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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:25:56 PM   
dollparts85


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

I put that I am new and inexperienced


Tell us how many are making offers to:
1) train
2) mentor
you?



LOL pretty much every single one of them

I generally do not respond to the ones who misspell words or are too lazy to type out short words like "you" and "your" hehe

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:30:02 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: indigo302

You will no doubt get less of that if you take all references to being new and inexperienced out of your profile.

Heck, i hardly get any email at all, but maybe that's because i'm old .. i think they are afraid of the old ones :)


No thats not why. We are the same age. You dont have pictures. Thats why you get less mail.  Plus she is a newbie. They always inundate fresh meat.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:32:55 PM   
dollparts85


Posts: 1233
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From: NY
Status: offline 		Actually I have been a member for a few years...hehe I just don't have real life experience...lots of online experience though

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:39:01 PM   
SageFemmexx


Posts: 240
Joined: 1/2/2007
Status: offline 		It's not just subs that get that crap. I do as a switch and believe it or not--the doms want me on my knees "obeying" them and the male subs want me to bend over backwards fulfilling their every fantasy.

When I give out my sn so one of them can IM me, silly me, I think I will get some intelligent IM conversation but what I get is a fool thinking I have nothing else to do but sit and read their bs about their anal fetish or leather fetish or whatever--and this is both doms and subs.

I give--I get offline and go work on my book. Anything else has to be better and less of a waste of my time. No wonder pros charge these idiots.

Be Well,
Sage.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:44:01 PM   
bipolarber


Posts: 2792
Joined: 9/25/2004
Status: offline 		I have a friend on AOL that has that problem all the time. She says that she'll play along for a while, then she'll slip a special line midway through the cyber scene:

Dom: "that's right bitch, suck my huge throbbing cock!"
Friend: "Thank you Daddy. May I play with myself while I suck you off?"
Dom: "Yes, you may."
Friend: (I begin stroking my cock to hardness...)
Dom: Huh? Wha?
Friend: "I'm TV, Daddy, didn't you realize that from my profile?" (continues to suck Daddy's cock)
Dom: sender now offline.

LOL

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:46:56 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85
Actually I have been a member for a few years...hehe I just don't have real life experience...lots of online experience though

Hence you are not someone I would be willing to write.  I share Owner4SexSlave's high opinion of chat.

There is no point complaining about the bed you are in if you made it yourself.  To de-trollify much of your mail and conversatons, write "REAL TIME ONLY" in your profile, and obey yourself.  Otherwise, continue to expect a lot of this attention.  Plus, as Katy pointed out, the women who feed the trolls make life even more of a pain in the ass for the women who are actually looking.


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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 1:51:37 PM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		because they aren't real Doms.....simple as that

~meticulous~

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 2:05:42 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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Joined: 12/26/2005
From: NW Arkansas
Status: offline 		On a more serious note, i have never met a Dom in real life that has ever spoken to me like that online before, nor would i have such a desire.  Only you know what you want and how you want to be treated and you must ask yourself what you are truly willing to submit yourself to.  If you don't like it you know what to do about it (as everybody repeats on this board about the ignore key). You may or may not like this but if you are going to play around online, you must realize that you risk putting a label on yourself as well.      

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 2:15:46 PM   
NikatreusRSA


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Status: offline 		There's one reason and one reason only why this sort of Me-Tarzan-You-Jane chest thumping takes place - the man's self-esteem is noticeably absent.
...I'd be prepared to bet he suffered some sort of abuse and/or deprivation as a kid - most likely from his mother. Lack of self-esteem in men has a disturbing way of manifesting itself as misogyny.

I'm an experienced dominant, and having gotten to the level where I am now, I know from whence I speak:
BDSM without mutual politeness and respect ceases to be BDSM and swiftly becomes abuse.

(BTW, sorry for the lack of an introduction... I'll add it later. I just saw this topic and figured I'd add my 2c-worth.)

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 2:16:36 PM   
dollparts85


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From: NY
Status: offline 		I don't like cyber or role play or anything online but I do like do phone and cam...and daily reports and such...or I have in the past with Doms I had planend on meeting in real life and it didn't work out...

