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ORIGINAL: SinLee
If you were going to meet someone out of state, not knowing anyone else from that area (not referring to anyone in particular, but most of my interests are out of state), what precautions would you take to keep yourself safe?  I mean locally, I have people to either come with me, or nearby enough to come get me if needed, but what should one do if they wish to meet someone further away than any of their personal aquaintances even? (this may have been addressed somewhere but um, we're on page 42 lol)

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ORIGINAL: SinLee

Dear Cali,

If you were going to meet someone out of state, not knowing anyone else from that area (not referring to anyone in particular, but most of my interests are out of state), what precautions would you take to keep yourself safe?  I mean locally, I have people to either come with me, or nearby enough to come get me if needed, but what should one do if they wish to meet someone further away than any of their personal aquaintances even? (this may have been addressed somewhere but um, we're on page 42 lol)
sin

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
once again I am feeling like I'm not good enough .. I know thecommon denominator is me.  Pleasejust shoot me?

I abandoned my post on the pity pot, so it's free if you would like to sit and rest a bit.  I must tell you though, that while the common denominator is you, the problem is not that you are not good enough.  The problem is that it is not easy to find a strong man, with a good heart, who is firm in his convictions, who is solid in his integrity, and who has the courage to pursue that which would enrich his life.  You, my friend, are worth all of that.

Cali
(yes, yes, I know... "heal thyself"... I hear you)

What she said. Including the footnote.

And repeated with "woman" and "her" substituted where relevant. Men hurt too at times.

It feels like just worthless you at the moment GT; actually you're not worthless and it's not just you; we've all felt the same at times. And then at times we come back out into the sunlit plains. Doesn't help you today, but we'll all keep telling you anyway.

Mind you, blondestar's comment is perhaps more sensible and focusses on the real issues. She says to tell you "Fuck all men - I'd rather be with a kitten".

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner




  Dear Cali

I wonder if you're able to answer a query relating to oral sex? (The idea that a man lets a girl put his penis in her mouth. Why she would want to beats me, but I'm pretty broad-minded and although it all sounds a bit "intimate" and "racy" to me, I'm willing to give it a try).

Anyway .... as a variation on a simple theme it can be fun (so I'm told) for the girl to have a cup of iced water and a cup of hot water and for her to take a mouthful of one before inserting the penis in her mouth, fool around a while, then repeat with a mouthful from the other. I'm told it's interesting to use alcoholic beverages too in a similar way.

Are there any other variations you, or indeed your readers, can suggest or recommend?

Explorer
(Who's just come back from Africa and who only knows about the missionary thing)

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
Are there any other variations you, or indeed your readers, can suggest or recommend?

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ORIGINAL: Lumus
Assuming you can relate, how do you deal with experiencing a cold, borderline murderous, rage?

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ORIGINAL: cjan

Excellent advice, Cali.

Living in Florida, where many motorists are armed, I prefer to have a baseball bat ( aluminum, of course ) in my vehicle. It makes those instances of having to deal with  road rage more manageable. And the consequences less drastic and permanent.