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ORIGINAL: SophiaCorrupted

I'm pretty sure they use it for the same reason people use words like "Slut", "whore" and "slave" in their profile. They think it's demeaning to themselves. Like a tame way of calling themselves a faggot, or something similiar. Implying that while they might not be a homosexual, they have the "homosexual" qualities that a boi (by definition.) would have...passiveness, being a bottom, etc. It makes sense to me...

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I won't speak for boijen ...

I know people who identify many different ways and prefer certain pronouns.. sometimes he sometimes she.. for the most part, I'm comfortable with both.. my boi prefers female pronouns although I know she doesn't project feminine in any way at all.

We lesbians are a confusing lot with our gender stuff and like many things, its always good to ask -- despite my constant and consistent exposure to all kinds of gender queers, I often still ask.  And then, someone changes how they like to be refered to, so you can't win.  *grin*

I was at SELF one year, went to the dungeon dressed in fatigues and a black tank top.. jump boots, not the most unusual outfit for me, but a bit different.. I still scream femme -- had a very confused man look at me and say.. "sir, er... ma'am... er... " then he just sighed.. I kissed him.. which was even more confusing I'm sure.  LOL 

Life should be fun.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

Official news for the members of the boijen fan club...:

Boijen doesn't care what pronoun is used. SHe/it could care less and considers gender fairly fluid in regards to she/he/itself

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ORIGINAL: GothicTopHat

Wow, so Wikipedia is *the* source for subculture-specific definitions?  "Boi" is a fairly common term in the goth community, predominantly used by girls, but also reflexively by "bois", to refer to male goths who tend to have/demonstrate a feminine side, however manifested, or as a term of endearment to be differentiated from "boy" which tends to connote immaturity.  For instance, the word "fag" hardly has a universal meaning -- it means one thing in the gay community and another thing in the British cancer stick community.  In fact, this is the first time I've heard that "boi" has a different meaning in the gay community.  BTW, the French word is pronounced, roughly, "bwah", as in the "Bwah zsahk", ("Bois Jacque"), the woods the 101st Airborne defended in the Battle of the Bulge during WWII. 

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen
Official news for the members of the boijen fan club...:
Boijen doesn't care what pronoun is used. SHe/it could care less and considers gender fairly fluid in regards to she/he/itself.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
If you look up *shit* in the dictionary, it has a lot of meanings, too.  Still, most people know the most common one.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

I don't understand. On the net all you have is words...so if you're really trying to get a point across...like making yourself appealing to someone...one would think that you would do anything you could to be clear. That would include looking up the meaning of a word to make sure you're using the right one right?

So what is it with straight guys on BDSM sites in paricular using the word boi to describe themselves? I really just don't understand what they think when they use it. "Oh! I'm gonna stand out!"...by using an inappropriate word to describe yourself you only look like an idiot.

So here's a bit of info...


From http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boi_%28gender%29

Boi is a term used within the lesbian community to denote a submissive butch in the BDSM community and a young butch in the butch-femme community. It is also used as a term of endearment for butches by femmes.


It may also be used in the gay community to refer to a young-appearing (or relatively young) bisexual or gay male, especially one who has effeminate characteristics. The term can also be used by anyone who wishes to distinguish from heterosexual or heteronormative identities. The term is also commonly used by those who are female to male transgendered.[1]


It may also refer to a female-born or female-bodied person—sometimes transsexual, transgendered, or intersexed, sometimes not—that generally does not identify as, or only partially identifies as feminine, female, a girl, or a woman. Some "bois" identify as one or more of these, but they almost always identify as lesbians, dykes, or queers. Many are also genderqueer or practice genderfuck. Bois may prefer a range of pronouns, including "he", "she", or gender-neutral pronouns such as "hir", "sie", "zie", and "ey".[2]


The term has found increasing usage in the larger LGBT and mainstream cultures.

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

I will never misspell a word to denote whether someone is a girl or a boy or a purple alien.  It seems silly to me.