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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 11:39:38 AM   
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hello MistressofGa
 
   I really like this topic..and am reading the thread with interest because I am also looking for different forms of release.
 
  ok...laugh is you must but...
   one that really helps me right now with pent up stuff and general mood stabilizing is dancing like crazy...
  most of the time its even alone.   I put on some motivating tunes ( loudly) and dance like crazy...
 
   think>  scene from the movie " the breakfast club".
 
well music has always had a way of effecting me emotionally anyway....so I guess this is no big stretch a little further..
 
  It even helps me in the mornings, while driving to work, to play certain songs for myself and put me in the right brain space and uplift my spirit to start the day on a positive upbeat mood...  I can, personally, tell the difference when I don't play that Cd ( self created with songs I have picked out ) and play something softer or melancholy...or worse> listen to the news radio on the way to work...ack.
 
  Food abuse is no longer an option I want in my life....and masturbation is not always an option for me.....and Tysons whip isn't 3000 miles long, unfortunately.
 
...so I dance my ass off !! 
 


I think that music is the universal language and so dancing to it must be the universal physical language. I happen to be a big fan of the "BratPack" and have watched them grow up. Breakfast Club is one of my favorites of theirs, especially the dance scene. I remember thinking that what they were doing was very healthy and it releaved their bordom and their pent up energy. DANCE! I love to dance.
I am glad that you are enjoying this thread. I have rather enjoyed it myself as I am also learning other ways to release some pent up anger and stress.

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 11:43:31 AM   
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Personally, I have yet to find a way to obtain release. Was reading all the responses hoping to find a good one. I like Justme's idea.

Bamslilgirl,
IMO, I think it is important to find a way to release what is inside of you. Have you asked your Master for ideas? I suppose it is what he would like to see you do that is important, whether it be riding a bike or dancing or masturbation..but I would encourage you to ask permission to do any of these things so that you can quiet the storms that may pass through you. Good luck, I hope it goes well.

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 12:03:37 PM   
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One of my main releases, if you can't guess is photography.
I love to watch get the angle on the shot, 
and take the picture.
I love to edit.
I love other peoples reactions.

Respectfully, LTP


LTP, this is an example how it doesn't take hard physical labor to release what is pent up inside of you. I am a photographer myself, but do not find it much of a release from stress. It does calm me, but I still feel the need to assert my energy elsewhere. Thank you for responding, I am glad that you have an outlet :)

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 12:18:04 PM   
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Reading has always been my biggest outlet release.  Next to that writing.  I have journals off and online out the ying yang, forums that I have gone to, to work out the diffculties in my life.... music has always been good....playing a rpg game helps at times.... driving has always been a wonderful release.  The freedom on the road.. the opportunities of where to go next.. and sometimes just racing down a highway.. its such a rush.  Unfortunetly a rush that my adult brain can't enjoy anymore.  I've always wished I could race on Nascar!!  As a teenager I thought nothing of reckless driving, but as an adult its absolutely impossible to allow myself the pleasure.  Maybe one day I will drive cross country, finding a road no one uses anymore and just flyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.  TV lately has been a great outlet for me.  I used to hate watching it........  Cleaning is also a great outlet, especially when I'm mad!  ha  Running is a great outlet that my broken body barely lets me do anymore.  We have a huge trampoline and that is also helpful.  I used to go the YMCA and do aerobic classes and work out until I could barely walk.  God love those aerobic instructers that kept pushed you, making you want to push yourself.  Making it very easy to overdo it.  Nothing like a "good" sore.  Being so tired and whipped that you can barely walk and knowing you just did something awesome for your body!

You just ran the spectrum of releases for stress and tension here lol It sounds like you were once very active and as age crept up to you, you had to slow down. That is exactly how I am. I used to love to run, I just can't do it anymore. I love tennis and anything that involves the outdoors. Reading never released me..as I couldn't still long enough to put my self in that reading mode.

I suppose I should explain why I started this thread. I lost my vision last year and have had to re-learn everything I knew about living my life. I am going to school to learn the basic living skills, but I am very afraid of not being able to enjoy my lifestyle as I once did. A simple think like getting on line to the forums turned into a huge deal as I couldn't read the screen. I have a program now called JAWS that actually reads the page on the screen to me (What a gift!) so I am able to be here with y'all <s>

But I wonder now about how to find release for my desires as a dominant woman. I want to play, but am scared to death of it. I am frightened that I will run into the wrong type of person. I am not living my life around those needs as I have much bigger things to worry about right now, but it doesn't stop me from yearning to exercise my skills as a Dominant. <sigh>

Some of you, *IrishMist* seemed to have written exactly how I am feeling now. I have extreme physical pain and it is so hard to think about giving it, when I can empathize with my sub on how it feels. Before I didn't worry about it, because it was something that he wanted and longed for. But now, I know how it feels to be hurting like that, well maybe this is the wrong mindset, as I know that his physical release from receiving pain is nothing like the pain that I am enduring. Sheesh I feel like I opened my heart and let all of you in. Thank you for reading and I hope that others will share.
LA: I love the whole cuddling and touching release, as it is a closeness that I miss so dearly right now. You always have the right words. Thank you.

