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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 7:46:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: MidOhioDomme

I've spent a lot of years exploring the D/s world, learning what it's all about. But I've come to the conclusion that most in it are living out their fantasies and, as such, are disassociating from the reality of life.

Please don't include me in that group.

I've found most everyone else's fantasies are vastly more interesting than my own, so I decided long ago to live out theirs (and then disassociate from the reality of life).

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 8:33:49 AM

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I love sex and sex loves me

bottom line

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 9:55:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: softness

can I just be in this for the dishes and laundry?
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but nothing beats startching shirts

Damn, can you come over to my place? I have plenty fer you to do!

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 10:00:17 AM

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In honor of Josephine Baker, I have decided that every CM anti-sex thread that I accidentally click on, from here on in, will be graced with...

The banana chorus line.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 10:10:26 AM

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While it may be true that most of you are in it for the sex aspect--My question added to MidOhioDomme---is what do you do with the other 22 hours of your days-- for I am sure you can't be screwing minxes 24/7? and is your life lead purely between and waiting for the next big O?

I believe that is what MOD ( nice moniker by the way shortens to what scares people here, lol)---is saying, there has to be someting in between---and that is where IMHO the latex meets the road---in My life, its not sex driven, sex is a nice bennie but its not the driver.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 10:30:59 AM

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Sex is more than just intercourse - sex is my Sir and my whole life. We live sex, sex is what happens when we live our lifestyle. BDSM is sensual, and sexual for us, and personally, I wouldn't want to change it. When I bring my Sir a cup of coffe on a tray-- that is sexual. When he walks by me and pinches my nipple - that is sexual. Intercourse as such is highly over rated - unless there is the 24/7 living going on as well. If I didn't get the pats and pinches and slaps and loving - I wouldn't be here, and so happy that I can't believe it.

There are times when I think our lives are too good to be true - but that is fear and insecurity talking - and I try to talk back and say "I'm worth it".

My life is real - thank goddess! and that is the only life I can attest to.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 10:32:17 AM

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Well heck yes there is stuff in between. We aren't saying it is ALL about sex (not most of us anyway). We are saying that sex is a big component in this. Does it make me wet to iron his shirts? No, but when he sees me laboring and tosses me to the bed, that DOES make me wet.
Does it make me horny to go out on a job for him? No, but I do it because, guess what? The part of me that does get wet, horny, wanting to please him for that fix.. will do anything for him.
Pleasing is two way street. He does stuff to please me. I do stuff to please him.
I don't expect instant love. I don't expect instant sex. I don't understand why so many people feel that sex is beneath them when seeking submission.
If you don't expect to give into instant sexual demands. Why is it perfectly OK to expect instant submission to chores, tributes, ect?
This stuff we do should not be one sided, unless that is what a person openly states at the beginning.
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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

While it may be true that most of you are in it for the sex aspect--My question added to MidOhioDomme---is what do you do with the other 22 hours of your days-- for I am sure you can't be screwing minxes 24/7? and is your life lead purely between and waiting for the next big O?

I believe that is what MOD ( nice moniker by the way shortens to what scares people here, lol)---is saying, there has to be someting in between---and that is where IMHO the latex meets the road---in My life, its not sex driven, sex is a nice bennie but its not the driver.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 10:41:04 AM

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If someone is livin out their fantasy doesnt it therefore reality because erm living is real life? and so what if people are sex sex sex, hell im sex sex sex Im a sexual being doesnt mean anything negative does it? why is it wrong to like sex? I LOVE sex I LOVE cumming I LOVE touching people, fuck me I dont live in the real world at all do i

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 12:29:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong.
I like sex.
I like bdsm.
I like and engage in ds.
I must be a freak.
Kyst

I'm wondering about this too... the whole anti-sex thing that comes up. Sex and BDSM are my primary drivers. I like D/s but I may or may not engage in it for a relationship. Ok, I'm freak too...

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 1:22:58 PM

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YAY for Freaks!!!
I don't care what motivates people to submit or dominate, as long as they recognize that nothing happens in a vacuum.
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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 1:42:22 PM

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Dear MidOhioDom, all of the teasing you just received aside, i think if you read the boards you will find lots of folks living a M/s or D/s lifestyle fairly openly. We do, Merc and beth do, House of IronBear does, there are too many to think of.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 1:52:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

While it may be true that most of you are in it for the sex aspect--My question added to MidOhioDomme---is what do you do with the other 22 hours of your days-- for I am sure you can't be screwing minxes 24/7? and is your life lead purely between and waiting for the next big O?

I believe that is what MOD ( nice moniker by the way shortens to what scares people here, lol)---is saying, there has to be someting in between---and that is where IMHO the latex meets the road---in My life, its not sex driven, sex is a nice bennie but its not the driver.

Living with someone I love and who loves me is my fantasy. Add in some hot and heavy BDSM sex, and I would be in heavenly fantasy. The fact that living with that someone would also mean going to work full-time to satisfy my desire to be useful and productive in the outside world, visiting and being visited by friends and family who are unaware of our "kinky sex life," and possibly even volunteering for causes we deeply believe in - all this does nothing to dilute the fantastic aspect of being in the relationship. However, it's the fact that I like my sex BDSM-style that drives me to find a lover who likes his sex the same way. So, yes, in that way, sex is the driver on my journey to find and fulfill my fantasy.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 5:38:49 PM

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I mean the being tied up, beaten, humiliated and then fucked senseless and left sobbing in a heap is hot and all

but nothing beats startching shirts

God Bless you softness.. <Hugs> Just because!

