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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Someone needs to pour a bucket of water on you guys. I'm chokin from the smoke . Its a regular Bonfire!

I'm sure there's an insult in there somewhere but I must say I don't get it.  Is that special auxilary club speak?

luci

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  Speaking as one of the single women here.
It does NOT bother me, when people gush on and on about
their relationships.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
this was in response to those who want to fight and cause trouble even though this is not what this was about.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

uhmm...ffs means for ****'s sake
not sure what wot means
or what the he** is going on here.

And what does that have to do with the thread?

~Christina

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   apologies to you. The thread had been hijaked to flamesomeone. I tend to want to stick up for people when some act holier than thou while pointing fingers. I will stick to the subject.

I was not calling anyone thats uncollared a had. I was referring to words in a posters post. 

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
this was in response to those who want to fight and cause trouble even though this is not what this was about.

Damn right.  Christina, I'm sure you remember you and I disagreed on a thread a few weeks ago.  So I wanted to tell you publicly that I really respect the fact that you've built a relationship that contains both BDSM and love.  I've never had the two together at the same time, and it's one of my main life goals.

To anyone who sees the need to make a thread like this all about them, or to view every comment as a reason to start a fight -- it's no surprise to me if you're in a loveless relationship, or alone.  Please try to learn from people who are successful.  That's certainly what I do.

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ORIGINAL: themischievous1

I met my significant other nearly two years ago now. We met on another alternative personals site and he relocated to me a few months after meeting. For the first year we broke up approximately 75 times. lol. Power exchange? What a joke.

Seeing as how I was smack dab in the middle of roaring peri-menopause and he was (and still is :) undergoing his own "mid-life crisises" we had serious challenges to overcome besides attempting a D/s dynamic.

Then I discovered that there was a lot more to me than I had formerly considered and realized I was sick of the label thing; that honestly speaking I was really more comfortable being labeled switch than expected to conform to the stereotypical image of "submissive." That image will never fit me so I changed my label and this wasn't the first batch of changes that had to be made.

I'm still with my Daddy, my Love, my heart.. but we've been through one rough ride to get to where we are today and it probably aint over yet.

We bicker back and forth and make up and make love and make war and have fun and just wake up and get through it some days. I guess the main thing is though, that we're still here -- yes, we're still together.

I don't know what our dynamic is these days -grin- but he does spank me whether I like it or not when he feels in the mood to do so. I bitch and he keeps on spanking. The D/s is not so obvious, it's far more subtle between us but it's still there. Things have deteriorated significantly into vanilla, but we don't mind really. We have a lot of responsibilities and are pursuing careers, running a home business, and raising a little one. We have our good days, our bad, and love one another dearly. We're engaged to be married and will do this as soon as we save up for the rings and the honeymoon.

The main thing is this: I used to keep a journal on this site regularly but I found that it really wasn't a good idea. I felt really exposed and pressured to write and explain private matters too much of the time and when Daddy I weren't getting along and were going through one our spats, I felt as if I had to constantly write about our current "status." Eventually I learned that I didn't owe anyone anything and I deleted my journal and kept private matters private. I'm only posting about us in some detail now to clarify for the newcomers to D/s that one can have a relationship in this lifestyle and endure-- and the relationship can change because the people certainly will. Those who are capable of acceptance and flowing with the changes their partner's may make, have the best chance of survival as a couple, in my opinion.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

oh ffs...look...if this isn't thread hijacking, I don't know what is.
I only asked a question that I am still interested in honest answers to.
Do you feel that relationships that begin with a lot of drama explode (usually quickly) with a lot of drama as well?

~Christina

edit; this was in response to those who want to fight and cause trouble even though this is not what this was about.

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ORIGINAL: liketophoto

You do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around. That's what it's all about!

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Anybody who is anybody knows who the group is. :)

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

....very quickly just by reading the 'positive experiences' forum, and then reading the profiles of the people who have made those posts just a month or three later.
Of course not every relationship will be (or should be) forever. And just because something doesn't last doesn't mean it wasn't of value to those who participated.
But someone said something the other day, (I think it was Focus, but, I'm not entirely sure) about (and forgive my rough translation of what was so elegantly worded, please) how there seems to be a direct co-relation to those people who posts on these boards talking about their 'perfect' this or their 'soul mate' that, as to how quickly those relationships disintegrate.
Yes, when we find someone who is different, and who feels 'right', we DO want to shout it to the world. It's an amazing feeling.
But, how quickly and how hard the mighty do fall.
It's hard enough to keep a vanilla relationship going.
Even more difficult (yet rewarding, imo) to keep a kinky relationship with vanilla overtones running smoothly.
Add to that the pressure that has been unwittingly applied by someone who believes (in less than 2 months, 4 months, or 6 months) that their relationship is so special, that they write about it ad-nauseum. There are no flaws, there are no cracks, it is perfect.
What happens when that relationship shows it's first crack? Does that person write about that? Or do they write even more flowery prose to cover up the ugly crack?

~Christina
(whose been guilty of the hearts and flowers once or twice as well....)