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Other groups have used basic trust exercises, communication/interaction drills to stimulate ... response

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The other interesting suggestion is the pain play in a BDSM relationship, to share the pain in this way is a release for the both. The Dominant can relax the mind enjoy the pain of the submissive while the stress travels from the arm to the whip tip, and the sound... is like music. The submissive enjoy the pain of course and begins to get into the subspace, there is where the release experience is powerfull for the submissive, may be that's the submissive / slave release.

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Hi,
I find neither sex nor pain to be a form of release at all. my primary form used to be walking and talking to, loving, and taking care of my dogs (who were all rescue dogs as well, not that they do rescue -- i rescued them from animal shelters and death), but now that they are gone ... it's harder. When i lived on the edge of the ocean, it used to be walking in the fog on the empty beach, losing myself in listening to the sound of the waves, the birds, the sandpipers gulls and pelicans .. oh i miss that! now, i rely on playing my bass when really upset, walking and trotting outside, but where i am now it is hard to really get away to find silence and communion with nature away from all humans -- which is the source of my deepest release. I have found it sometimes riding with my Master, him in total control, me just enjoying the ride, looking up at the sky, all thoughts just let go. Maybe i have a different definition of release, who knows, lol!

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ORIGINAL: liljoy

i used to love to dance! Once upon a time i used to dance around the house often.
my ex hubby wasn't much of a dancer so when we went out i thought nothing about getting on the floor by myself and dancing. Unfortunatly he would usually get mad at me because someone would usually come up and dance with me.

Somewhere along the way i lost my dance. i can't remember the last time i danced around the house. i think i'll give it another try today and see if i can find my dance again

Interesting that you say "somewhere along the way I lost my dance" because it sounds like you became unhappy. I have heard it say that the easiest way to tell if someone is happy is to listen to them whistle or watch them dance or sing. People do these things naturally when they are happy. They don't think anything of it. Here's to you finding your dance today :)

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ORIGINAL: liljoy

i used to love to dance! Once upon a time i used to dance around the house often.
my ex hubby wasn't much of a dancer so when we went out i thought nothing about getting on the floor by myself and dancing. Unfortunatly he would usually get mad at me because someone would usually come up and dance with me.

Somewhere along the way i lost my dance. i can't remember the last time i danced around the house. i think i'll give it another try today and see if i can find my dance again

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
liljoy,
Interesting that you say "somewhere along the way I lost my dance" because it sounds like you became unhappy. I have heard it say that the easiest way to tell if someone is happy is to listen to them whistle or watch them dance or sing. People do these things naturally when they are happy. They don't think anything of it. Here's to you finding your dance today :)

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
liljoy,
Interesting that you say "somewhere along the way I lost my dance" because it sounds like you became unhappy. I have heard it say that the easiest way to tell if someone is happy is to listen to them whistle or watch them dance or sing. People do these things naturally when they are happy. They don't think anything of it. Here's to you finding your dance today :)

i FOUND my dance!! It was waay rusty and i'm very sure i looked goofy as all get out but it was FUN! my cat kept looking at me like i was nuts so of course i picked him up and danced with him. i don't think it was as fun for me as it was for him but he is a very sweet and loving guy so he let me dance with him.

my exhubby took the fun out of dance for me but he's been gone along time so i decided it was time for me to find my dance again and the fun that it used to be. It worked. Thanks so much all of you for reminding me about dance

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ORIGINAL: kimba1

oh my! that rang a chord with me! I used to completely give myself over to dance, i NEEDED to dance. Now, i live somewhere that does not have good dance places, but that is no excuse, is it. You are right, dancing in the house! yes!!!

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

 I am proud of you! Never allow someone to take away the very part of you that makes you happy. Dance liljoy dance!!

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ORIGINAL: liljoy

i used to love to dance! Once upon a time i used to dance around the house often.
my ex hubby wasn't much of a dancer so when we went out i thought nothing about getting on the floor by myself and dancing. Unfortunatly he would usually get mad at me because someone would usually come up and dance with me.

Somewhere along the way i lost my dance. i can't remember the last time i danced around the house. i think i'll give it another try today and see if i can find my dance again

oh my! that rang a chord with me! I used to completely give myself over to dance, i NEEDED to dance. Now, i live somewhere that does not have good dance places, but that is no excuse, is it. You are right, dancing in the house! yes!!!

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ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Solving a problem.

I am designated as the person to solve problems that nobody else can solve. That is my curse.

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sometimes the pain in the soul runs from the pores when you work your body really hard....that is true for me.

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ORIGINAL: LordMarkus

To talk about a fear is a good release form. It depends on who ear you and is important too but to talk it is the real point, even to your self.
To leave run the tears if is neccesary is a big release experience. I don't believe in the "males don't cry" thing because the guys who say this normally cry when are drunked or when their psychological defenses are down for other reason, but when someone cry with consciousness about why is crying then it becomes in a strong release experience.
Other release experiences for stress or for a mind or ideas or inspiration blockade comes with good music. To sing in high voice no matter who ear you or just let fly the imagination with powerfull and epic music, or even to find in the music the correct words for express an idea or celebrate something as a succes ia a release experience too.
After all as Beethoven says: The music is the firestone than makes grow the human fire

Lord Markus

Hi Lord Markus, thank you and welcome to the forums.
I was going to mention singing, as it is a major release for me. I love to sing and I do it every chance I get. Crying..Sheesh, don't even get me started on the "real men don't cry" argument. I agree with you on this, to see a grown man cry while he is drunk is one the saddest things, especially if it is coming from the same  "real men don't cry" camp. I should hope that parents are moving away from that horrid brain washing trend that so many people my age fell victim to. Real men DO cry and I don't care who agrees with me on this.
I used to exercise when I was angry. I would run around the block til I couldn't take another step. I suppose it was better than hitting the wall (How many times do we hear men say this?)

1. Pain takes the stress right out of me
   
2. Writing releases me when I am scattered and full of ideas
   
3. Singing when joy fills my heart
   
4. Dungeons and Dragons Online or any killing video game when I just need to kill something (usually after dealing with Ex Hubby, Health Insurance Companies or other persons (customers who can't make up their minds) intent on making your life miserable and complicated.