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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 5:04:11 AM

LadyHathor

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hmmm a free paid political announcement?

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 11:01:13 AM

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I agree that he's doing this because he wants a threesome with you and her. I'd remove all the pics and close the account there immediately if not sooner. Plus I'd send her an email telling her she's welcome to him, and where does she want his dirty laundry shipped to.

Because I'm betting that the "I'm the dom" line is going to be applied to your other sex partners and soon. And to me, since you made it clear that you would only do this if you had veto power, this would be a clear breaking of hard limits. And I don't submit to people who can't keep their word, don't think about outing me to the whole world, and are willing to risk my health.

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RE: "who's the dom in this relationship?" - 2/29/2008 12:01:02 PM

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The biggest problem with something like this is simply you have no idea what the other person is going to do with the pictures. While her dom may not out her to work, or family there is nothing to say that his ex won't and can't. He has in effect by sharing these pictures specifically with someone who can place a name to them, risked her livelihood, custody of any children she may have,and potentially relations with her family if she is not out to them. It happens in vanilla relationships far too often for us not to think that it can happen here as well.

Ex's are not always nice. Sometimes they can play nice, until they have what they need to affect you in some way. Moreover people are being fired over things they post in their facebooks, myspace, newsgroups if the employer can link it up and unfortunately a bitter ex with ammo could make that linkage.

I can't say whether she needs to leave or not, she is the only one to make that decision or the decision on how she wishes to handle this "threat" to her enjoyment of life. But I can say I am extremely careful of who has any compromising pictures of me ( my ex's have nothing) and Master and I are agreed on the dispensation of the ones he has, and I have been about as out as you can be since the 1970's. We still are very aware how it could affect his career and therefore cautious.

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