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 7:52:16 PM

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accept who you are, whether you are a "let's fuck" girl like me or a simpering whiney spineless worm I want to stomp, at any time you should be able to explore the other aspects of what makes you happy without getting flak for it!

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 7:58:16 PM

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BDSM is more than sex. But, sex is fun. So... I like my hapy combinaton of BDSM and sex. Housework as foreplay... hell I knew I leave dishes for a reason....
I have one slave who has nothing to do with me sexually asie from getting permission to cum, and another who is "fully functional" in the sage words of Mr. Data. Both are my reality, neither disassocaited from reality to fulfil the fantasies we have pursued.
Maybe you are just meeting the wrong subs?

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/29/2008 11:01:07 PM

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I believe I understand what the theme of this is all about, and I don't believe it is anti sex. Lady H, as an owned slave I am happy to say that sex is an integral part of our lives. Not lifestyle, but lives. But it is not the be all and end all of our days. And, I have known wonderful submissive men who have not been looking just for a quick kinky fuck. Of course, by the nature of what we do sex is a strong motivator for most. And male or female, it has been my experience that not only submissives but dominants as well are often looking for a hole or an appendage. When I am emailed by one of these I refer them to Daddy or hit delete. If they are not looking for sex alone they speak with Daddy and play sometimes happens. If they are just looking for sex he weeds them out. We live a life, those in our community, that is heavily focused on the sex aspect. Finding the submissive who matches your interests is just going to be frustrating until it happens.

And I toss my hat and every other article of clothing happily in the "I LOVE SEX" pile. It is something I am proud of. Give me my kink or give me nothing. Because if there isn't going to be some sex coming down the pike then this slut can't really be a slut, can she?

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/30/2008 12:31:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: hejira92

Yes, I admit to having a real life, and a real 24/7 D/s relationship. Jobs, kids, bands, gigs, bills, cars, etc, etc. But, no matter what's going on, would I rather be having sex? And hot, sweaty, hurty, rough BDSM sex? YOU BETCHA!!!

Amen to that!!!

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/30/2008 3:20:29 AM

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If you arent growing you are dying and that goes for sex too.

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ORIGINAL: KCherry

<--Guilty of being a sex lover.

If you arent growing you are dying and that goes for sex too.

So true!

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/30/2008 3:50:56 AM

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i thought i'd answer this with a quote from my Master when He was responding to the question "What is your favorite scene"

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ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

OKay OKay, I'll answer, we woke up Saturday morning, as I was sitting at the desk drinking coffee and waking up she was in the kitchen making breakmess, scrambled eggs with biscuits n gravy, damn that woman can cook, anyway after she cleaned the crumbs and left over eggs out of my beard I had tried to save for later, we got dressed, I wore my usual wrangler jeans, t-shirt and steel toed boots, she on the other hand was wearing a nice tight pair of low rise jeans with high heeled ankle boots along with a form fitting top. Once outside I fired up the Harley and she climbed onto a very very thin bitch-pad to take a seat behind me. Trying to see how many car alarms we could set off as we left the area for a nice ride out into a more rural area as if where I live isn't rural enough. Was fantastic cruisin the backroads just listenin to that fathead thumpin along un-baffled ofcourse, a rather ample set of breasts pressed into my back. Getting back home, into the pool we went where by the way we attacked by a huge fucking duck that kept aggresively floating after us...Ya see, whatever we do is a session, to us, it's just life as an M/s couple...

Now for us, bondage and sadism is foreplay to hot nasty sex. (Some could say we idulge in the BS part of BDSM but i don't care *laughs*) If i were living my fantasy we would be doing all of the above from a cabin in the mountains. And guess what, we fully intend on making that fantasy a reality. i can't see anything wrong with that.

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RE: Is any of this real? - 3/30/2008 9:40:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

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ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

anyway after she cleaned the crumbs and left over eggs out of my beard I had tried to save for later, we got dressed, I wore my usual wrangler jeans, t-shirt and steel toed boots, she on the other hand was wearing a nice tight pair of low rise jeans with high heeled ankle boots along with a form fitting top. Once outside I fired up the Harley and she climbed onto a very very thin bitch-pad to take a seat behind me. Trying to see how many car alarms we could set off as we left the area for a nice ride out into a more rural area as if where I live isn't rural enough. Was fantastic cruisin the backroads just listenin to that fathead thumpin along un-baffled ofcourse, a rather ample set of breasts pressed into my back. Getting back home, into the pool we went where by the way we attacked by a huge fucking duck that kept aggresively floating after us...Ya see, whatever we do is a session, to us, it's just life as an M/s couple...

LMMFAO.......!!!!!!

Having just gotten the toast and bacon crumbs out of Scooter's beard i can relate...fucking bikers, weg!

A brief comment to relay to your Master for me if you will, Eyes; That was the hottest leg wettingest fantasy i've ever read on collarme! Somebody get me a towel a a clean pair of jeans.

Damn rain and 30 degree temperatures any how.

Excuse me, i'm off to the garage to share a fantasy of my own with the shovelhead........you know..... well..... um... i'm going to go change the oil and oil filter...yea...that's what i'm going out there to do.

PS, are you guys going to the Boogie? Or the anniversary party this year?

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