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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:00:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Wow tis ironic that they both dont like the pet they play nor leather, have you ever seen them in the room together?

*rolls eyes



and she complained about her boots too? Amazing. And it is quite funny that the things you wrote to HoneyMaster the next day insulting me were exactly the things you said in your post. Although you did add a few more things such as 'a sub is not really a submissive', and turning around my honest questions regarding switching into something more sinister.

I happen to find it extremely insulting that you should accept our hospitality, and then come on here and make the claims that you did...without putting the things said and done into context. Such as the fact that HM was bragging about all of the leather He buys for me, and teasingly said that I don't like wearing leather. He knows that's not true, but, as I said then, sometimes I just don't feel like getting dressed up...sometimes I just want playtime without boots. *lol* Aidan mentioned she liked being a kitty...I said *I* would much rather be a kitty, but HM prefers me to be a stupid pony...that was just making conversation, and *He* knew I was teasing...He had me show her my boots, (which I love, and picked out...they are spectacular) but, I said something about every time I get a gift, it's either boots or leather...every once in a while it would be nice to get something I asked for. This was all part of an evening's conversation, was twisted and taken out of context.
When HoneyMaster reads this He will absolutely know that you were referring to the night that we met, and that not only did you insult me privately, you insulted us both, publicly.
I'm not one to judge whether others 'are' or 'are not' what they claim to be. (ok, I *try* not to, really, but I am only human) but, apparently, you are.
I am doubly insulted that you would insult my intelligence by claiming 'innocence' here.
If you have something to say about me, to me or to anyone else, please...
just own up to it.
Honestly.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:01:06 AM   
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Hmmm....this is an interesting question in many ways.
The OP described a night that we spent with her, and I am the naughty slave. Yes, sometimes I complain about wearing leather and boots...so? Is that someone else's business? That's right, I don't work. I go to school. That's the way He wants it. And I do MANY MANY more things than just laundry for Him. And if I don't like playing ponygirl, well...gosh...I guess I will learn better about who to confide in, huh? (this was all discussed in a lighthearted manner amongst all of us, btw)
It's been over a month and she is still talking about it.
It was a vanilla night, not a munch btw...and HoneyMaster and I have our own rules that we follow. On a vanilla night, I am considered just as much of a 'person' as anyone else.
I was not rude to my Master, and did not insult Him.
Anyone may ask Him if they like.
I *did* drink too much that evening. We hadn't been out alone together in over six months and I did go overboard. (with His encouragement btw)
This person has insulted me since we first began communicating, and is *still* doing so, even though I have made it clear that I am not interested in playing. (which, btw, she asked about a few days after this meeting)
I'm sorry if *our* dynamic doesn't work for you.
It does for us.
We were gracious to her and to hers, had them into our home, bought them drinks and dinner and wrote sincere thank you letters after meeting.
I was dissed and dismissed for my trouble.
And, apparently, still am to this day.
Btw...I do NOT think submissives are just players, I have NO idea where that came from, and what I did say, (several times) is that I don't understand the whole 'switch' dynamic. I am very close to one, and wouldn't trade this person for anything in the world, but...I just don't understand it. I asked for clarification, because I really *am* trying to learn.
I'm sure HoneyMaster will be very interested to learn that not only is this person still insulting me, (for about the fifth time since we've known her) she has now gone to insulting Him, in an open forum, and basically called Him my sub.
As I stated in my journal, the quickest way to get uninvited from our lives, is to insult one of us to the other. This is why we discontinued communication with the OP.
Really, after a month?!! We've moved on, and so should you.





I always say there are two sides to the story.

Btw , I think it just shows her maturity bringing petty school girl things into a forum. Some people think if others don't share their "ways" then they aren't real. That to me just shows ignorance.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:03:49 AM   
xxblushesxx


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Did you READ the WHOLE thread?

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My answer would be the same regardless.  But honestly - does it matter who the people are that are involved?
Both parties are as bad as each other.
If I wanted drama,I tune into FOX.
 
the.dark.

 
And I would think, Dark, that if you had spent an evening with someone, and invited them to your home, and offered friendship and hospitality, that you would not expect that person to write a diatribe about why you are not who you claim to be.
This person twisted my words and my intentions, and I am, rightfully, pissed.
Whether you and I have disagreed in the past, I would hope you could understand my anger.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:03:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

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If I wanted drama,I tune into FOX.
 
the.dark.


Really, what about jeremy kyle? if that doesnt tickle your drama bone i dunno what would :P



*shudders*
 
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:06:08 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		I would say that my opinion of the initial post didnt change having known who it was about. I take no issue with how people define their relationship it makes no odds to me someone could call themselves a balloon if it makes them happy. My only issue would have been the subs arent real subs thing which i now believe to have been tacked on as an afterthought to get people frustrated. I genuienly believe that the initial argument about what labels we should attach to ourselves based on other peoples sense of what that label is causes the problem. What one person considers sub another may not, if that person believes themselves to be sub then no one else should judge that, its their private relationship and not ours to argue semantics. i ma pretty sure 99% of subs/slaves on this site have been told that they are not "true s types" purely because they arent interested in that Dominant, its a pile of crap and anyone who feels the need to continue that idea I have no time for, you simply make it harder for those struggling to find their own place and coping with their own feelings of what submission means to them. End of. 

