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GiantSteps -> RE: M/F Why do you Feel Your Stronger then the other? (3/24/2008 12:07:40 AM)
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It's a strange question, EXODUS 1, and not one you can relly nail with a simple, single answer.
From a simple physical, anatomical point of view, men feel like they are the dominant because (on the average) they could beat the living snot out of women - muscular structure and so forth. It's not enlightened, but the fact of the matter is we're not all that far out of the trees at the moment and we're still animals, even if we wear watches and drive Hyundais.
In addition, throw in a little testosterone, which makes us fellas shave our faces on a regular basis and occasionally makes us thump our chests like a silverback gorilla. Once again, you may not like it and it might not be "right," but it's science you can't argue with.
Toss in traditional sexual roles as taught by mom and dad to son and daughter, and there you have pretty much the complete "Ordinary" package that set up those Male/female prototypes.
Now, toss all that out the window in here.
Male and Female prototypes don't really exist in the BDSM society; ours are chosen, not instinctual roles. There are female and male Dominants and female and male submissives, and they serve or are served by any combination of homo-, hetro- or bi-sexual prefernces. Strange as it might seem, the BDSM community is more advanced in their conception of dominance than the instinctual actions of the nilla community.
There are various and sundry reasons why any chosen Dom serves as Dominant, and any number of reasons why any chosen sub serves as submissive. For the most part, however - way down where the rubber meets the road - most who are active in the REAL BDSM community are acutely aware of the equality of both partners, even if they act in what appears to be unequal roles.
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