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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:28:35 PM   
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If we were bourgeois enough that we were married off to a man who could sustain us, we would die in existential angst (see A Doll's House - Ibsen).


Pretty much compulsory reading up here. And is regarded by many as a feminist text by a man. Well worth reading.

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We would be shunned and ostracised for having children outside of wedlock.


That one isn't necessarily well pinned on the patriarchy.
Women have played a significant role in shaping attitudes to sex.
Men are not the only ones to compete for mates the past few millenia.

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A century ago, it would have been no fun at all to pretend to be... what we were.


Who is pretending?

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Aswad, what I tried to say in my previous post was that so far, the majority of the women in power are highly capable individuals in comparison to their male peers. When most of the women in power are as incapable as most of the men in power, only then will feminism have achieved one of its goal: equality of opportunity.


Yeah, now I get your point. And I agreee.

That said, I would rather see a positive side-effect of women raising the bar for men by displacing incompetent ones.

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Forgive me for not having clarified earlier: I had gone to iron my husband's shirts  .


Damn. I do that myself. Can we pretend this is way back when so I can bid on you?

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:28:56 PM   
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Are you sure that they were feminists complaining about a perceived unfairness and not just some woman being affected by "that time of the month"? 


Pretty darn sure. 

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:29:07 PM   
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Note that I also mentioned the radical feminists male counterparts. Without both extremes there woul be greater sanity and stability. Feel free to have the last word.


You want to put radical feminists in a concentration camp?

Would you mind telling me exactly what harm radical feminists have done that is worse than sending someone to a concentration camp?

I thought your first comment was a joke.

Where does such ignorance come from?

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:29:10 PM   
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When "liberation" takes freedom away from others, then that certainly is horseshit.  I did make an overstatement, but the idiocy I was talking about DOES do damage to women.  Kidding aside, there is nothing wrong with showing women's orgasms. But there is something wrong with banning the alternative.


*shrug*  Laws and social practice are often arranged in a dialectic fashion.  Cutting back on the privileged status of male sexuality is not necessarily a bad thing, even if this is done by means of an unenforceable laws.  Unenforceable laws are sometimes very useful in ways that go beyond their enforcement. 

One of the little-known facts of the Prohibition era in the USA is that Prohibition of alcohol was originally passed as a women's rights issue.  The fact is, during that era of American history, alcoholism was a very serious and very common social problem.  It was heavily connected, then as now, with domestic violence.  The vast majority of women who spear-headed the Temperance movement supported it as a way to end the cycle in which a large percentage of working-class males would slave at 70-hour a week jobs, spend their paychecks in bars and saloons (often owned by the companies they worked for), and then go home afterward to batter their wives and children.

Eventually an Amendment to the Constitution was passed, and a great many smugglers made a great deal of money while America's law enforcement agencies struggled for a decade to enforce the unenforceable.  And eventually the law was rescinded, and Americans were permitted to drink in public again.  But...

...the feminists of the Temperance movement still won the battle.  From then on, the stereotype of the wife-beating drunk was firmly locked in the public consciousness as a bad thing.  The sense of entitlement that men had enjoyed to drink to excess and to abuse their women and children in the home was seriously dented.  It was part of the public consciousness from then on that alcoholics and wife-beaters were thugs, brutes, and not the sort of people that you would want to be, would want to marry, or would want to have as neighbors or friends.

Domestic violence was not magically ended, nor did alcoholism disappear--but both were decreased by an order of magnitude in our society.

Since I studied this period in depth, I have had a bit more respect for Quixotic laws, even if they are impossible to really enforce.  I'm still a Libertarian at heart, but I know now that pushing a law through is sometimes a very important element of achieving social change.  And pushing for laws that limit the overwhelming pattern of male sexual privilege in this society would not necessarily be a bad thing, or "harmful to women"--especially given that the alternatives to the law are already the norm. 

Anyway, this was a completely silly hypothetical example, and not a serious thing.  But the "women like you do more damage than misogynists" line of logic is and has always been nonsense, in my opinion.  Tthe same sort of false logic argues that unions to protect workers somehow hurt the workers--or that people who fought against segregation in the American South during the Civil Rights movement were somehow hurting African-Americans... 

People in a position of unjust power may violently resist giving up their privileges, or recognizing the rights of others.  But that doesn't mean that the people trying to achieve change, especially by non-violent means, are hurting anyone or doing anything wrong.


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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:30:32 PM   
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e notion that female sexual desire and pleasure are inferior to and less important than male sexual desire and satisfaction, to the point that films depicting "normal" sex normally do not include them at all, is an incredibly poisonous and evil thing.


Are there a lot of films doing that? I don't remember many were the woman layed there like an automaton.




they don't lay there like an automaton but a lot of them do make it look like female pleasure is secondary to a man's and priviledge male pleasure. women's pleasure often is either extremely overemphasized for a supposedly male viewer or not taken into account at all. there's been numberous studies discussing this position but i'm not at home so i can't get into my citation lists.

and before anyone gets wound up, i am actually pro porn lol...



Okay. I'll ask you: would you ban porn that did not reflect a woman having pleasure?
 
A silly question, perhaps. But no less silly than those that try to make things "right" by doing wrong.


i;m actually going to steal Aswad's line here: i support everyone's right to bad taste regardless of gender.

you don't have to watch it, and watching it will not make you mindless or have this massive impact on your behavior. watching too much of it will, but then watching too much of anything will too. the problem with denying this type of porn to me is that it can too easily turn into let's ban all the porn that 'we' don't like regardless of whether or not there's a segment of the population who may use it as the one of the few viable options to accessing their sexuality.


