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Najakcharmer -> RE: M/F Why do you Feel Your Stronger then the other? (3/25/2008 12:59:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
1) The OP is concerned with the "male species"..
Er, the OP clearly failed Bio 101.
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2) Some men will spend vast amounts on beauty products. That's irrelevant, here. I'm talking of that which we associate with women (by we, I mean society). By and large, these mundane pursuits are associated with women, and, by extension, this supports the notion that women are concerned with more trivial matters and are not best placed to take on positions of authority.
Ahh.....but you will note that personal and social values as to what is "trivial" and "mundane" vary markedly by historical period and culture of origin as well as gender. In the 17th century in England, hair grooming and the art of caring for elaborate wigs was in no way trivial or mundane. It took some centuries for long, elaborately coiffed wigs to shift from being primarily a male decoration to being primarily for females. Go another dozen-odd centuries back to Egypt and it was even more crucial for males of rank to dress and decorate their hair and beards correctly. Around the turn of the 1900's, male costume and hair presentation started to be significantly de-emphasized and the trend towards uniformity and stability peaked around the 1920's to more or less freeze current expectations for male dress. Males are still largely wearing 1920's clothing and are no longer as concerned with elaborate personal grooming or with their hair.
I do not argue that Homo sapiens males and females are wired in the same way either physically or neurobiologically; evolution and current scientific research says differently. Our differences are not an arbitrary product of culture. However the social and economic value placed on the priorities and optimal skill sets of each gender definitely are. An excellent argument can be made in favor of the "gatherer" skill set significantly outperforming the "hunter" skill set in terms of adaptation to the demands of a high-tech, detail-oriented, communication-based work environment.
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In a nutshell, society places men in positions of authority; it follows, thus, society places value on mens' ability to accept the responsibility that comes with these roles (to the detriment of women).
While men are more likely to be wired for a competition/conflict/win/lose strategy, women are more likely to have the optimal skill set for a communication/negotiation/win/win "team player" strategy. This can be seen as "not taking responsibility" by men who consistently think in win/lose terms rather than team player terms. Neither strategy is inherently superior to the other, though one may be more effective than the other in a given situation. The best leaders are the ones who can use both strategies as situationally required.
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Ultimately, women who accept these values, set for them by society (i.e. men and women), are conspiring against themselves and deceiving themselves. And, women do accept these values - perhaps not in idea, but certainly in practice.
Ultimately to be truly a leader, truly a dominant force in your own as well as other people's lives, it is wise to discard the preconceptions of society and to develop your own style of leadership rather than mimicking an arbitrary "male" style. A strong, dominant woman may well not have the same priorities or use the same strategies as a strong, dominant man - and that does not make her any less dominant, or any less effective at accomplishing the things she chooses.
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