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:22:14 AM   
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And I would think, Dark, that if you had spent an evening with someone, and invited them to your home, and offered friendship and hospitality, that you would not expect that person to write a diatribe about why you are not who you claim to be.
This person twisted my words and my intentions, and I am, rightfully, pissed.
Whether you and I have disagreed in the past, I would hope you could understand my anger.
 
No one would have known it was yourself if you had not contributed.  Adds to the drama.
 
Understand your anger?  No.  If you allow someone else who is nothing in your life contribute to your emotions?  You give them power over you.  You really want that?
 
And now we have two sides of a story.  Yet we do not have the whole story because we were still not there.  You say/she says - that is all this post is.
 
We have disagreed on threads and ideas in the past because we are different people - I may disagree with the way you are handling this - I would have handled it completely differently.  If the OP had named you or outted it was you, then you could have smiled to yourself and knew you had reacted with grace.
I'm do not take sides, I speak what I see.  All I see is .drama.drama.drama.
 
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:26:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissAidan

Insecurities are something that fascinate me.  I am,in fact, talking about someone I met this past Saturday night, part venting, part looking to see what others think and to make sure I have not gone totally off my rocker this time.


so which was it? last night, or last saturday? maybe last month?

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:31:42 AM   
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What I want to know is, what do you think of a person who goes around claiming to be this devoted, 24/7 live-in collard slave with behaviour such as this? 


what is the point of this thread?  to discuss, ad nauseum, once again, just who is real and true and who is not, based on perceptions outside of the dynamic in question?

Perhaps, although it reeks more of just plain gossip to me.
 
 
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there are plenty who don't believe this slave to be "real" and "true" because she consented to being Master's slave, and "real", "true" slaves are taken against their will.  they know nothing of this slave's life, or of our dynamic, yet they insist it can't be "real", that it is merely fantasy.
 


I hear ya.  In the recent past I've been called a "one-twu-wayer", mentally instable, lacking passion, a doormat, a liar, a stepford wife, not "real", likened to a blow-up doll, abused, and having it easy, by various people who have never met me or even had a conversation with me.

I suppose it is a lot more enjoyable to spread negativity about other homes than to focus on one's own.


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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:33:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domahpet

Last night, there was a couple from out of town sitting one table over, and I could not help but watch them. 



quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAidan

Insecurities are something that fascinate me.  I am,in fact, talking about someone I met this past Saturday night, part venting, part looking to see what others think and to make sure I have not gone totally off my rocker this time.


so which was it? last night, or last saturday? maybe last month?


what a train wreck.

I don't know either of them so I'm not taking sides, but since she started this thread on Sudnday and made her secondary post today, her timeline is consistant, yesterday did become last Saturday.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:38:21 AM   
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:40:32 AM   
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HoneyMaster read this, and was insulted without me having to point out the obvious. (He's smart like that)
I did not have to 'out' myself at all, but when someone takes a swipe at me in a catty passive-aggressive way, I call bullshit.
In other words, if you'd like to ask a question that has to do with my behavior or lack thereof, leave out easily identifiable details, or be a woman and admit what you did.
Someone needs to focus on their own life, and not drag their own deranged version of mine out to a public forum.
(I'd also like to reiterate one more time that the op's version of my behavior was taken out of context, AND that some of the things she claimed I said, just weren't.)
Maybe THAT happened last night.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:43:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i yam what i yam...and thats all dat i yam...im willow the WESBIAN!



ok so that confused me, are you a yam or a wesbian? and what is a wesbian? is it a wide lesbian? or a girl who likes girsl called wes? im very confuddled over here


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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:47:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

With amazingly coincidental details.
HoneyMaster read this, and was insulted without me having to point out the obvious. (He's smart like that)
I did not have to 'out' myself at all, but when someone takes a swipe at me in a catty passive-aggressive way, I call bullshit.
In other words, if you'd like to ask a question that has to do with my behavior or lack thereof, leave out easily identifiable details, or be a woman and admit what you did.
Someone needs to focus on their own life, and not drag their own deranged version of mine out to a public forum.
(I'd also like to reiterate one more time that the op's version of my behavior was taken out of context, AND that some of the things she claimed I said, just weren't.)
Maybe THAT happened last night.


I reiderate, I don't know either of you.  Words on an internet cannot convey integrety.  No matter how many times either of you repeat you story, I would not be able to pick sides.

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:47:25 AM   
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< Message edited by Darcyandthedark -- 3/3/2008 10:51:13 AM >

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:48:34 AM   
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< Message edited by colouredin -- 3/3/2008 10:50:46 AM >

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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:50:13 AM   
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No colouredin one - wes was the english buffon who just happened to be a watcher, but got strangely sexy after he had his throat slit...
 
Damn - .myinnergeekishowing.
 
the.dark.

 
yourinnergeekinessissexy
 
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:53:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Lol wow, im totally unconfuddled now :P

*edit having beein to wikipedia  to add  NERD NERD NERD NERD :P



Oooo... did I tell you that being called names is my fetish....
 
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:54:18 AM   
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 10:55:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
yourinnergeekinessissexy 
:)



Would it be really geeky to admit I have a Spike smiletime puppet?
 
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RE: I am what I claim, not what I do - 3/3/2008 11:04:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i yam what i yam...and thats all dat i yam...im willow the WESBIAN!



ok so that confused me, are you a yam or a wesbian? and what is a wesbian? is it a wide lesbian? or a girl who likes girsl called wes? im very confuddled over here



yous dont knows me wery vell do yeee.



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