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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 9:44:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		The short tale/ would have to be when i was alomst killed by anothers hand who touted and over inflated  her experiance .her so called rope work hung me .I wonder if the EMT's are still talking about that one ?
about 7 years after that i was almosted killed  yet again by someone i trusted , in the end i did not die , i learned ALOT ,and that has not repeated itself ever again .This was also Many years ago  and like i said i take some of the blame in retrospect , now i protect myself  and have  for a long time .
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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 9:48:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		The only bad exprience I have ever had with BDSM was when I had a boy of mine tied to a bed, and he was too stubborn to tel me he had to be let go to use the bathroom. He squirmed alot, but I *WAS* introducing him to different sensation play so I had no idea. If I wasnt sure then, I now know for SURE I am not into water sports....

Especially not on me, my wall, my bed and mattress....

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 9:53:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		well if he was that much of a nutter because you said no.. it is a damn fine thing you did get out of there.. holy Hera.


Glad you were smart enough to make that call.... hope he didnt do something bad to someone else who wasnt as wise as you.


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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 10:01:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seeing someone I loved start spasming and collapsing after some breath play.  Terrified the living hell out of me, thought I had killed her.

The other was on the eve of going to a special "Master's Party" where I was bringing two of the three red slaves.  I had the pleasure of having to announcing to the two amazing and very VERY hot and deeply compliant girls I was dating that I was once again talking to my ex about getting back together for the 37th time and that she wanted to be the first to do a FFM threesome with me.  They bailed on me, my ex never came through and I have yet to do a FFM threesome.

My heart says the first one was the worse, as does my brain but my cock just won't let me forget the second one.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 10:13:10 PM   
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Ok, this is from a few years ago, but in ways, I still see it as the 'worst' experience that I have had.

When I was getting back into the lifestyle a couple of years ago, I was invited to attend a party in Auburn AL.  It was quite a drive for Me, but I did it as a particular favor for a friend, who wanted a more lifestyle oriented event prior to the vanilla trappings that were involved with a wedding.  She was very happy in getting married to her Daddy, and wanted that celebration to include people who understood how much that meant to her, so I went.

Through the course of events, the girl told Me about her hopes of Me doing an impromptu demo on flogging for an after party.  Well, very hard to say no to someone so excited about celebrating an upcoming wedding.  This is especially true since it seemed to mean so much to her.

Fast forward, there I was, doing a semi-public/private demo for about 30.  Unfortunately, this had all been put together rather late, and some of the attendees had been drinking.  Some were vanilla that didn't exactly get the concept of what the demo was about, or how much courage it took for the bottom to participate.

Long story short, there were members of the crowd that were being rather obnoxious to the bottom who, at the last minute, agreed to do this with Me.  They were abusive in their comments and it had gotten to the point where I could not tolerate the unruly crowd.  I threw everyone out of the demo, mid-stream.  It wasn't My shining moment in a public setting, but the boy had not agreed to public humiliation, and I could not allow it to continue.

What might be described as My *worst* moment, I tend to think of as My shining hour.  A testament to Myself and the way I do things.



Good for you! If you are the D in the Scene... then you should control the scene.. even the on lookers if they are so rude to try and include themselves. ( which they were)

Shows what type of person you are. *smiles*

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 10:26:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

well if he was that much of a nutter because you said no.. it is a damn fine thing you did get out of there.. holy Hera.


Glad you were smart enough to make that call.... hope he didnt do something bad to someone else who wasnt as wise as you.


Gwyn


Yeah he was a "nutter" with a short fuse, but fortunately he wasn't insane. 

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 11:00:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd
Good for you! If you are the D in the Scene... then you should control the scene.. even the on lookers if they are so rude to try and include themselves. ( which they were)

Shows what type of person you are. *smiles*

Gwyn

Thank you, Gwyn.  I appreciate the comment. 


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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 11:33:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 11:51:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Leatherist is my new worst bdsm experience. I have Pepsi in my sinuses now.



Hahaha! For some reason, that made me crack up more than Leatherist's much-appreciated vivid little nightmare. Y'all are awesome.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 11:51:48 PM   
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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/7/2008 11:56:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		My worst scene was during a play party.

The top that i totally trust had set up a scene with another Dom that she knew well, and had seen play before. I knew we were doing injections in my labia and nipples, and then the Dom decided to ramp up my screaming (i wasn't exactly enjoying myself, but i'm too damn stubborn to admit it sometimes) by using sterile water instead of saline water. He did about 5 injections in my nipple before i screamed red. He didn't untie me, kept that needle in his hand dripping my blood and continued to taunt me with it. Two other people had to untie me, while he just kept pushing me to keep on going.
And yes, the rules of the dungeon say that red calls a scene, not just stops the play, so he knew that when i called red i was done.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 12:04:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Long story short, there were members of the crowd that were being rather obnoxious to the bottom who, at the last minute, agreed to do this with Me.  They were abusive in their comments and it had gotten to the point where I could not tolerate the unruly crowd.  I threw everyone out of the demo, mid-stream.  It wasn't My shining moment in a public setting, but the boy had not agreed to public humiliation, and I could not allow it to continue.

