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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 8:13:18 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: lilone2087

It does not matter why i get angry, what matters in that physical punishments do not make me think about my behavior like emotional ones or mental ones do.
Sounds like avoidance to me...if you think the "why" does not matter..or..you simply like the attention that "punishment" brings, and now are directing the "how"....Tempting

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 8:24:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would have kicked you to the kerb.
 
A slave that would dare to blow up on their Master is no slave at all.  You have the right to politely request, not to blow up.

What do you think posing your question here will do, you are not going to have the audacity to take the suggestion back to your Master are you???

As I said I would release you, but leaving you locked and tied in a dark small room for an extended period of time will give you plenty of time to reflect on your actions and decide how you can repent for these indiscretions 



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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 8:28:47 PM   
xxblushesxx


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anyway...if physical punishments do not work well to help get you into an emotional balance, then...your master needs to learn what works for you.
It's like training any animal, or a child. Even though the one in charge *is* in charge, if what they are doing does not work for whateveritis they are trying to train...
well...they need to use something that does.
You cannot beat something/someone into submission.
Well...you can, but it's fleeting at best.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 9:17:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lilone2087
It does not matter why i get angry, what matters in that physical punishments do not make me think about my behavior like emotional ones or mental ones do.



I have one question for you... do you feel it is fair to blow up at someone and then not take responsibility for your own behavior by getting to the root of why you act that way? I would feel terrible if I was constantly burdening my Daddy with angry outbursts that required him to "punish" me. He doesn't enjoy punishing. He feels that makes our relationship more work than he wants to put into it. He doesn't feel a submissive that constantly needed to have her behavior modified by him would be a worthwhile investment of his time. I suppose in the back of my mind I know this, and on a deep level I just do not want to be a pain in his ass, someone he dreads being around.

Now I do not know how your dom feels, because I do not know him, but if it were me I would be asking him how my anger made him feel. He has feelings to you know, and you may not like the answer if you ask him how it makes him feel when you go off on him. It doesn't feel good to live with an angry hostile person. In fact it sucks. As someone who used to be angry a lot of the time, I cringe when I think back on that short period in my life. I know people that love me did not enjoy my company. That saddens me, I am so glad I worked that out before I met my Daddy, because he wouldn't have put up with it.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 9:32:22 PM   
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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 9:46:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

Are you asking me or the OP?


The OP, sweetie. I am going in and editing it... I do not know how that happened...lol

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 9:58:03 PM   
ownedgirlie


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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 9:59:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I'm infiltrating your mind....Mwaahahahaha....


Since my mind isn't terribly complex... that was possibly a very easy thing to do

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/6/2008 10:00:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SinergyNstrumpet

Since my mind isn't terribly complex... that was possibly a very easy thing to do

~Sinergy's strumpet~





HA!!  Silly girl

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 9:01:20 AM   
Daddyslilpookie


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ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

For me personally, knowing i have disappointed Him is punishment in and of itself.  


I agree this I hate it when master tells me I have dissappointed him that is the worst punsihment ever. Daddy sends me to our room if I am being bitchy or out of line, but that rarely happens, because I try to be as obedient as I possibly can.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 1:52:36 PM   
LordShadow


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Status: offline 		I think there are a couple variables here, the first thing that comes to my mind is that you are not Mastered.
The second is that you act out to gain his attention which is why the punishments you receive have no effect, they are a reward for bad behavior, you act out he gives you the attention you seek. Are you slave or subbie brat?
The punishment would depend on the situation as the punishment fits the crime here....but I would not tolerate more than two repeated offenses, your ass would be out the door on the third one. I have used whipping, isolation, chewing soap shavings, painful bondage, gagging in public, etc. But the best one is just to send such a girl out the door...situation rectified.


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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 2:32:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm stuck on something. In your first post you said...

physical punishments like whipping spanking or flogging do not do anything to me. What emotional or mental punishments are out there that we could try?

Here you are asking for suggestions as to emotional and mental punishments you could try, but in your next post you say....

physical punishments do not make me think about my behavior like emotional ones or mental ones do.

How would you know?

Or perhaps more to the point, if you really do know, then why are you here looking for some other emotional or mental punishment to "try" instead?

I'll say, though, that from my personal point of view the root of the problem is this "we" shit. Why doesn't that say "my Master"?

K.


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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 2:36:46 PM   
Kana


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Why isn't he taking charge?
Whats up there?

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 4:20:07 PM   
MasterLDesade


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Status: offline 		lilone2087  , Being " Sent to Coventry " , zero conversation and interaction . A Desert is a hot place for a Thirsty Sub , when they see the oasis and cannot Drink . Reflection is sure to follow .
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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 6:27:24 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I imagine all you kick em to the curb folks would feel real proud if the kicked one came back in six months to mention that someone finally got her to a doctor, and the outbursts stopped once the brain tumor was removed or the thyroid problem was diagnosed. The most common cause of uncontrolled outbursts happens to be thyroid. This from one of the nation's premier pediatric neurologist's, professor at Colunbia Presbyterian Medical School.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 6:40:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lilone2087

i have recently blown up at my Master several times, and i have come to realize that physical punishments like whipping spanking or flogging do not do anything to me. What emotional or mental punishments are out there that we could try?


He could make you beat a puppy.  Emotional punishments are generally related to emotional attachment.  But then, if physical punishment is not reinforced by an emotional attachment, it generally leads to anger. 

Maybe the more effective approach would be to question why you have blown up at your master several times.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 7:04:50 PM   
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Status: offline </image/blank.gif> i have recently blown up at my Master several times, and i have come to realize that physical punishments like whipping spanking or flogging do not do anything to me. What emotional or mental punishments are out there that we could try?


lilone,

this will be a second to LA. If you continue with mthe present behavior, look for him to find a new partner.

CP

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 7:39:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		~fr~ I too wonder the why of your anger.  However, barring any physical reason as suggested by desFIP (a very good suggestion too, I might add), I am wondering where the cause of the anger comes from.  Is he somehow responsible?  (Sorry but I am not one to think that simply because one prefers to be called Master, that makes him 100% right 100% of the time).  Perhaps you are not to blame and the problem lies with your Master, not within yourself and perhaps that is why you blow up at him.  Somewhere during my lifetime I have heard "it takes two to tango".   Two to make it work and two to break it apart.

As far as emotional or mental punishments, I could hook your Master up with my former Master (he was the king of mindfucks and emotional abuse). 

edited to add the ~fr~ The response was directed at the OP not CelticPrince.

< Message edited by angelic -- 3/7/2008 7:41:41 PM >

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 7:40:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you don't like humiliation, that would be a good one. My Dom once punished me by having me buy diapers at the store (which was fine because I'm used to that) and then asking the cashier if there was a bathroom that I could use to change in (which was the punishment). I was COMPLETELY mortified. That was a hard one for me to deal with for some reason.

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RE: Emotional Punishments - 3/7/2008 7:48:36 PM   
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