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RE: The Big O - 3/9/2008 10:16:36 PM

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but getting the big "O" in substantial numbers on a regular basis is too important to me to be with someone that doesn't care about that.

Cali, I do hope that you "D" meets that mrequirement.

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RE: The Big O - 3/9/2008 10:20:08 PM

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Sometimes its just not going to go down

lucious,

Now there is a problem that all maledom would wish for. Too many Cialis pills perhaps?

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RE: The Big O - 3/9/2008 10:25:30 PM

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Since most men are not capable of achieving the breadth and scope of my kind of O's,

Red,

Well perhaps not but we can wait patiently for some medico to discover a new cell that will create an energizer bunny cock> then watch out.

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RE: The Big O - 3/9/2008 10:34:24 PM

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but getting the big "O" in substantial numbers on a regular basis is too important to me to be with someone that doesn't care about that.

Cali, I do hope that you "D" meets that mrequirement.

Thank you CP, but I'm D-less at the moment. But taking applications.

Cali

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RE: The Big O - 3/9/2008 11:11:18 PM

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girlie,

Let me say this! you have become the envy of mana, many submissives and slaves.

CP

Nah, au contrar, CP, quite the opposite. I tend to receive much criticism and as a result, I always hesitate to share such things. This is simply one way he pushes me and uses me. Others experience highs that I'll never see. We are all unique; nothing to envy.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 4:56:17 AM

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my Master reads everything i write on these boards but that doesn't change my responses in the least.

my Master wants me to be His slut, to fully engage and express my sexuality, to never stiffle an orgasm, to never hold back that kind of response or any kind of response for that matter. He has given me permission and instruction to allow my body to respond. i do not hold back my groans, my cries, my response to pain, nor do i hold back my response to pleasure. i give everything to Him this way. Sometimes the suffering and the pleasure meld together. i'm not sure that He would be disappointed if i didn't orgasm and i don't believe He feels He owes me an orgasm, not all of our play involves my pleasure nor would i want it to. Frankly, i find when males put so much emphasis on the female's orgasm, it can prompt some to 'fake it'.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 7:11:20 AM

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One of the ways he enjoys use of me is in my orgasms. He has brought them to such a state where they can actually be overwhelming and painful to me, leaving me nearly passed out. He continues to push them harder, and for more. He controls when I have them, and how intense they will be. They are for his pleasure, not mine. And often times the physical intensity of it is not pleasurable at all for me, but the energetic, mental and emotional connection we make as he conducts them is heaven. A friend of mine once had the opportunity to watch and said it was actually a bit intimidating and scary to her. Another friend once left the room because the noises I was making were freaking her out.

He owns the orgasms and they are for his pleasure, whenever he wants them. I do not have them unless ordered. He often times enjoys holding me at a prolonged edge until I am in tearful agony and begging for relief....which may or may not come, depending on his whim. He plays with my orgasms a lot, building up an edge in me that I can't stand any longer and then toys with me some more. I'm usually exhausted when it's all over, and pretty delirious from it all. My body is for his pleasure, and this is one of the ways he enjoys exercising his control over it.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 8:49:25 AM

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It is the same for me too. Daddy's pleasure comes first when he is drained he is done bottom line. I can't achieve an orgasm with just sex alone so I have to deal with that on my own. I got a a vibrating bullet hehehe it does the job

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 8:52:34 AM

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(Master always reads my responses)
My ratio is also 2:1 it pleases Master to make me cum. I can cum when we are playing whenever i need to. he likes to take me to the edge and just hold me there until he is ready to make me cum. So Master likes to get me aroused.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 9:10:28 AM

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Nah, au contrar, CP, quite the opposite. I tend to receive much criticism and as a result, I always hesitate to share such things. This is simply one way he pushes me and uses me. Others experience highs that I'll never see. We are all unique; nothing to envy.

girlie

unique we are, but yours is in the unique, unique catagory.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 9:13:24 AM

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my Master wants me to be His slut, to fully engage and express my sexuality, to never stiffle an orgasm, to never hold back that kind of response or any kind of response for that matter. He has given me permission and instruction to allow my body to respond. i do not hold back my groans, my cries, my response to pain, nor do i hold back my response to pleasure.

eyes,

I have to tell you, I do like his style!
Thanks for your input.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 9:26:31 AM

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If your Dom doesn't care for your needs then find another Dom. BDSM is a two-way street and BOTH partners need to take care of each other.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 9:51:53 AM

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I have to disagree on the OP assertion that there is less and less concern about the submissive’s sexual enjoyment. It has been my experience both in power exchange life and especially in vanilla land that men are increasingly obsessed with a woman having an orgasm. Often my experiences it was get her one so I can now enjoy myself which sucks on my end.