PanthersMom: I love the idea of "Taking a mental health hour" it is perfect!
 
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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 12:40:18 PM   
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"Don't Mistake The Thorn On A Rose As A Bad Thing. Without The Thorn, There Would Be No Pain. Without Pain, There Would Be No Release."
 
I wrote this on my 360 blast. What other types of experiences would cause a release for you? It does not have to be sexual in nature, but interested about how many use sex as their only form of release?
 
 


MoGa, what a timely thread and one I do not have the slightest answer for. Why? Because at the moment  and for a long while I have been under tremendous stress and pain. I have not been able to find any single outlet that I used to use to release any of it.

The saddest part of it is that all of this has taken the joy out of the activities that I once loved. I think when you have stress and pain (the bad kind, emotional) for too long, you go into a protective mode where your mind just goes NUMB to all stimulus.

So nothing feels as intense, the pain, or the pleasure, It all just feels sort of numb. You can still be highly functioning as a person, but you don't feel the intensity that you used to feel in either a negative or positive way.

That is the worst part of it, for me, since I am, or was a very intense person.

Interestingly, the only thing that seems to cheer me up sometimes, is the forum, how weird is that?


Sexyred,
I said in my last post I said that IrishMist seems to have written my story, what I meant to write is that YOU have done it lol I confused the two <sorry!>  :)

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 12:52:21 PM   
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Martial arts - particularly the traditional kind, where balance, harmony, meditation, and harmonizing of one's chi are of primary importance.  Strengthening and rebalancing myself from the inside out is an incredible way to release stress.

Snuggling works wonders too, and I found that getting a dog was an amazing thing.  I got a rescue dog, and he needs to be walked a LOT - walking him and talking to him, and then spending time grooming him (he has a long coat) each day really bring down the blood pressure, giving me lots of time to decompress.



Dari, thank you for posting. My goal by the end of the year is to get a guide dog. I am looking forward to having more freedom. I am getting ready to go through Mobility classes and am apprehensive about it.
Are you in a search and rescue program?

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 2:59:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		[I suppose I should explain why I started this thread. I lost my vision last year and have had to re-learn everything I knew about living my life. I am going to school to learn the basic living skills, but I am very afraid of not being able to enjoy my lifestyle as I once did. A simple think like getting on line to the forums turned into a huge deal as I couldn't read the screen. I have a program now called JAWS that actually reads the page on the screen to me (What a gift!) so I am able to be here with y'all <s>

But I wonder now about how to find release for my desires as a dominant woman. I want to play, but am scared to death of it. I am frightened that I will run into the wrong type of person. I am not living my life around those needs as I have much bigger things to worry about right now, but it doesn't stop me from yearning to exercise my skills as a Dominant. <sigh> ]
 
    Thank you for sharing that MoGa..  and kudos to you for not letting it stop you from living your life to the fullest... desire is there : )  that's a good portion of a huge the challenge already met.
  Speaking as someone who dealt with a life-altering physical challenge for the last several decades, I can tell you it is possible...anything is possible and I am proof of that.   "it" being =having a fulfilling relationship within the lifestyle while dealing with the physical challenges like you have been handed.
 
  JAWs  what a blessing ! 
 
  I also understand your hesitation to meet new people and the concern that they will be hurtful or take advantage of you. 
  I also know friendships can get us through the toughest of times.  Please know there are people out there/here reading and listening that can and will support you in friendship, myself included.
 
  I am a relocated Arizona native who is trying to make her way back from Ga to Az asap.. but lived all but the last several years of my 50 yrs living in Az.
 
  My 21 yr old daughter was stuggling with emotions the other day  wondering how to meet " the one" for her.  I told her  that its seems elusive when we chase it.....live your life to the fullest and put yourself in surroundings that make you happy and finding what you are looking for will find you.
  I do beleive that. 
 
anyway
  thanks again for sharing that very private part of your story ..it touched me and I just had to respond.
 
Sincerely and always open to mail...
Cyndi
 




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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 3:00:26 PM   
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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 3:04:45 PM   
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 I am a relocated Arizona native who is trying to make her way back from Ga to Az asap.. but lived all but the last several years of my 50 yrs living in Az.

How funny! I am a relocated Georgian to Phoenix, and I was trying to get back home. Small world.
 
Cyndi, thank you so much for responding..I thought I had killed the thread


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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:01:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		well i like to read, watch movies and play games on the computor but those act as distractions not release.
i guess i don't have much in the way of release. Wonder if that's why i have constant neck and back pain?

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
Thank you for clearing that up liljoy. I have to ask though, if these things don't help you release, what do you find helpful? Besides singing to people who will be in pain from your singing?

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:07:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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 I am a relocated Arizona native who is trying to make her way back from Ga to Az asap.. but lived all but the last several years of my 50 yrs living in Az.

How funny! I am a relocated Georgian to Phoenix, and I was trying to get back home. Small world.
 
Cyndi, thank you so much for responding..I thought I had killed the thread



Wouldn't you know I'm in GA now, though I've never been to AZ. Maybe GA is a secretly kinky state?

