quote:

ORIGINAL: lalbobbilynn

i learn something new from this site everytime i venture here.

i adore PBS, minus Barney; i just want to beat his happy ass in the ground!!
b.~

quote:

ORIGINAL: HerLord

{Fuck the flame retardant suit.  Jumping in with both feet, and a two figured salute}

Having been on this board now for 2 whole months, one of the things I am gratified and pleased to be able to say is that I respect the opinions and thoughts of the intelligent folks on here.  It is my opinion that most of the people here have enough experience in BDSM and life to know what is right for them.

However, I have a gripe.  My gripe is this: no matter how experienced the poster, if it’s an issue of WIITWD, every single time there will be at least ONE responder (usually more) who beat the drum of safe/sane/consensual, as well as, as one poster put it, the old “communication and negotiation mantra.”  Even if they are new to the lifestyle or new to the boards, if they haven’t developed the common sense of self-preservation, they’re too fucking stupid to be included in the gene pool anyway.   

Is it contributory to discussion for someone to say this EVERY SINGLE TIME!?  Isn’t it possible that common sense dictates that you don’t willingly risk your life, your sanity, or your happiness for the sake of sex? For those who don’t heed common sense, thank you for removing yourselves from the gene pool.   As for communication, well, no relationship can EVER be successful without it, so it seems self-evident. 

To me, being experienced not just in BDSM, but the basic painfulness of life, in particular relationships, it’s insulting.  Also, those who repetitively need to hear it are those who have to be of such a low intelligence that they will fail in any relationship anyway.  We know that it has to be SSC.  We know that it has to be RACK or whatever the hell acronym you chose to use.  Of course it has to be consensual…when it’s not that’s called rape.  It’s against the law.  As far as safe or risk aware, if you are going in with blinders on refusing to be responsible for your own safety, you’re too fucking ignorant to breathe, so you get what you deserve.  If you have to ask if it’s safe, it probably isn’t, so educate yourself on it, or don’t do it. 

Give me some input that hasn’t been said ten million times already.  Try to think of something original to say, instead of regurgitating the same old crap over and over again that isn’t of any help to anyone that has at least an ounce of common fucking sense.  As for the rest of them that don’t, fuck ‘em; get them out of the gene pool.

I’d be interested in hearing the thoughts of those who do this oh, so often, and of hearing the thoughts of those who feel the same.  So, tell me, what are your thoughts?

quote:

ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
/flame on
Hardcore BDSM is where it started and it has slowly become unfashionable in the fluffy SM (stand & model) politically correct SSC crowds.  I understand that BDSM has D/s in the middle of it but that is where it belongs, in the middle, not on top of a soapbox proclaiming we need a SSC set of etiquette rules.  BDSM did just fine back when kinky vanilla attended swingers parties instead spouting SSC in our dungeons and at newcommers to our community. 
/flame off

Hello ResidentSadist. DS in the middle? I have always wondered who the hell put that in the middle anyway. In my opinion there is no DS in BDSM. That is why SSC got so ''vanillised'' and became ''preventive'' to the point of killing edge play (the recent ''politically correct'' SSC is not what SSC was about originally, it included RACK type consent depending on the experience of players).

For me, Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism is a play thingie. A sexual play thingie. DS is a power echange (or what ever you want to call it) that could be done without sex even (if you read some of the posters). Hell, you have some sites accepting traditional marriage as a BDSM subgroup!