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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Leatherist, I haven't perceived any openness in perspective from you thus far.

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

my happy bunny says it's all about me.

To Leatherist: people generally can only see through their own eyes, they tend to have one paradigm and that's what they stick with.  Sometimes it's because they've never learned to look outside of their box, sometimes it's because if they look outside of their box they are afraid the walls will come down and they need those walls as a security net.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

my happy bunny says it's all about me.

To Leatherist: people generally can only see through their own eyes, they tend to have one paradigm and that's what they stick with.  Sometimes it's because they've never learned to look outside of their box, sometimes it's because if they look outside of their box they are afraid the walls will come down and they need those walls as a security net.

Like Myself, I think others can actually see a great many different views and sort of understand them. They also understand that they don;t all work for them very well-and just pick the one that seems to at the moment.

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG
There have been several threads started where people have discussed reasonable and logical uses for this term, yet so many retort with "well, yeah, it sounds good in theory but NOBODY uses the term that way".  Even when their is an alternative mindset and it appears those opposed to it are listening, in reality they are holding fast to their own paradigm and feeling superior to other points of view.

It's far more refreshing to hear "I hasn't thought of it that way, thanks".  That would indicate to me that while it's not their cup of tea, they truly are open to new information.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I see the same thing with people about trainers.

Some subs actually DO like a more formal and less comitted way to gain experience-but no, every trainer out there is just another user looking for easy sex with no responsibility.

And yet, not ONE person expressing this has actually been involved in such a relationship-go figure.

Doesn't stop them from saying how evil it is tho.  Kumbaya.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG
There have been several threads started where people have discussed reasonable and logical uses for this term, yet so many retort with "well, yeah, it sounds good in theory but NOBODY uses the term that way".  Even when their is an alternative mindset and it appears those opposed to it are listening, in reality they are holding fast to their own paradigm and feeling superior to other points of view.

It's far more refreshing to hear "I hasn't thought of it that way, thanks".  That would indicate to me that while it's not their cup of tea, they truly are open to new information.

What about someone like me?  I say "It's a great theory, but almost no one actually practices it well."

Does that mean I'm closed to new information?  If I honestly am enlightened or surprised by someone's information, I will say so.  But just because no one has offered new information, doesn't mean I'm not open to it when it comes along.

There really ARE people who have been around the block a few dozen times.  Expecting them to have the same reaction and perspective as someone who hasn't is unrealistic.

Just because we recognize what reality IS doesn't necessarily mean we're closed off to what it COULD be.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG
There have been several threads started where people have discussed reasonable and logical uses for this term, yet so many retort with "well, yeah, it sounds good in theory but NOBODY uses the term that way".  Even when their is an alternative mindset and it appears those opposed to it are listening, in reality they are holding fast to their own paradigm and feeling superior to other points of view.

It's far more refreshing to hear "I hasn't thought of it that way, thanks".  That would indicate to me that while it's not their cup of tea, they truly are open to new information.

What about someone like me?  I say "It's a great theory, but almost no one actually practices it well."

Does that mean I'm closed to new information?  If I honestly am enlightened or surprised by someone's information, I will say so.  But just because no one has offered new information, doesn't mean I'm not open to it when it comes along.

There really ARE people who have been around the block a few dozen times.  Expecting them to have the same reaction and perspective as someone who hasn't is unrealistic.

Just because we recognize what reality IS doesn't necessarily mean we're closed off to what it COULD be.

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist
I suppose you have been everyone you speak of-so you can honestly expouse the truth of it all?

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I feel that a lot of what causes arguments here is that people have an ego centric view of the world. And feel that everyone else can, or should feel the way that they do-especially about ways to conduct an alternate lifestyle.

I like to look at things from many sides-I find it more enlightening than simply trying to enforce my views on others.

What do you think??

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I say "It's a great theory, but almost no one actually practices it well."

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I feel that a lot of what causes arguments here is that people have an ego centric view of the world. And feel that everyone else can, or should feel the way that they do-especially about ways to conduct an alternate lifestyle.

I like to look at things from many sides-I find it more enlightening than simply trying to enforce my views on others.

What do you think??