boils down to what you need to feel fulfilled within yourself. Only then can you give back towards another fully.IMO.

CalifChick -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:00:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitten4 Thank you, Jayxkes, for not being ignorant and rude. I appreciate it. Nice passive-aggressive remark. If this is your normal style of communicating, then it is no wonder you are not getting what you want. By the way, if you are going to insinuate that the rest of us are rude and ignorant, you might want to look up the definition of ignorant. Ignorant means "a lack of learning or knowledge". So your understanding of the word ignorant would be... ignorant. We could argue the point on rude, because it can mean simply "offensive", although the common usage is "deliberately offensive." So we'll give you the point on that one for the simple meaning. Cali

Jeffff -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:05:06 PM)
For those of you keeping score at home that would be Irish 2 Cali 1 Kitten 0 Jeff

mnottertail -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:08:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Blondes..... They drive BMW's cause they can't spell Porche!!!![:D] Especially since it is spelled Porsche..... I would say this proves the rule. We have a tautology, folks. Wittgenstein

trappedinamuseum -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:09:12 PM)
Come on Jeff, its not even a real competition.... To keep score fairly, the opponents should be evenly matched....

Jeffff -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:11:42 PM)
I don't set the schedule. I just report the facts Edward R Murrow

laurell3 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:32:07 PM)
OP all snarkiness aside, you do understand this is a d/s m/s bdsm board right? Did you honestly believe coming here and saying I want what I want and he won't give it to me would lead to hand holding? Do what's right for you, but when you ask for advice, consider the audience before you take it personally. This isn't a therapy session, it's the internet.

CalifChick -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:34:57 PM)
Yeah, therapy costs $100 an hour on average. And that's not even a "real" hour... that's 50 minutes. I take paypal. Cali

Jeffff -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:37:18 PM)
Laurell, I think you should know. that while that was a very well thought out response, putting all snarkieness aside, cost you a point. Jeff

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:43:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Blondes..... They drive BMW's cause they can't spell Porche!!!![:D] Especially since it is spelled Porsche..... OOOps. My Bad!!!

DominaRapport -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:45:00 PM)
When someone figures out how to obtain that bathing and pampering thing hassel free, let me in on the secret. I have to twist arms to get that, and I'm suppose to be the one giving the orders!

LaTigresse -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:46:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitten4 I am a 24 year old submissive female. My boyfriend of almost two years is somewhat Dominant, but it's not enough. I've tried telling him, he doesn't listen. I love him dearly, but this is something that i realize i NEED, and it's not going away. He's 27, and he'll tie me up, flog me when i'm lucky, and spank me. We use blindfolds on occassion, we roleplay once in awhile, and sometimes he has me call him Sir, which i love. I just need more. I want to be collared, i want to be his. I want him to bathe me, pamper me, and prepare me for his use. Sorry to get all graphic, i just don't know many people that enjoy the things that i enjoy, and have no one to vent to. If any one can give me some advice on what to say or do so he GETS IT i would really appreciate it. Regards, Kitten Colour me confused. Sooo, you want a top that coddles you? Sounds more like a case of childish and petulant "I want" rather than need. edited to add.......Do you stomp your foot and pout when you don't get what you "need"?

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:46:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick Yeah, therapy costs $100 an hour on average. And that's not even a "real" hour... that's 50 minutes. I take paypal. Cali Can I hear you practice saying, "Hmmmm, thats very interesting" and "I see".....

laurell3 -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:47:41 PM)
Nah it's "and how did that make you feel?"

CalifChick -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:47:58 PM)
Sure luscious, call me. I mean that... call. Cali

Jeffff -> RE: Not getting what i need. (1/23/2008 2:48:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: kitten4 I am a 24 year old submissive female. My boyfriend of almost two years is somewhat Dominant, but it's not enough. I've tried telling him, he doesn't listen. I love him dearly, but this is something that i realize i NEED, and it's not going away. He's 27, and he'll tie me up, flog me when i'm lucky, and spank me. We use blindfolds on occassion, we roleplay once in awhile, and sometimes he has me call him Sir, which i love. I just need more. I want to be collared, i want to be his. I want him to bathe me, pamper me, and prepare me for his use. Sorry to get all graphic, i just don't know many people that enjoy the things that i enjoy, and have no one to vent to. If any one can give me some advice on what to say or do so he GETS IT i would really appreciate it. Regards, Kitten Colour me confused. Sooo, you want a top that coddles you? Sounds more like a case of childish and petulant "I want" rather than need. You are not getting it............sighs...... Jeff

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