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EvilGenie -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/4/2008 8:16:46 PM)
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I wonder what makes the, already laudable for who she is, MoGA so much more laudable here now. I have read from more than one along the lines of ............I didn't know you were blind and then all of the sudden she is automatically ''gutsy'' ''strong'' and many other adjectives. I would dare say MoGA you'd be exactly the same sort of woman that you are now, blind or not. See where this is going? Anyone? All of the sudden she has changed because she deals with blindness.
Many of us are disabled, ''gutsy'' and ''strong'' but it is not our disabilities that make us such. I have always been gutsy and strong long before the word disability came into my life and always will remain so. We are no more gutsy or strong because we are disabled than all of the other gutsy and strong folks who are not disabled. My disabilities are at times horrific and people often ask ''how do you do it??'' There are plenty of disabled couch potatoes as well just as there are plenty of non-disabled couch potatoes. It is a personality type, not a disability which sets some of us apart, disabled or not. Is life a bit more difficult with disabilities? In many cases, yes. Though those who perservere are those who want to not only those with disabilities.
Well peeps, we all have 2 options, disabled or not. Move forward, go on and live a life worth living or give up, sit in a corner and wait to die. I do not want to take up space waiting to die thanks. For every ONE thing that I am unable to do, there are a MILLION more that I can do.
MoGA as to your question of telling people. When I was actively seeking, I told those whom I felt a closeness with. When making friends it is much the same. When I met mine whom I am now married to I pretty much told him most of it right up front as I knew for certain this was going someplace. You see, my disabilities are 3 tiered and I think I have mentioned one of them in my journal here. I have always been one of those ''my life is an open book'' types so I tend not to even think to hide these facts about myself. In fact, at times, I believe it has helped people understand me and other disabled folks a bit better.
My disabilities are facts to me just like my eyes being green or my hair being blonde. They carry very little if any emotional weight to them anymore though I have my moments. So I am a bit like Joe Friday with a ''just the facts Ma'am'' attitude. They are part of what makes me who I am and I am proud of who I am and what I have contributed to those I love and care about and to the world through my chosen career paths.
Many may take exception to my post and that is your perogative though I tend to call things as I see them. To me, seeing someone as anything more special than you already thought that they were because they speak of their disability is just another form, though a bit more palitable, of discrimination. It discriminates against the very person who is disabled in a reverse sort of way and discriminates against those without disabilities. I live by this saying, ''I am not my disabilities. I am Hajar''
We aren't exceptional people, though we may be plain old folks doing exceptional things along with the millions of other plain old folks doing exceptional things. MoGA thank you for the compliments and I gratefully accept them as a fellow human being.
Best of All Things in Life!
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