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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 5:13:21 AM

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Ron beat me to it. He made a good point.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 5:14:23 AM

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Ron beat me to it. He made a good point.

LMAO he did, didn't he?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 5:42:42 AM

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she has mad clear from the begining is that is she doesnt like when i masterbate.

Why don't you make it clear to her that you are the dominant in the relationship. I can't believe she is having such a huge issue with something you can't control.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 6:33:05 AM

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Does she have an issue with masturbation in general perhaps?
Do you?

Her insecurity is her problem...but your insecurity about failing her because she is afraid she has failed you isYOUR issue.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 6:47:20 AM

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i got a couple of questions thatll probably get me flamed, but oh well.
i spent half my live on the 'rez' so flame on.
1. did she grow up 'traditionaly'? there are alot of unspoken rules
about how a man is to behave sexualy and masturbating is high on the list.
and 2. has it ever been mentioned between you that you are younger?
as in, maybe you have just a bit more stamina?
oh, and 3. are you going to come back to the thread?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 6:53:29 AM

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tell your slave that if she becomes aware of you shining the rod when you are getting your snore on that she wrap her lips around the motherfucker and get it handled. end of joke, she is inadequate, if she is bitching and not sucking.
Ron

That's what I'd do.

People masturbate because it feels good (really good) and unless she has something better to offer that moment, why would she try to deny you that.

I'd never demand that m'Lord stop anything that he enjoys, though I reiderate, in this case I'd offer up my services.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 6:59:34 AM

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Who's the dom?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 7:02:37 AM

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tell your slave that if she becomes aware of you shining the rod when you are getting your snore on that she wrap her lips around the motherfucker and get it handled. end of joke, she is inadequate, if she is bitching and not sucking.
Ron

Maybe she should already be there, hmmmmm?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 7:16:10 AM

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I must agree with some of the others. If she is on the rag and you aren't getting sex from her, what kind of sub is she. her sorry ass should be under the covers placing her mouth on your head so there is no waste of your seed. Remember you are the Dom here and it is all about you not her.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:00:48 AM

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In my opinion, What you do or not do is not the issue.
That she is apparently controling you or trying to manipulate you should be the issue.
Masterbate when YOU want to.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:07:35 AM

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this is my first D/s relationship and i am getting the idea that she is topping from the bottem ... i am still learning and thank you all for the advice. any readings or adive on signs that she is topping or way to counter or keep her from doing it? i am still not 100% on how to discipline her because she is a pain slut. thank you again for your advice

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:26:48 AM

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In my opinion: her conveying her feelings is not a problem...however, trying to dictate your actions based upon her feelings ...that she is shaming/guilting you ...and the fact that you are buying into it...those might be issues.

But this is your relationship with her...you get to define it, not me, nor anyone else here.
It comes down to what do you want?
What does she want?
Are your wants compatible?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:28:13 AM

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Tell her that her opinion of you masturbating has been noted. End of story. If she opens her mouth, and it's not to wrap her lips around you, tell her it's "in or out", your way or the highway.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:34:49 AM

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tell your slave that if she becomes aware of you shining the rod when you are getting your snore on that she wrap her lips around the motherfucker and get it handled. end of joke, she is inadequate, if she is bitching and not sucking.
Ron

Maybe she should already be there, hmmmmm?

This, right here, is pure genius. And for the right sort of folk, a very win-win way to do life.

Ron

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:36:16 AM

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this is my first D/s relationship and i am getting the idea that she is topping from the bottem ... i am still learning and thank you all for the advice. any readings or adive on signs that she is topping or way to counter or keep her from doing it? i am still not 100% on how to discipline her because she is a pain slut. thank you again for your advice

No, discipline needed that I see, you either tell her to get on that fucker like it is the last cock to suck on earth, or you tell her that it is your rod to shine.

Ron

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:43:13 AM

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no pain, no sex.
chain her up for a week and
she only gets to watch You

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:43:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: JakkthePirate

this is my first D/s relationship and i am getting the idea that she is topping from the bottem ... i am still learning and thank you all for the advice. any readings or adive on signs that she is topping or way to counter or keep her from doing it? i am still not 100% on how to discipline her because she is a pain slut. thank you again for your advice

There is that hideous "topping from the bottom" phrase again!!!

She cannot TOP you if you stop BOTTOMING to her! No discipline required unless you are going to start disciplining yourself. Put on your big boy drawers man.

Edited to add......being the evil bitch that I am. She wouldn't get to touch it for a good long while but instead, be forced to watch.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 8:52:15 AM

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I don't like it if a guy jerks off in front of me, why should he when I am there to take care of it? When guys ask me if I want to see them jerk off, I say, No thank you, but if you want something more fabulous to happen to your cock, let's discuss.

If he does it when I am not present, more power to him, hopefully he is thinking of me when he does it.

I don't think she is topping from below, which is getting to be a tiresome term, but more that she is way too insecure about her desirability and her position in the relationship.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 9:13:33 AM

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You might want to see if you can find a kink friendly doctor on the web. Sexomnia is connected with restles leg syndrom and sleep walkers (all three are connected). There is a medication that may be able to help you with this and although it is kind of funny it can actually be somewhat seriouse as in men with this problem have odly enough been known to unknowingly rape woman believe it or not. As far as your sub is concerned, after you do your research on the subject you can gain insite to properly put her in her place.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 9:14:23 AM

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See, that's what happens when you sleep with a sub. Too much lovey-dovey.

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