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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:43:31 PM   
dollparts85


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swtnsparkling, no this isnt a pile of horse shit. I had a therapist that would get very uncomfortable when I tried to talk about my sexual abuse when I was a child. He did refer me to a woman therapist to help me heal though. He would try to make a joke out of it too. And he was obsessed with my weight. My weight stemmed from the abuse I endured as a child. Now, being with my Master, I've finally gotten over my fear of someone else hurting me, my need to control my life, which was the only way I could survive as a child, thus my weight gain. I'm now starting to lose the weight, and I'm feeling damn good about myself now.


Im happy you found the solution for yourself .. congratulations .. Im sure it hasnt been easy and it is great you are on the road to recovery....... and I agree that not all therapists are able to deal with everything .. but I do have a hard time believing that a person can see such a large number of therapists and professionals and that every single one of them are incompetent.....


I did not say they all were. I loved the care I was recieving at Day Treatment...it was awesome...I felt like they really cared. I had a case worker and an ICM. They both took me out to lunch several times...the ICM took me to get my hair cut (and paid for it ) I saw the psychiatrist about once a month there...and they always took care of my meds...if I said it wasn't working, they would change it. They would drive me to doctors appointments...my ICM would take me and another girl to the YMCA a few times a week. My case worker suggested I move into a group home...which we were going to do...I was on the waiting list and I went to visit it and everything... but then my brother and sister in law needed help with their bills and stuff and I ended up moving in with them instead (though that didn't last more than a few months)

I also love the nutrition clinic I am going to now...they are great. My nutritionist knwos everything! I swear...she even cured my leg cramps that were so severe I couldn't walk at times (apparently I only needed to drink tonic water! LOL my gp couldn't even tell me how to fix it)

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:44:53 PM   
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But I've been reading a lot of posts and frankly my gut says..................Horseshit



I think its point out able to anyone that doesnt realise that this is an on going thing, on many threads with many many differant issues so maybe there can be more understanding about the jaded responses.
What the op has had to deal with of course is very difficult, but at the same time people dont appriciate putting emotional effort into something to be told basically to fuck off all the time.


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:46:16 PM   
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I also love the nutrition clinic I am going to now...they are great. My nutritionist knwos everything! I swear...she even cured my leg cramps that were so severe I couldn't walk at times (apparently I only needed to drink tonic water! LOL my gp couldn't even tell me how to fix it)


Not the same as your leg sensitivity on the other board then?


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:51:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		doll, good luck to you...i think the blog/journal idea is great, and take a new pic of yourself and try to look happy in it, maybe it will catch on...

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:52:22 PM   
MstrDennynSlave


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Status: offline 		My therapist suggested gastric bypass as well. I even asked my physician about it. He said "no". He had too many patients die from the surgical complications. He told me once I healed from the abuse, things would be totally different for me. How right he was. One thing I never thought I would be able to do was give up control to someone else. Having had to have control all my life, I actually thought I was cut out to be a Domme. But I soon found out that I wasnt. I'm so much happier now as a slave than I have ever been in my entire life. Master and I both thank our lucky stars for the day that I decided to meet him, after he had wooed me for months........lol. Good luck.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:54:30 PM   
dollparts85


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Status: offline 		no...I still have pain when I touch my legs...and like constant joint pain...but not the cramping much anymore...still sometimes but not like it was...I would get them like in my thigh which was very very painful...and they would last for hours...now I only get them like if I stretch while laying in bed...and its more like my feet and lower legs...and it lasts maybe 30 seconds to a minute max.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:56:47 PM   
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doll, good luck to you...i think the blog/journal idea is great, and take a new pic of yourself and try to look happy in it, maybe it will catch on...


I have done livejournal on and off but no one ever replies to my journal and it just seems pointless... :(

I have another picture, I'll upload it. I took it at the same time as this one but I'm smiling in it hehe

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:56:49 PM   
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Im going to bed, I dont think i have the compassion to not get snippy any more
Good luck Doll, seriously take some of this advice rather than conveiniantly ignoring parts of it, I do hope you get better.


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 4:00:08 PM   
dollparts85


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 4:02:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

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doll, good luck to you...i think the blog/journal idea is great, and take a new pic of yourself and try to look happy in it, maybe it will catch on...


I have done livejournal on and off but no one ever replies to my journal and it just seems pointless... :(

I have another picture, I'll upload it. I took it at the same time as this one but I'm smiling in it hehe


And there is the answer to all of this.  Attention.  Attention.  Attention.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 4:06:48 PM   
dollparts85


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Status: offline 		No...I like to talk things out with people...it makes me feel better...if I just write it out, it's going to keep going through my head over and over and over...it won't stop. Writing it out and having no response is just like saying in my head. It does not help.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 4:13:38 PM   
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Venting makes me feel better. Talking things out...helps stop the racing thoughts...

No...I like to talk things out with people...it makes me feel better...if I just write it out, it's going to keep going through my head over and over and over...it won't stop. Writing it out and having no response is just like saying in my head. It does not help.


a_suggestion?
http://www.realmentalhealth.com/

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 4:44:05 PM   
dollparts85


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:00:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you don't like sex then why are you having it? For the moment you could give it up and give up birth control pills which are contraindicated by your other medications. That way you could get your mood disorders under control and then be in shape to tackle difficult therapy. And if the assigned therapist refuses to discuss difficult subjects such as early abuse, waltz into the clinic manager's office and demand reassignment. Make complaints about him and his lack of training and insist the complaints get into their files.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:03:41 PM   
dollparts85


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Status: offline 		I'm on birth control to regulate my period. I do not get a period naturally which is unhealthy.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:06:58 PM   
dollparts85


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Status: offline 		And the two mood stabilizers I was on that interfer with my birth control have other bad side effects...the Topamax makes it impossible to concentrate...and the Trileptal made me itch all over...constantly...it was unbarable.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:37:26 PM   
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dollparts85I need to stop sleeping with men I just meet online LOL they just use me and then disappear *sighs* I need to get a real relationship and go slow and get used to everything...and not have sex within an hour of meeting
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dollparts85We had talked online and on the phone and cammed for a long time before we met...
 If  you always tell the truth  you don't have to remember what  you've typed

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:37:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		well, be some happy..you manage to talk about it..in public.  That is a good thing :)
PErhaps a little step..but it is one..and many little steps...will be once a big one.




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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:42:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think getting off the internet would probably help you, this isn't the place for this variety of advice on mental issues. I realize that statement is self-defeating, but this is one of the most depressing things I've ever seen on the internet.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 5:43:42 PM   
dollparts85


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dollparts85I need to stop sleeping with men I just meet online LOL they just use me and then disappear *sighs* I need to get a real relationship and go slow and get used to everything...and not have sex within an hour of meeting
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dollparts85We had talked online and on the phone and cammed for a long time before we met...
 If  you always tell the truth  you don't have to remember what  you've typed


What is confusing you? We had sex within an hour of meeting IN PERSON...we talked online first...and on the phone...

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