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What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 10:29:05 AM   
knees2you


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Status: offline 		What makes You who You are.
What defines Yourself, and how long have You
known it?
 
I have an Older Brother, very Dominate.
A younger Sister who is the same.
 
My whole family is Dominate except me.
 
When a Mistress at a munch, doesn't even know you,
and She tells you to be a good boy and get Her another Drink.
Well then you know who you truly are.
 
I thought maybe I could be a switch, but some
people are just who they are.
 
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"Oh looks like the Circus is in town."

 
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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 10:57:18 AM   
Gleegal67


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Status: offline 		I come from a family of very dominant and extreme personality types.  My family environment molded and expected my submissiveness to them - yet at the same time - I was expected to be intelligent and incredibly capable to handle any type of chore/situation that would arise.  My upbringing instilled the basics of my submissive nature.  My personal growth, as years gone by, has been of my choice, instead of expected by others.  I've also recognized and embraced within my submissiveness is as part of my nature as breathing.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 10:58:52 AM   
Justme696


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:02:16 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		i'm only girl and oldest out of 5 so naturally i am my military dad's little girl - the spoiled, bratty princess who loves getting her way.

on the other hand i am my mom's daughter as well who taught me how to be strong, aggressive, independent. self-motivated, etc in her daily life.

both switching between dominate/submissive at times.

my family life is switch i suppose and that would make me one too however that would depend on man i'm with.


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:09:49 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:15:28 AM   
AtlantaMistress


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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

its in the genes.



TOTALLY AGREE!

My mother is Dominant - and I introduced her to cm! lol
I am raising 2 girls that are already showing signs of Dominance - my little Goddesses in Training!
I like to tell my boys that I session with and no one else knows their "secret" that just because Lois Lane is the only one that knows Clark Kent is Superman doesn't mean he isn't ALWAYS Superman, just with a suit and glasses - WE ARE WHO WE ARE!


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:17:01 AM   
OmegaG


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hell if I know.  My mother tried to raise me to be the uber feminist she couldn't be married to my father.  Somewhere along the line I discarded that soap box but kept the independence.  To my father I was the oldest of two girls, his football buddy and the son he never had, he taught me to be self relient and the art of debate.

At work and as a single parent I am hell on wheels, decisive and in control.  It's a role that never fit me well in a relationship.  Could it be because I had such an assertive male role model that I expected/deserved someone like him?  Who knows, but I bailed on every relationship when I realized that I'd lost respect for the man who'd let me be in control.

But it could be the genes.  My father did have a few nice whips and when my grandmother grew frustrated with breaking yard sticks over by butt without getting me to stop laughing at her, my father presented her with a wicked paddle.  I have to get that from my parent's house one of these days.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:17:05 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		What justme is trying to say is that he is in the witness protection program.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:20:11 AM   
bleusparkles


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:20:35 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		chloe knows, lana knows, clarks parents know, his best friend pete knows...and in fact was the first one....lex luthor knows but he's too dumb to see it....



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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:20:57 AM   
Justme696


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

What justme is trying to say is that he is in the witness protection program.


LOLLLLLLL


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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:27:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Justme696

My past made me who I am


I think that coupled with our innate personalities each play a role. The ratio of that influence? I wonder if we can ever be certain of that given the complexities of human beings as well as our simplicity.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 11:51:06 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		It's definietly in the genes.
Every situation and person I have ever come up against tried to teach me to be submissive.
I can do it perfectly well but it's not who I am.
I'm dominant and proud to be so.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 12:05:57 PM   
ItalianSMistress


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Status: offline 		What happened in the past, defines who we are today.  What is innate determines what side of the fence we land on.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 12:48:43 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		I couldn't begin to tell you where it comes from. I have known since I started dating and discovered sex as a teenager that I was different but I didn't know what it was til college.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 1:00:12 PM   
fatass


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Status: offline 		Past experiences and how I handled them then and how I handle experiences now make me who I am.

My morals, standards and expectations of myself make me who I am.

What makes me kinky and or submissive? I think my sexuality was determined by certain traumas in my life. They have molded me and what baggage I do have left I try not to let it ruin me.



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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 1:30:10 PM   
mrscolden


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Status: offline 		experience has made me who i am, both the good and the bad experiences have brought me to this very special place in life.
but how did those experiences come to me? i believe in the law of attraction, knowing what i think becomes my reality.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 1:43:27 PM   
Mercnbeth


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What makes You who You are.

Not "what" but who - beth.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 2:21:46 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It would be good if who you are also included knowing how to use "dominant" vs "dominate."

Someone choosing to perceive my personality as identical to my orientation doesn't make me feel yummy and validated.  It makes me feel like they are presumptuous and overgeneralizing.

I am predictably idiosyncratic.

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RE: What makes you who You are? - 2/27/2008 2:36:24 PM   
astarri


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

My past made me who I am



I think this sums it up nicely

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