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LadyLolly -> RE: hard limit (2/11/2008 4:57:47 PM)
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
do you realise how lucky you are??? wow, he could have kept this from you and then sprung it on you when you got here....you have been given the gift of the red flag, you and your um now have all the information you need to decide; come here and live with a lier, or stay there get a new house and chalk up the lost money to a dodged bullet.
although i do agree with john, his actions are questionable, and he likely was looking to pull out, but he is a bitch-baby, and could not be honest about it.
Ditto. Moving from one country to another is HUGE. With a UM much more so. Yes, at least you found out before the move. If you go ahead and move anyway you've accepted it You knew the answer for yourself on this as much as it sucks and what it has cost you is small compared to the big picture of going ahead.
The timing of his " changing his mind" on an agreed upon hard limit of monogomy really has the imagination going as to why and why now. It is extremely manipulative. The refusal to discuss is a tip off - he wants you come and without that hard limit or he'd rather you didn't. He may very well have another on the horizon or even have had one he's decided he wants to keep too. Bottom line, you may never know - but do you really care? What you do know for sure is how he has conducted himself and has shown himself to be untrustworty. If his idea of honor is telling you he will not respect the agreed to hard limit at the last possible moment that's something of concern too. Suppose it it better than none but still pretty shabby.
You have to look out for your own best interest - it's clear he won't.
Condolences and best wishes.
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