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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:33:50 PM   
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You want to put radical feminists in a concentration camp?


As with a previous thread on whether men are needed or not, it may be that the OP is simply venting.

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Would you mind telling me exactly what harm radical feminists have done that is worse than sending someone to a concentration camp?


More like Battle Royale, the way I read it.

Anyway, I assume it depends on who you would consider a radical feminist.

By the way, notice how nobody cares about their male counterparts who'd end up in the same camps if we took it seriously?

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:35:13 PM   
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I am a feminist but I do not consider myself an extreme feminist. I believe in the empowerment, re-education, prevention, and intervention of women & children and men.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:37:35 PM   
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By the way, notice how nobody cares about their male counterparts who'd end up in the same camps if we took it seriously?

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i did actually but i was going to leave that particular tangent alone. but then i'm also not a radical. it does no good to start going it's about men or it's about women without looking at the system that's actually creating the ideas. women hurt women as much as men hurt women and often for the same reasons but a lot of radicals (not all but a lot) don't like to talk about that. but then like i said i at least attempt to stay moderate.


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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:40:47 PM   
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By the way, notice how nobody cares about their male counterparts who'd end up in the same camps if we took it seriously?


Well, Im a so called rad feminst, so according to me the male counterparts are also called radical feminists.

Unless we are saying that the male counterparts mean the opposite of radical feminists as in the taliban or something.

Frankly, they can be sent to camp for all I care.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:41:15 PM   
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You left out women hurting men.....

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:41:54 PM   
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Frankly, they can be sent to camp for all I care.


And what if the women in those cultures say they don't want their men sent off to camps? Would you say that you know better than those other women?

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:42:42 PM   
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Would you say that you know better than those other women?



Damn straight I would. I'm the one who's allowed to read books.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:43:41 PM   
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yep and women hurting men. and men hurting men. it tends to fall along hetero lines which annoys me just as much.

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You left out women hurting men.....


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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:45:39 PM   
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yep and women hurting men. and men hurting men. it tends to fall along hetero lines which annoys me just as much.

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You left out women hurting men.....



I'm just being a butt.... I've believed for a very long time that all the good and bad human attributes we can list know no gender (or racial) boundaries.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:47:25 PM   
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Would you say that you know better than those other women?



Damn straight I would. I'm the one who's allowed to read books.


Ugh. That's one of the most euro-centric things I've ever read. I can't believe you would force your will onto other women like that - that makes you as bad as the men.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:47:41 PM   
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Note that I also mentioned the radical feminists male counterparts.  Without both extremes there woul be greater sanity and stability.  Feel free to have the last word.
 
Enjoy.  I'm going to go take a shower and remove the stench of this thread.



Yes, radical feminism (also as mentioned in the thread you claim to have read) has its adherents among males as well as Adler and the others you claim to want to imprison/sterilize. The work of Tony Pate, Daniel Maier-Katkin,  Russell Stanten is important as well.


Still doesn explain your rant against it, in light of the clear distinction of radical feminism as a branch of current social sciences and academic thought.  The only stench I detect is your fear of progressive thought actually making progress.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:48:35 PM   
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yep and women hurting men. and men hurting men. it tends to fall along hetero lines which annoys me just as much.

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You left out women hurting men.....



I'm just being a butt.... I've believed for a very long time that all the good and bad human attributes we can list know no gender (or racial) boundaries.


oh i know lol


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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:59:03 PM   
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Ugh. That's one of the most euro-centric things I've ever read. I can't believe you would force your will onto other women like that - that makes you as bad as the men.


Man, I am tired of ignorant self centered western women that tell us non white girls from the developing world that our cultures which systematically rape, brutalize and burn us alive are somehow to be tolerated in the name of multicultural horseshit.

Tell me how many aunts you have that are married to their uncle twice their age who have never ventured outside their house after dark because in your society its unacceptable. You tell me the number and I'll tell you the number of them Iv'e got.

Do you know anyone in the taliban? I do. Have you ever been denied a train ticket because you were a woman travelling alone?

Yeah, valuing literacy is euro centric. WTF. The taliban poisened 12 yr old girls to death for trying to go to school to learn to read and some privleged women in the west sit there and tell themselves they shouldn't judge some government that makes 1000 laws against women being people.

Let me tell you there are a lot worse things in the world than being 'eurocentric'. Being indifferent to other people's extreme oppression is one of them.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 7:59:51 PM   
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No. My problem was that you said you would force them to do what you think they should do even if they don't want to and you would take their husbands away from them even if they don't want you to.

Edited to add: Help. Educate. But realize that when you say "I know better than you because of stuff I read in a book so I'm going to tell you what is right and wrong" you sound exactly like the men who are stoning these women. More hate isn't going to fix the problem.

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RE: I am a feminist. - 2/3/2008 8:02:22 PM   
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And what if the women in those cultures say they don't want their men sent off to camps? Would you say that you know better than those other women?


Um, have you asked "the women in those cultures" lately what it was like to live under the Taliban?  Or bothered to educate yourself at all about the women's rights movements in Islamic countries?

Because a lot of women really didn't enjoy the US-sponsored rise of Islamic fascism in the Middle East and the Indian subcontinent.  They didn't enjoy it to an enormous degree, and they paid a very heavy price for the political interference of the CIA in their societies.

One of the things that alarms me about Western female masochists and submissives is the assumption they occasionally seem to make that violently patriarchal societies around the world are populated by happy female masochists who just love being enslaved, raped, beaten, stoned for adultery, beheaded for driving a car, or burned to death when a husband decides he needs a new wife and her dowry.

Guess what.  Not so much.

Genuine masochism is not that common in human beings of either sex. 

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