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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 7:09:46 PM

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Or tell him........

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That would be my pick.
HoneyMaster would not say such an insensitive thing (generally) unless He were feeling defensive.
And I can tell you when a man starts feeling defensive about something like that, they will say any dumb thing that pops into their head. (NOT HoneyMaster of course...) *lol*
Tell him you need a better answer than 'I said so' and that from now on you have right of first refusal regarding where your pics are going.
Just for assurance ask him to dress in frilly panties and heels and let you keep the pics of Him.
He f's up...Out go the pics to his exes...

No, a picture of him in wet diapers works better.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 7:18:23 PM

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On this I agree with candisa. if one chooses to share someone or pictures of someone in their life that is a sign of treasure and fondness for that one. A sign of flattery so to speak and pride that they are in your life. I have sometimes seen examples of this where one was not comfortable and in the end it was due to insecurity based on nothing more. If I have a sub I would want all the world to know she was mine and to treasure her and show great pride in her and yes that might mean sharing her and pictures of her with others.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 7:24:12 PM

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if one chooses to share someone or pictures of someone in their life that is a sign of treasure and fondness for that one. A sign of flattery so to speak and pride that they are in your life.

I have a slave who adores me, blah, blah, blah and I would rip his lungs out via his nostrils if he did anything like that. This isn't a dom or sub thing. It's a PERSON thing.

OP, kick him in the nuts (then run like hell!!).

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 7:38:15 PM

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ok, i got jealous when he told me he shared info about us to an old fuck buddy.
he gave her our screen name on a website (newbienudes.com) where he posts intimate pics of us but mostly me in bdsm poses. why would he give her such info about us? when i asked this his response was, "who is the dom in this relationship?"

OK, lets try this on for size....just recently you started another thread where the two of you had an opportunity to play with another..Now all of a sudden he is conversing with this previous "fuckbuddy" and telling her where to find pics of you and him on another site...why ,one asks ,would he do this?...possible answer....because he may wish to entice her into considering becoming a third..and the OP may have some reason to be "jealous" of this possibility becoming a reality..and the OP knows that once a limit has been crossed it is hard to shut that door again..As far as his response of "who's the Dom in this relationship"..that could be him coming from a place of " I am not ready to reveal the reasons at this juncture"...and that is his right,.......unless.........................Tempting

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 7:39:49 PM

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My first reaction was he sent the photos because he's proud of her. Maybe almost a nyah-nyah thing to the ex. ("see how I've moved up?")

The issue is the OP's jealousy. If posting nude pics is de rigueur for this relationship, then he did nothing out of line except answer an impertinent question with a flippant answer.

Master has posted nude pictures of me (even here). Why? Because He wanted to. He'll often give this answer when I ask an impertinent question. It's His right. I yield to His judgment. I gave that right and my trust to Him when I accepted this collar.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 8:43:58 PM

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ok, i got jealous when he told me he shared info about us to an old fuck buddy.
he gave her our screen name on a website (newbienudes.com) where he posts intimate pics of us but mostly me in bdsm poses. why would he give her such info about us? when i asked this his response was, "who is the dom in this relationship?"

OK, I'm a little confused here. It's ok for all the newbienudes.com users to see these pictures. You posted the site here and now anybody from CM that's reading this thread can go there and see your pictures now, or at least be able to view them. Sounds more like you are having an issue with the fact she's an old fuck buddy of his. What kind of info did he share exactly here? Was it extremely detailed or general? If the rest of the world can see it, why not her too? Again, sounds more like an issue of being threaten by her being an old fuck buddy. Then again, this is my take on the limited information you posted here.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 9:18:36 PM

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I with the I don't get it crowd. You have a pretty reveling pict on here. Yet your pissed off cuz it's posted on another site.. You mean to tell me that you did NOT realize that ANYONE could grab your pict and post in on their web page front and center??? Surely your not that naive. I would be more concerned about my family or friends seeing me exposed that some old fuck buddy.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 9:31:43 PM

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And you didn't kick him in the balls and walk away... why?