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 2:21:52 PM   
sweetwenchie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

I have a friend on AOL that has that problem all the time. She says that she'll play along for a while, then she'll slip a special line midway through the cyber scene:

Dom: "that's right bitch, suck my huge throbbing cock!"
Friend: "Thank you Daddy. May I play with myself while I suck you off?"
Dom: "Yes, you may."
Friend: (I begin stroking my cock to hardness...)
Dom: Huh? Wha?
Friend: "I'm TV, Daddy, didn't you realize that from my profile?" (continues to suck Daddy's cock)
Dom: sender now offline.

LOL


  i just might have to borrow that one!

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 4:47:28 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		If he's 42 from New Jersey, I just got an email from him. Delete, delete, delete.

Of course at my age, I can get away with demanding they call their mother and quote her the line and then beg her for punishment and a refresher course on manners.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 4:55:54 PM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

I have a friend on AOL that has that problem all the time. She says that she'll play along for a while, then she'll slip a special line midway through the cyber scene:

Dom: "that's right bitch, suck my huge throbbing cock!"
Friend: "Thank you Daddy. May I play with myself while I suck you off?"
Dom: "Yes, you may."
Friend: (I begin stroking my cock to hardness...)
Dom: Huh? Wha?
Friend: "I'm TV, Daddy, didn't you realize that from my profile?" (continues to suck Daddy's cock)
Dom: sender now offline.

LOL



LMAO! Priceless!!


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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 4:58:11 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85

When they are not even your Dom...I just told this Dom who pmed me that I was not interested and he said:

"You will obey bitch..this daddy needs his daily cum and you will help...understood"

nice, eh? I get this constantly by wanna-be Doms online...They just start talking to me and start ordering me around LOL wtf...I'm not just going to follow orders from someone I do not even know.

why do they do it? Because you are letting them do it. Sounds pretty simple to me.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 5:33:27 PM   
dollparts85


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If he's 42 from New Jersey, I just got an email from him. Delete, delete, delete.

Of course at my age, I can get away with demanding they call their mother and quote her the line and then beg her for punishment and a refresher course on manners.



LOL OMG yes, that would be him. haha.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 5:36:24 PM   
agoodgirl4Daddy


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Status: offline 		that's when i utilize the BLOCK and DELETE functions...and i do it very well. 

i don't put up with anyone who tries to talk to me like that unless i've given express consent and have entered a PE relationship with that person.  and NO..that is not topping from the bottom...it's about RESPECT.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 6:11:46 PM   
Lashra


Posts: 4900
Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		They are just rude asses. I do know some subs who can't say no and perhaps that is what these apes are looking for. Personally I don't expect any sub/slave to do anything for me other than my own, but thats just how I work.

Good for you for standing up for yourself.

~Lashra


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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 7:35:36 PM   
bbwsubnnorcal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85

"You will obey bitch..this daddy needs his daily cum and you will help...understood"

nice, eh? I get this constantly by wanna-be Doms online...They just start talking to me and start ordering me around LOL wtf...


*sighs* some guys never get past "all-women-should-be-either-blowup-dolls-or-porn-stars"
 
Of course these are the same people who own small little dogs and then scream orders at the poor things... same mentality...different species...
 


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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 7:41:37 PM   
Leatherist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85

When they are not even your Dom...I just told this Dom who pmed me that I was not interested and he said:

"You will obey bitch..this daddy needs his daily cum and you will help...understood"

nice, eh? I get this constantly by wanna-be Doms online...They just start talking to me and start ordering me around LOL wtf...I'm not just going to follow orders from someone I do not even know.


His wife does not understand him, and you are SO mean.

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RE: Why do Doms think that just b/c you are submissive ... - 3/4/2008 9:07:00 PM   
dawntreader


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Here is an interesting one i recieved today along the same vein - i have never even spoken to this guy or his brother before...
"hey, dont call my brother a fag when you made him that way by turning him down for sex 10 times so that he gave up on all girls forever!"
 
crazy, huh?

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