JerryFrankster
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In your opinions, was this guy raped?
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt56070.html
I am a calm non cussing reasonable person on WP.
Except for this post. I looked around to see if I was allowed to really vent and saw nothing to the contrary. I coulnt find a Mod to PM. If this post needs to be edited for content fine. I will accept any punishment for what i am about to say. I say this in anger.
I was reading the post on " Aspies more likely to get HIV" I put in my two cents, twice.
ANd I realized as I started to type a frustrated impotent rage swelled up inside me. I know why. I have never talked about this to anyone. The few times I have started to i could see that I wasnt going to be understood.
While I love WP its not a magic place where everybody share the same problems . I started to try to talk about what my "love Life"  has been like and some frustrated assshole called me a f***ing gigalo.
The only time I have read of stories like my own is when women write. In fact I had to tell my daterape story to someone as a story about a woman before I realized what happened.
I try to find some good in everything. Before it happened I couldnt understand how someone could be raped without the threat of violence. Now I do .
And dont hand me any bullshit about a man cant be raped by a woman its physically impossible. I thought that too and to my old self I say "shut up you sheltered armchair theorist!"
An erection is a mindless reaction to stimuli.
My story is the same as most frustrated geeks on WP. no girls, drugs or booze. Lots of model building, reading Steven King and watching Doctor Who. Untill College.
I let my hair grow out and started dressing like the trippy art student I was.
It wasn't college girls that noticed me. It was the older women who worked at the jobs i had at the shopping mall. They were older and beautiful, way out if my league. They would flirt with me.
On flirting . I read about so many men here taking it as serious and being hurt. Well back then I KNEW it wasnt serious. Besides Here was a thirty year oldbusty blonde who put her self through college on beauty pagent scolarships. Of cousre its all a joke.
Untill they say you want to go out for a drink? I'm thinking milkshake. Besides I wasnt old enough to get served. No , she drives me back to her place to get changed. She comes out in jeans and a sweatshirt no shoes and goes over to her fridge where she keeps wine in a BOX. A BOX! like you find at a cheap art gallery opening!
But thats not the rape I'm talking about in my title.
It was mostly older women. Or authority figures, a boss. Twice I was told I was hired just because the boss wanted to f**k me. How do you think that meant me sfeel as a human being who had been proud he got the job because of his accomplishments?
Then came the pot head girls. Here try this and let me keep you stoned for a year. Have a beer. Have a cigarette, try some acid, shrooms, estacy.....
Then after college I worked at a community center. Everybody wears those goddamn "MILF Hunter" t shirts like its something funny . Being used for sex is not funny. "f***ing" is not funny. There can be moments while making love with someone you trust where things are silly but being treated or treating someone like MEAT is not funny.
Single moms, like bosses or older women are authority figures. They have thier stuff together mnore than me. they have too.
But single moms work fast.
Several times I showed up for a babysitting job on the side only to find dinner ( and more stinking booze or pot) waiting . No kid. " Billys with his dad this weekend screw me quick."
I was targeted . Cute innocent art teacher thats good with kids.
I am ASHAMED to admit how many women I have had sex with. Its more than my age.
Dispite my " sucesses" I still had the hardest time asking a girl I liked out. The two times I was in love I had to have a mutual friend ask. ANd both of those girls were virgins. The first remained a virgin. The second it wasnt untill a year into the relationship.
Now I havent dated in nearly five years or more.
These women I was with were beautiful. Youd ask " Whats your problem" That rightg f***ing there is irrelevant and also part of the basic problem.
The OP date rape was a young blonde athetic architeture student. It doesnt matter if she had been overweight stupid or old.
The son of a bitch I am SO f***ing MPISSED AT ids MEDia MEDIA MEDIA MEDAIA! ANd the bullshit goddamn lockerroom talk mentality men seem to think is ok.
Thats why i dfid what I did.
My friends were and still are virgin dorks that know more about Godzilla movies and 80s bands than women. Theyre no help. Theyre stuck in an unrealistic plastic fantasy world of pornography. Porn which has NEVER done a thing for me because it isnt real. Not even remotely. Missonary etyle is the best becaus eyou can look at the peson youre with and talk to them by kissiing. They never show that position in pornos. Just animal rutting. And my buddies wonder why they dont go out on dates? The women they idolize in the porn and mainstream movies are not what real women are like.
ONCE after a film shoot the whole crew wanted to go a strip club. I said NO! Finally somebody gave me a joint to smaoke to relax. ( see the problem rifght there?) I went in hered through a money activated turnstile and felt like an animal. The show host stood on stage intoducing the women like you would cattle for sale. The men had to actually SIT ON THEIR HANDS while getting a lap dance. How demeaning is that.
And me? I was , , , BORED. Becaus eit wasnt real. I had originall y thought why go and get yourself excited when thres nothing you can do about it? But I saw there was nothing to be excited about, I didnt KNOW who these women were.
Five years ago I had learned what I wanted. I started trying to get the women to NOT f**k me on a first date. The more I was a poilite gentleman the more they came after me at the end of the night. A kiss should be a feeling worked up to, not obligatory at the end of the night.
I cant control myself when I eat a box of cookies but unlike most people I do have a reign on my hormones.
The worst thing id the women I REALLY liked I'd try to push taking it slow. MJy second love i mentioned earlier? We waited a yaer and was together for five afterwards. Compare that to three week stands.The womrn I took it slow with would not call me back.
I tried shaking hands: " Are you GAY dave? " or " What ? Are you a f***ing salesman?"
I would half jokingly mention I had mace and I knew how to use it. That was just seen a splaying hard to get and excited them all the more. All that stuff they say on the pick up sites is true, if you want a woman push her away. Like an ignored cat shell come back to you.
Whos the villian here?
Before anyone one says posts you better read the whole of my story. Heres the lesson.
AND I AM COMMANDING THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE LITTLE BOYS TO TELL THEM THIS !!!!
" It's Okay for a guy to say 'no'."
It took me ten years of being used to learn that. As a result I don't date, because they couldnt handle that.
Love is caring about someone else more than you do about yourself.
But love is something that is worked up to.
Say " no" if you mean it guys . Women, you have luckily already know this.
Nobody HAS to screw. Theres too much crappy pressure, now on womwn as well to get as much as you can.
I read peoples sex stories here and its not even the same act. f***ing and Making Love are so different that . . .
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