What might be described as My *worst* moment, I tend to think of as My shining hour.  A testament to Myself and the way I do things.


   Brava!
If I was there, I would have helped you clear the room, and guarded the door until you were done.
It's our responsibility to watch over and watch out for the well being of those who give themselves to us. Even if only for a "demo."
Well done.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 12:16:55 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Thank you, Cuffs.  I really do appreciate those who agree with how it was handled.

Edited to add:

Even though this was the story that fit the definition of My *worst* experience, I have to say really good things came out of it. 

The bottom who agreed to do this with Me, did spend some additional play time at a later date.  One thing that was never in question was the trust factor. 

A couple of the people who were there that night found a new interest in BDSM.  (As I mentioned in the above, the crowd was a mix of BDSM and vanilla folk.)  I understand one of them is now enjoying her exploration of being a submissive.

The person who was the largest disruptor in the crowd did, at a later time, apologize for her actions, and admitted that she didn't understand.

The incident certainly did help to define the Dominant that I am today.




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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 12:31:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: marieToo

I was once chased out of someone's house because I chickened out of a very scary scene that seemed, well, like he really wanted to hurt me.  He went ballistic when I bailed out, chasing me up the stairs and into the dining room and telling me to get out of his house, I was rushing to get my dress back on and I grabbed my coat and purse and went running so fast that I twisted my ankle coming out of his front door and I fell down 5 cement steps.  I sprained my ankle and had scrapes and bruises all over myself from the fall.  I ran to my car, realized that I couldn't find my keys, and had to go back onto his front lawn (in the dark) to find my car keys.  It was quite a nightmare.  Looking back on it I laugh at this very hard, but at the time....oh my god. 


  I have to admit...The exit was exciting by itself, but I'm curious about what the scene was.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 2:17:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
Gang bang date raped (Rohypnol--flunitrazepam?), at 14 years old.

On the other hand you can now take some pleasure knowing that's been a fantasy of mine since before I was 14 and you've re-sparked some great masturbation fodder for me later. 

We'll go 50 50 on an air fair and turn fantasy into reality and it will all end happily ever after.
PS You've hidden behind beung CM's librarian for far too long.It's all personal LA expecially when we say it's not


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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 2:21:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn

My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had.

heidi


Some of 'em think their boring vanilla sex IS bdsm....


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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 2:51:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have racked my brain and can not come up with any bad experiences relating to bdsm. I guess I am boring too <g>

Leatherist,.... I laughed my ass off at your story. Thanks for the laugh!

Michael, I agree..it is not all about MEMEMEMEMEME. Prinsexx..take his advice, get some therapy. Your baby story was not confusing at all. You knew what luciouslips meant.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 3:10:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn

My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had.

heidi


Some of 'em think their boring vanilla sex IS bdsm....

And some of those "Vanilla" (oh, no one-upmanship THERE, is there, kiddies? No snobbery there, eh?)  folks have achieved a wonderful sharing and loving relationship that many of the "Cool Kids of BDSM" haven't found yet.

Centering and Catharsis. Do you understand,?

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 3:46:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hippiekinkster

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: HeidiAnn

My worst experience too is being promised a good D/s session and ending up getting boring vanilla sex.:) Such a rough life i've had.

heidi


Some of 'em think their boring vanilla sex IS bdsm....

And some of those "Vanilla" (oh, no one-upmanship THERE, is there, kiddies? No snobbery there, eh?)  folks have achieved a wonderful sharing and loving relationship that many of the "Cool Kids of BDSM" haven't found yet.

Centering and Catharsis. Do you understand,?


I was just doing my usual quip and quirk and sarcasm. My worse experiemce of bdsm I am still in the midst of actually...a protracted and long drawn out emotional sado who is still (in my head) doing it to me....hurting me that is. No amount of trying to perssuade me THIS time of my role and responsibility in it...in other words the 'I am choosing this experience' is not working. I'm not centred right now and still wobbly. I haven't catharted as for me it's going to take a really good, consensual, well thought out hard hitting scene to snap me out of this. What I was quipping about was that whereas I thought him to be my master he turns out to be that clean my flat and suck my dick mentality that abused rather than used me. Yes it's triggered me right back to the date rape and how I keep trying to replicate it, because without the guilt that other's have layered it with, that's a near to the type os submission I really get off on. A real best/worse cross over.
Some do think their vanilla sex is bdsm and yes, they do use it to abuse. Not knocking the precious newbies at all.

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RE: What's the worse BDSM experience you've ever had? - 4/8/2008 4:10:58 AM   
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