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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 4:58:27 PM

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And the convo takes a decidedly unappealing turn.... crusty.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 6:34:28 PM

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In Regards to you masterbating while you sleep! I'd probally turn this around and tell her that I wanted her to start sucking my cock the very moment she found me masterbating in my sleep.   Hey, why not use her mouth sleeping too.

Make her starting rubbing one off without you around, regardless if she wants to or not.   Get her used to enjoying and understanding what it's like to masterbate without a partner there.   Basically, Masterbating is an act of pleasuring oneself. She needs to understand that this act brings you pleasure, regardless if you are awake or sleeping.

I get the same impression as other people that she is either insecure or mentally conditioned that masterbating is a bad thing.

She appears to be trying to assert a form of Chasity or Orgasm control over you.

She might have issues with feeling like you are not giving her enough sex or using her enough.   Basically, she's being a greedy little whore that wants you to fuck her brains out constantly, or is fearful that if you cum you won't be able to cum again right away when you are having sex with her.    She's probally orgasm goal driven when it comes to sex.   Some women get all funny if you don't cum right away.   Still they can get funny if you cum and keep on wanting to fuck them, as if they can never satisfy you enough. I actually went through a similar situation that you described here.   The issue was professionally addressed in counseling, and it was a self esteem and insecurity issue on her end.

What's important for you to realize is that this is not your problem, it's really an issue she is having.   I would say it's your problem if you masterbate and are done with Sex for the day because of it.   I could see you being the problem only if your masterbating was deeply effecting your sex life with her.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 7:10:36 PM

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i have a former friend with benefits who said i do the same...he gave me a magazine article he read on "Sexsomnia", but perhaps because he was a guy, he actually found it "cute"...chicks are funny sometimes. Glad i don't have to fuck 'em....

Does this mean I aint gettin any after the Castle?

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 7:13:12 PM

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If my sub was really dumb I would lay the blame for all of my horrible actions due to "sleep walking."

Yeah, I fucked your sister...But baby, I was asleep.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/6/2008 9:38:37 PM

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Um...I know you're new to things, but this post kind've blew me away. First of all, that your sub would possibly care what you did in your sleep. It's not your fault that you have a medical condition. How can she take it personally when you're not doing it conciously? If you do it more often when you're not getting any...well, you're in charge there - demand some. I knew that even when I was brand-spanking new to this...the dom is in charge.

As far as punishment, I'd say require her to go to therapy, and keep on wanking off until she stops being such a little bitch about it.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/7/2008 7:02:44 AM

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Jakk, Here is my opinion plain and simple. YOU are the Dom/Top/Master. Whether you spank it asleep or awake, It is your dick not hers. YOU decide how it gets played with. PERIOD.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/7/2008 7:03:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: Constrictor1
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P.S. It's my peepee and I will wash it as fast and soapy as I wanna.

*snicker*

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/7/2008 9:03:44 AM

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So, my slave would gladly and eagerly top me from the bottom, if I let her. She'd also drop me like a bad habit. But that's our dynamic.

Jakk,

I wouldn't sweat the issue too much, but you and she really do need to talk about this. It sounds like you're only half discussing an issue that clearly is bothering you both. Until you both take the time and effort to work it out, you're both going to feel like there's a problem. Being dominant, for me, doesn't mean I get to jerk off whenever the hell I want to. Yet it does mean that my girl knows if I want to and I think it's not going to bother anyone, I will.

You mention you do it when you're not getting enough. During her cycle, you can just take a nice long shower before bed. You don't need to explain it to her, and sure it sounds annoying, but it might help.

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RE: Sensetive Subject - 3/7/2008 9:42:40 AM

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Kudos for wanting to take control of your life... first start with your sub. She is very insecure about your masterbation because it makes her feel like she is not good enough. If YOU really want to stop the behavior then opt for a chastisy device, but don't do it because she said so, from the way you make it sound is like she is punking you. Maybe you are just so enamored w/ this new relationship, maybe she is your first sub and you do not know anybetter... I don't know.

What I do know is this:
Masterbation is a part of normal sexuality
The Dominat member controls the sexual aspects of the realitionship

But making you feel guilty for actions you have no control over is immature (at best) or manipulation (at worst) and counter productive to the real issue.

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