On topic: I don't usually feel stress, I just see the symptoms. Like I'll go days without eating by just not ever feeling hungry, I'll lose weight and feel lethargic but I don't feel consciously stressed about anything. So as far as releases go I don't really have one.

-Brian.

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:08:22 PM   
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well i like to read, watch movies and play games on the computor but those act as distractions not release.
i guess i don't have much in the way of release. Wonder if that's why i have constant neck and back pain?

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
Thank you for clearing that up liljoy. I have to ask though, if these things don't help you release, what do you find helpful? Besides singing to people who will be in pain from your singing?



I have heard that body aches and pains without any physical workouts are due to stress. I know that when I am most likely to get a lupus flair is when I am stressed. So, yes I think that the pain in your neck and back is from stress.

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:13:06 PM   
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Wouldn't you know I'm in GA now, though I've never been to AZ. Maybe GA is a secretly kinky state

Brian,
Yes it is <s> But I don't think it is a big secret. The kinkiest people I know live there and in NC <g>

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:24:39 PM   
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Wouldn't you know I'm in GA now, though I've never been to AZ. Maybe GA is a secretly kinky state

Brian,
Yes it is <s> But I don't think it is a big secret. The kinkiest people I know live there and in NC <g>


Oh really? Neat fact XD. I just moved here, I thought the south was uptight. Maybe I should get out more often, haha.

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:32:15 PM   
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Wouldn't you know I'm in GA now, though I've never been to AZ. Maybe GA is a secretly kinky state

Brian,
Yes it is <s> But I don't think it is a big secret. The kinkiest people I know live there and in NC <g>


Oh really? Neat fact XD. I just moved here, I thought the south was uptight. Maybe I should get out more often, haha.


The south uptight? OMG! lol They are the most layed back folks you could ever want to meet. I just moved from the Savannah area. I know you and your Master are going to enjoy it there. I did :)
For what it's worth, I think that people are about as uptight as you are around them. If you are uncomfortable they can sense it, and they automatically go on the defensive. Of course that is not everyone, so no blanket comment here, just those that I have dealt with

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:39:55 PM   
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1. Saddling up my horse and taking off into the woods.
2. Saddling up my other horse and doing some musical dressage
3. Motorcycle ride in a thunderstorm
4. Sailing (although first wife got my boat)
5. Building something
6. Hauling hay
OK  you get the picture

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 5:42:29 PM   
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Besides sex and spanking a cute butt:
1. Saddling up my horse and taking off into the woods.
2. Saddling up my other horse and doing some musical dressage
3. Motorcycle ride in a thunderstorm
4. Sailing (although first wife got my boat)
5. Building something
6. Hauling hay
OK  you get the picture


Show off! lol I want to ride in the boat your first wife got! But I don't want her on it lol
Thanks for responding MMC, all of the choices are excellent ones :)

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 9:02:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP:  The most recent group used what's called "the rocks process".  Although I understand I only took part in what was an initial phase of the process, I found it rewarding.  Other groups have used basic trust exercises, communication/interaction drills to stimulate ... response.

I understand many people do masturbate for release - doesn't work for me - so I avoid it.  I do love the punching bag (wear gloves!).

The most basic form of release many psychologists employ is a primal scream.  Very satisfying, and so portable!

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RE: Releases - 1/27/2008 10:34:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hope this isnt a hijack....and I also hope this doesnt sound stupid....but is it possible to not have a release?....or to not know what yours is?.... I get upset sure...I even get much more then that....When I do I usually just swallow hard, and keep breathing...Sometimes I'll cry....meaning tears just explode out of my eyes, then I get my shit together and carry on.... 

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RE: Releases - 1/28/2008 12:29:27 AM   
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Well all the participants mentioned different forms of release. I think some of the more interestings are the next:

To write. Yes it works, specially when yo do it in an automatic way. Do not think what are you writing, just write as the ideas flows in your mind and heart about something. Some psychologists recommend to tear up the paper when you write something about a remember than hurts you, is a way to say "it's over, you are no more powerfull than me. I confront you and I broke you", and repeatit if is neccesary. Of course if you write something good for you or something than makes you feel in peace then keep it save. As everything in the life take the good.

Making a relation with some BDSM practices, some Dominants command to the submissives to write a diary, that can be a release for the mind and the feelings of the sub.

Other suggestion is the physicall excersice. It works too for the anxiety and the stress. When you are doing some athletic activity you feel strong and fine, you feel alive, and when you finish just take a deep breathe and really feels as a cold water bath, is a relaxing experience, just as the finish of a good sex sessíon.

Talking about sex, yes, is a great way to release stress and share a great time with your partner. Who don't like it?. But in my case for example, is hard to concentrate if you have big issues, but I can handle it, the important thing is not to destroy the moment and talk with your partner a little about it always help.

The other interesting suggestion is the pain play in a BDSM relationship, to share the pain in this way is a release for the both. The Dominant can relax the mind enjoy the pain of the submissive while the stress travels from the arm to the whip tip, and the sound... is like music. The submissive enjoy the pain of course and begins to get into the subspace, there is where the release experience is powerfull for the submissive, may be that's the submissive / slave release.

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