iammachine
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There is a large "didn't you read that post from 2005" type of response when you ask a beginner question.
I will admit, that I am one of those assholes that gets a little exasperated with seeing the same questions over and over. More often than not, if I don't feel like repeating myself, I simply skip the thread, or post a link to a previous post of mine that ammounted to the same answer.
When it comes down to it, there are few things that haven't been discussed. Things will get repeated, the same or similar questions will be asked and discussions brought up, which generally isn't too big of a deal. The only time, in my opinion, when it really crosses the line into silly is when it is pretty clear that the poster bringing up a thread/discussion topic/asking a question has rather clearly not read the forum page at all. If there are three threads in the first page of the forum addressing the same topic already, why start a new one?
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like to ask questions here and now to those active here and now. I like to be a part of an active discussion. The flip side is if you do search the archives
This is just my opinion, and feel free to hate me for it, I'm okay with that. Frequently, the impression that I've been given with beaten into the ground questions and topics is that the person bringing it up would rather be spoon fed widely available information, rather than do a little research and leg work themselves, or, on the other end of the spectrum, they care little about discussion and just want to make a public statement about something they have an opinion on (see: the bajillion lifestyle vs pro flamewars). If you have something to discuss, by all means dicuss it, I say. If there is something burning at you that you just need to talk about it, have at it. If you want input or advice for something that is personal, and therefore probably requires some personal reponse, by all means, ask for it.
If you're looking for basic information, I suggest learning a little search fu, and becoming as educated as you can on your own about a topic. Afterwards, you might have something to discuss or a new spin that hasn't been seen fourteen times that week already, and won't simply come across as lazy. No matter what, however, whereas the forums may be moderated, they can't be censored into the ground. There is no guarantee anyone will play nice or tell you what you want to hear how you want to hear it. Life is hard, wear a helmet.
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How does anyone know they're ready for the next stages of learning?
No one is going to learn everything they need to know about anything from a forum, that's what the real word is for, networking with real (reputable) players and learning in a tangible environment is for. You can read about how to do naughty things to or with people all day long, but it doesn't mean much until you've experienced it. Being kinky isn't exactly something that you go to school for. Learning what to do is personal and haphazard exploration."When" to do it, is whenever you feel ready, in terms of doing stuff that requires any amount of skill - when you're proficient enough to be unlikely to harm anyone, and know what precautions to take. It's not rocket science, and if you want someone to hold your hand, a public forum is not where you want to be.
< Message edited by iammachine -- 2/15/2008 2:24:46 PM >
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