stella41b
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Try actually READING the posts, and the many threads this person has started, before passing judgement on what people have said. You can't possibly have an understanding of it if you only read the bits that pertained to YOUR past life.
Its a problem we often try to see ourselves in other peoples misery then feel an obligation to stand up for them as if we were standing up for ourselves. The problem with posts like this is that it provides a nice little cushy there there attitude which may be was Doll thinks she wants but is the last thing she actually NEEDS, sometimes people need a short sharp reality check. However I would suggest that if she is doing this on various forums and they are MORE frustrated with her then there is really nothing we can do here.
Also Doll I thought you decided against posting on here now?
hehe I ended up clicking and reading and if people talk about me/to me, I have trouble not responding LOL
I've read the OP and the entire thread. I'm taking the OP's story purely at face value. As yet I haven't formed a definite opinion. Therefore I'm addressing this posting directly to the OP.
Enough people here know who I am, so this saves space. Those who don't are welcome to check out my profile and whatever is found on my sigline, but suffice to say I'm a transgendered female. I don't like sex, and I don't because I am unable to achieve - through me being who I am - that level of intimacy and feeling with another person which I desire and crave. Is this me and my attitudes, or is this because I haven't been with the right person? I don't know, all I know is my position is what is stated above.
I have been abused. And it has been this abuse together with my gender issues and not receiving the help I needed in the past which caused me to live in my own little fantasy world of gender and identity confusion for almost all of my life. I was born with the wrong genitalia, on which I am judged by many people and this makes my life abnormally difficult and stressful. I have hurt other people, I have deceived myself and other people, there exists also the possibility I might have abused other people but if this is true, it was never intended and I did so unknowingly, but all along I know and realise that I am ultimately responsible for everything that I think, do, say, and how I have treated people in the past.
I got through through trying to find the truth in answers to questions I was asking of myself, also to questions other people were asking of me, through being responsible for the choices I make with regard to myself and to my relationships with other people, and the help and support of a couple of friends, the few members of my family who still accept me, the Dommes who took the time to develop a relationship with me and provide me with emotional support and help me find the answers to myself, and the people I came across in the BDSM community. I have also done a lot of research from a wide variety of sources in books, on the Internet, been on various fora, and even used my position in theatre and my artistic work, been to see doctors, medical professionals, counsellors, and so on.
However through all this I have not just been able to overcome many of my own issues, but also create a career, a new original theory of modern theatre and through this find what is proving to be a reliable, successful method of helping many other people. I am not a medical professional, have no clinical or professional training, I am just a creative, artistic person who happens to write and have a talent for writing and directing plays, nothing more.
My theory on theatre is based on my own individual interpretation of the Stanislavski Method of acting, based on the works of Rudolf Steiner, Noam Chomsky and the American psychiatrist Dr Eric Berne.
I have been following this thread all through and I see a pattern.
I see the OP is posting, and in posting she is seeking to enter into a transaction with someone here. This has been recognized by many people who have responded to the transaction, but as yet there has been no payoff, no exchange.
Are we dealing with a victim here? I could claim I guess that I am in a worse situation to the OP because she is female and not transgendered, and in a position to fully function sexually as a female. However there are issues which prevent this. However this isn't important and has no significance because each and every one of us in some way has been deprived of something in our lives. We have all experienced difficulties in our lives and been misjudged and hurt by other people. We have all had issues about ourselves. We can all seek and without too much effort find reasons why we are victims in life. You can only be a victim if you choose to be a victim.
However I do not wish to label the OP as a victim. She claims to be seeking advice and help.
So okay. We have reached nine pages in this thread of beating around the bush. It's now time I feel to get specific and for direct answers to direct questions.
Therefore...
Statements such as 'I don't like sex' are too general. Vague references to other people such as therapists and men off the Internet also isn't helpful. What is it about sex specifically that you don't like?
What is it that you're hoping to achieve by communicating with others on this thread?
You are sharing with us information about you and your life. Why? What are you expecting in return for sharing this information with us? Please be specific.
Direct questions, so direct answers please.
If you feel you cannot be that specific or give direct answers here you're more than welcome to PM me.
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