hopelesslyInvo
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i think the profile is too short, it's something you'd see in a personals ad where you're pressed for space with only so many lines. you got room to write whatever you want and it's the same decently priced amount of free. try to elaborate without going on a tangent, give examples of something, your romantic tendencies even.
otherwise, "girls"... i use that word too, i like that word even, but i get nailed to a cross half the time i use it too. in one of my work presentations i described my piece as being girly and got grilled for it, femininininy, femaley, womeny, and ladylikey didn't have the right feel for what i was expressing, girly did. adverse to that point though, is i think "woman" is the word with the right feel in this situation.
frankly though, i don't see how girl or boy is seen as offensive unless there's some connotation to imply it. yet some will like one word and hate another just as some like and hate mistress, goddess, and especially ma'am. if someone said to me "be quiet boy" my piss would come to a boil in many cases, but if someone called me their boyfriend rather than "some guy i'm seeing" that'd be just fine and dandy with me, or maybe someone said i had boyish good looks or charm, i'd be more than happy to hear that too lol. also, not just in how they feel about words, but i feel different too, like i'm fine with saying something like "there were a ton of girls out last night", but i feel like some sleazy creep saying "yeah, lots of fine ladies around yesterday" or even a little weird or too "male" by saying "you shoulda seen all the women", but i think my case might be in the plural usage but singular fits pretty well too. i might ask my friend who this new girl is he's seeing, or when people pry and ask who i just got off the phone with i might blush a little and sarcastically say "oh just some girl~" rather than the awkward "i was talking to a woman", though lets touch on another reason i think this is.
as far as matchups go, we got...
male
female
boys
girls
men
women
gentlemen
ladies
guys and...
what? girls again, i'm thinking girls, you're thinking gals maybe? i believe girls fits here, but even if it was gals, who wouldn't feel like a giant baffoon to actually use the word gal in a sentence?
that's sort of where i think it fits into things, that girls isn't just a match to boys but also guys. aside from that, i really think it's about the feel of the word, words have a ring to them.
so watch this boys and girls, it's semantics time.
she is a sweet girl.
she is a strong woman.
she is a kind woman.
she is a sweet woman.
she is a strong girl.
she is a kind girl.
it's like bloody night and day!
first set seems to talk about a nice and perhaps innocent woman (with maybe even a hint of attraction), a woman who is probably largely independent, and then someone who you just happen to be acquainted with and has always been as good as can be.
second set changes dramatically, not only does it not "sound right", some almost seem condescending or have a feel to them similar to an oxymoron, or suggest referring to the age or maturity level. sweet woman sounds like the crone feeding the brigade of pigeons, strong girl sounds like the 9 year old who plays tag with the boys, and kind girl just makes me think of some unpopular teenager in highschool or something.
dominant girl.
controlling girl.
sadistic girl.
compassionate girl.
seductive girl.
dominant woman.
controlling woman.
sadistic woman.
compassionate woman.
seductive woman.
sure it's just wordplay, but even if they weren't offended by it, woman fits these better in every way you can really think of, it sounds right, it feels right, it's not officially right, but it's probably the best way to write.
kind souls go to heaven.
sweet souls sounds like it must be a comfortable shoe liner or something.
i suppose the nice thing is that the english language has so many different means of expression and feelings, as opposed to other languages that have one word to cover 10 vague definitions to the degree it sounds cryptic or emotionless. but this amount of expressive leeway can lead to miscommunication or cause people to appreciate one word more than another, the same way people have favorite colors and lucky numbers. by the way, this is the sort of tangent i'd avoid in your profile. ^_^
thanks for reading guys and gals...
man... that word doesn't even look right, i just keep thinking of bladders, birdies, and stones everytime i see it.
< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 4/17/2008 2:45:00 PM >
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