I was first trained and must say follow to this day that my orgasm/pleasure in anything is great but not the goal/plan for my use by my owner unless it is specifically they want that in the moment. To be honest the worse sexual experiences for me are when I think people, including my Master, are doing something only because they think I expect it. My Master or anyone obsessing to make sure it was good for me makes it almost a guarantee it will not be. It just does not make it very relaxing on my mind.

I am very fortunate that I orgasm quite easily, but I think sex in a significant power exchange is no different then anything else in terms of how the dynamic plays out. I want/need my Master to care and fulfill for my overall pleasure and needs I just do not want him to be concerned in the moments at all about my immediate pleasure and happiness. Sex and quantity of sex to me is a compatibility issue and one that I sought out intentionally and got more then I could have ever hoped for.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 10:03:20 AM

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If your Dom doesn't care for your needs then find another Dom. BDSM is a two-way street and BOTH partners need to take care of each other.

I agree with your statement. Whatever works for the two is the right way, whether there is orgasm denial, free orgasms, or whatever. If both are happy with the situation then all is well.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 10:05:49 AM

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I don't like Overstock that much. I prefer Amazon.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 10:46:22 AM

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Sometimes its just not going to go down

lucious,

Now there is a problem that all maledom would wish for. Too many Cialis pills perhaps?

CP

I don't consider it a problem, usually. I rather enjoy being able to go for extended periods while I send my partner through the roof repeatedly, and in the end leaving her so spent she can barely move. That's gratifying to me. If I want to cum quickly I'll just masterbate, thank you.

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Since most men are not capable of achieving the breadth and scope of my kind of O's,

Red,

Well perhaps not but we can wait patiently for some medico to discover a new cell that will create an energizer bunny cock> then watch out.

CP

Ever hear of the Sybian? That thing will send a woman places shes never been before.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 10:47:26 AM

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I refer to the "D"'s concern as to whether their "s" has received any gratification sexually by their D/s interaction, wheather it is based on B/D or S/M

Every couple is different...whether orgasm control, orgasm denial, orgasm when ordered, or orgasm when you please. Whatever works is right for that couple.

I don't see a lack of concern for a partner's orgasms as being more prevalent than several years ago. If there appears to be that lack of concern, may i suggest that it's an online thing....big bad online Doms beating on their chests claiming that a Dom should have no concern for a sub's sexual gratification...or any other need for that matter.

In reality, no sub would stay with a Dom who did not satisfy needs...whether sexual or any other kind of needs. A Dom who satisfies himself with no thought to his sub will not likely have that sub for long. Let me be quite frank. The Doms i have most interaction with are those near to my own age. These men are in their later 50s into their 60s. It's not easy at that age for these Doms to find a sub, or so they tell me. I know some subs like having an older Dom, however, there are not a lot of subs willing to be with a Dom is in his 60s. It would be rather silly of these Doms to take the "I don't care" attitude when they find a compatible submissive.

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How does it go for you?

I have a wonderful and very satisfying sex life. He enjoys my orgasms. I enjoy his. I spent a good part of my life not being able to orgasm easily. Now that i am capable of multiple orgasms, i have a lot to make up for and he doesn't mind being a part of that. If he considered that a problem, we wouldn't be together.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 12:35:39 PM

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Master is very concerned that I get sexual gratification.

Now if only my body would cooperate.

He says he's made it his life's goal for me to reach "The Big O." I can reach it just fine on my own, but when we're together... it just doesn't happen.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 1:13:43 PM

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I know with me if I happen to notice my sub board watching tv or something like that I get a hell of a kick walking up to her and saying spread your legs my little slut and cum for me know. It kind of breaks the monotony of a boring day. I sometimes think she would like it better if I didnt think of things like that .... Nothing like dinner and a good show I allways say.

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RE: The Big O - 3/10/2008 2:10:50 PM

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