I'm assumeing they dom she is refering to is the same one listed in her profile. It's her hubby

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 9:45:17 PM

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On this I agree with candisa. if one chooses to share someone or pictures of someone in their life that is a sign of treasure and fondness for that one. A sign of flattery so to speak and pride that they are in your life. I have sometimes seen examples of this where one was not comfortable and in the end it was due to insecurity based on nothing more. If I have a sub I would want all the world to know she was mine and to treasure her and show great pride in her and yes that might mean sharing her and pictures of her with others.

Seems to me that if it were a matter of pride, he would just tell her that, no? Being that it bothers her so much, regardless of the motivations on either side, he should at least be willing to listen to her opinion on the matter. It's not just master and slave, it's husband and wife. There are personalities involved, and it damages the relationship when the dominant party refuses to be bothered to explain themselves.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 10:02:38 PM

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i believe manwholuvs understands where my husband/dom is coming from. my husband didnt send the old fuck buddy the pics. he sometimes sees her when working (his company & hers have a relationship) she was the one who told him about the website, newbienudes, in the first place. the pics posted of me never showed my face and i felt i was anonymous and he betrayed my anonymity by telling her our screen name on the site. yes, i believe he did it to show off and let her know he has sometime special with me. maybe a more secure woman would take pride & pleasure in it. i reacted with jealousy & fear. questions filled my mind -"why would he want to share intimate info with her?", "was he trying to perk a reinterest?" again, i admit, i have issues with jealousy that i brought to the relationship.
thanks to everyone for sharing your opinions.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 10:15:29 PM

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Ask yourself why you were ok with having that recent experience sharing yourself physically with another, but not this? And if you aren't ok with it, you already know where to go to work that out.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/28/2008 10:21:55 PM

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i was ok with being shared because i was part of the process and he was there to help me through it.
i felt this situation was him sharing alone (without my knowledge) with a woman he had a previous sexual relationship.
oh, my husband and i will work this out. we do love each other and are committed to relationship, whatever ups and downs come our way.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 2:24:09 AM

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ok, i got jealous when he told me he shared info about us to an old fuck buddy.
he gave her our screen name on a website (newbienudes.com) where he posts intimate pics of us but mostly me in bdsm poses. why would he give her such info about us? when i asked this his response was, "who is the dom in this relationship?"

In a relation ship trust , privacy and respect are important too.

was it just the jealous feeling? or anger?

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 2:25:16 AM

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And you didn't kick him in the balls and walk away... why?

I'm assumeing they dom she is refering to is the same one listed in her profile. It's her hubby

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 3:59:49 AM

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And you didn't kick him in the balls and walk away... why?

I'm assumeing they dom she is refering to is the same one listed in her profile. It's her hubby

BadOne

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Quoted for truth. Husbands are not immune to being kicked in the balls for doing something like this.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 4:23:27 AM

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Ok enough of this crap. The OP posted a website. Does the word exibitionist ring a bell with anyone.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 4:38:15 AM

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Ok enough of this crap. The OP posted a website. Does the word exibitionist ring a bell with anyone.

Well stated.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 4:41:53 AM

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This isn't the first 'miscommunication' or 'stretching of limits' you have posted about and I am seeing a repeat pattern. You either need to work out why the two of you seem to be on a bad communication level, or decide whether he is pushing the limits you set out and if you want to be in a relationship that does that.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 4:41:58 AM

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fyi - my pics are no longer on that website and as i stated earlier, my face was never shown. when i acted jealous, my husband deleted our account.
but i think many of you might enjoy the newbienudes site, even if you wont see me there.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 4:59:50 AM

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I am a private exhibitionist..and all that means is i wouldn't care one iota if my Domina wanted to film a full length feature of me in various bondage poses or being flogged..whatever...just as long as it stays between U/us.A few years ago i had a friend tie and gag me to a chair and then send me the pics.I downloaded a couple and put them up in yahoo.One day i was talking with my brother and had the pic up in the chat box...he almost pooped...no i take that back..he did poop.So although my fault for sure...never again.

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