daddyncherry
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ORIGINAL: MissSCD You are worth more than what you are allowing yourself to accept. You do not deserve it. Continuing with this person is only going to cause more grief. He doesn't respect you. You are new, and do not understand players yet. This one has that label from me already. Run for the hills and find someone who will treat you like you deserve. Regards, MissSCD quote:
ORIGINAL: LittleGirl7 I'm new to lifestyles and this is my first time in this D/S relationship. My Master and I have been together for 6 months. He knows I love him and I do believe he loves me too. I've never felt happier. I love being with him and doing everything he tells me to, both as his slave and girlfriend. The only thing I'm still not sure whether I can take it is his desire to go sleep with other girls. Although he has assured me every time when we have this conversation that it's just for sex and nothing else, and that he will come back to me, I'm still upset. I've been trying real hard to accept it. At least, he never lies to me. If he wants to, he will tell me upfront. Although this hasn't happened yet, he really wants to test me in that regard, whether I could handle it or would leave him. I know it's a girlfriend's feeling, isn't it? Being a slave, my feeling wouldn't matter, right? My fear is not that he sleeps with anyone, but his being in touch with them after that while I'm present. Maybe it's too much to ask, as a slave girl. I know every relationship is different, but if anyone has this kind of feeling before, please give me some suggestions. Wow this is kind of a critical way to look at things...and quite judgemental. He is being honest with her, she says she's never been happier and he seems, by her OP, that he is trying to help lead her along the way slowly to help her adjust....How do you read player and the whole run to the hills type of caveat? Alot of people aren't wired to be sexually monogamous, not to mention it can be a big power exchange thing to do something along these lines...Or he could be like the ones who lie about it or the vanilla ones who cheat or stuff their desires for other people until they snap and leave the relationship cheating as they do so..... If she knows about this stuff from the beginning and is obviously trying to work through her inner struggles then its all good.....She wasn't mislead or deceived she is just having a hard time with certain parts of the adjustment and those things stem from her own insecuritites (not throwing stones at the OP, i'm speaking from personal experience) To the OP..... To add to OG's wonderful post i will add a bit from what i have learned along the way..... One human being cannot be every sexual experience or fantasy for the other....i can't be a short asian girl, or a tall leggy red head if those were fantasies of my Daddy....i cannot be 4 or 5 girls at once..He cannot gang bang me alone no matter how wonderful and good he is sexually....But in wanting to see him happy, i'd love to see him experience his fantasies and he mine. The other thing you may want to consider, and this isn't an absolute, but it is a pretty good general statement.....Men and women are different creatures, women, due to upbringing, society or whatever tend to make sex more of an emotional thing,more of an emotional connection......Men, not having that same baggage (but their own little suit cases just the same) have an easier time compartmentalizing things....as just sex, for the experience of it, for the physical/sexual feeling of it, for the conquer aspect. Best of luck to you on your journey and through this struggle.
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Hugs, cherry Walking through life, and fear with a smile on my face. Walking directly through the eye of the hurricane...and through to the other side..without fear....realizing everything will be okay. :) being obedient 1day at a time
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