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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 8:16:47 AM   
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Jay Wiseman articles:
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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 8:18:16 AM   
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The real dangers:

(1)brain damage

(2) a "persistent vegitative state"

(3) death

a little much, just for a more intense orgasm, don't you think?

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 8:26:24 AM   
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puddles knows.. this is just a posting on the internet and lots of information to consume.. but how safe is choking? puddles understands there are risks associated, and that it's a bit of edge play, but exactly how dangerous is this activity?


wellllllllll..... if someone chokes you long enough.... you become dead..... alittle hard to do the dishes if your dead.


Their is some serious risks with choking... and yes... I do breath play... I have for years.  Can it be done safely... yes.. can it be done without Risk... NO.     The first time you fail to do it safely.. the consequences are very harsh... but understand their is a difference of consequences and the risk of it happening.  For many .00000000001 percent chance of death to happen is to much of a risk.  for others not so much.  What is the actually risk... that is rather dependent on what a person is actually doing in their breath play scene.  Some scenes will have more risk than others for the same consequence. 

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 9:03:07 AM   
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As leatherist said.  It is 100% safe until it kills you and then it is 100% lethal. 

I used to laugh at the safety police about this issue as I had done it with lots of people and never had an issue.  Then I did it and someone wents into spasms, started to pass out and collapse.  SCARED THE LIVING FUCK OUT OF ME!!!!!!

But the look on your face when I came to was when I realized how you felt about me...  That and the fact that you refused when I requested we do it again...


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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 11:02:34 AM   
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But the look on your face when I came to was when I realized how you felt about me...  That and the fact that you refused when I requested we do it again...


well.... he just figured out that he wasn't so much into a Dead Fuck as he fantasized about!  The beauty of this lifestyle we can seperate the fanatasies from the realities!

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 11:19:14 AM   
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I'd like to chime in that there are much milder forms of this type of play that do not carry the same risks.  Simply holding the neck without putting any real pressure on it is not going to compress it.  If you are just going for the mind fuck element, a little goes a long way for this type of activity (in my own experience and opinion).  Also, covering someone's mouth and nose with your hands for very brief intervals is no more dangerous than someone jumping into a pool provided they have a way to signal or safeword.  I personally love the milder forms of this kind of play, so I wanted to bring up that it is possible to dabble in this without a danger any greater than the other types of WIITWD.  In terms of the edgy ways to play with this, no thanks, not worth it to me.  This is a case where I'd definitely use RACK when applying any kind of judgement to other's play.  If they have taken the time to know the associated dangers and both people consent, I feel no need to be the safety police on anyone.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 11:32:59 AM   
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puddles is not looking for a one line answer of "yes it's really rare", or "no it's perfectly fine most of the time". puddles is looking for balanced information as there is some information on line, but most is saying things about fad with teenagers, lethal etc. puddles is trying to understand the basics and what is bad. is simply choking a little ok? or is any and all pressure bad? one or two articles is just simply not enough information to make any kind of decision. how does one determine the validity of the claims of the individual making the claims without sufficient background.

puddles is trying to educate herself about the practice because it's definitely a head rush of immense proportions, but just because something feels good doesn't mean one should do it.

puddles guesses that it isn't as if there will be a lot of investigative scientific type research papers describing exactly what is going on and what is good/bad since it is a practice frowned upon, but everything in life has risks. it's understanding the risks, truly understanding the risks to understand whether it's a risk that one wants to take.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 12:22:07 PM   
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i hear you puddles, but this is not where you'll get a lot of that information because basically no one wants the liability.

the sort of information you want is out there..... the science is out there...the techniques are out there......but start with the wiseman articles, did you read them yet? very comprehensive by some one who is considered one of the safest players in the community....they have a lot of what you are asking for.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 12:37:24 PM   
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deleted-- I had not noticed the post already citing Jay

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 12:37:36 PM   
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a friend of mine has played with this some and he scared me a great deal. Told me he passed out from this.  Choking scares me like nothing ive ever thought about, but to think of one of my loved friends dying... *shakeshead*  thats why i make him tell me where he goes EVERY time he scenes.  He doesnt always think.   This is very dangerous and something i wont play with.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 2:17:36 PM   
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**EMT CPR Certified and can perform a Teacheotomy.**

I know the risks and I engage in the kink.

It is looked down upon and it can get hairy. Know your surroundings and your reaction time you don't have long. Keep all things you will need for Treatment VERY CLOSE.

When the toy bag comes out the very first thing removed from it is the EMT approved Medical Kit with just about EVERYTHING you could ever want for Kink Safety.

There are SO MANY things that can go wrong it isn't someting you do lightly you really do want to read anatomy books and understaned WHAT You are doing to the Throat and the Brain when you choke someone.

Andi, Well she loves it but she also knows what is dangerous and when she startes to get stars ste taps my arm and I release the Larynx and just continue to press without pinch which allows the Epiglottis to open again and allows the much needed oxygen back into the lungs.

Is it Dangerous YOU FUCKING BET IT IS. But it is a Risk that we are aware of and consentually want before we Take it.

So far I have yet to have to perform CPR on the girl. Perhaps if something like what was described by SimplyMichael I think I might also stop but untill then it is something we both enjoy greatly.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 10:13:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

As leatherist said.  It is 100% safe until it kills you and then it is 100% lethal. 

I used to laugh at the safety police about this issue as I had done it with lots of people and never had an issue.  Then I did it and someone wents into spasms, started to pass out and collapse.  SCARED THE LIVING FUCK OUT OF ME!!!!!!

But the look on your face when I came to was when I realized how you felt about me...  That and the fact that you refused when I requested we do it again...


I swear to god the woman DID ask to do it again.  Here I am, on the second visit with this woman, rapidly realizing she is the love of my life and I am holding her spasming collapsing body and when she comes to, I am fucking terrified and she is "that was cool"...


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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 10:58:29 PM   
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At a recent Jay Wiseman presentation on "BDSM Bloopers, Blunders, & Disasters", Jay punctuated various humorous and embarrassing "tales from the dungeon" with a few carefully chosen instances culled from a periodic feature titled something along the lines of "Yes, They Really Are That Dumb" of the American Journal of Forensics & Pathology. None of those examples included auto-erotic asphyxiation, because those are so common as to be boring.

If self-strangulation by a scarf pulled around one's own throat, and autmatically loosened by falling unconscious, runs that high a frequency of fatality, it's nothing I want to play with.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/19/2008 11:16:40 PM   
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hmm,i thimk the danger is choking

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 4:08:33 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodpuddles

puddles knows.. this is just a posting on the internet and lots of information to consume.. but how safe is choking? puddles understands there are risks associated, and that it's a bit of edge play, but exactly how dangerous is this activity?




Well, considering that death is one of multiple outcomes, I'd say it rates right up there with the maximum level of dangerous.

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 4:54:10 AM   
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I have a question, I have a collar that is tall enough to cover the entirety of my neck and I can just about manage to close it  to the tightest notch but master says my face goes red and makes me loosen it.  With such a large surface area that the pressure is being applied to is this still as dangerous?

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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 5:04:40 AM   
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My concern is more about the whole heart stopping thing via hands around neck choking individual. How common is that side effect?


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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 5:15:54 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: goodpuddles

puddles is not looking for a one line answer of "yes it's really rare", or "no it's perfectly fine most of the time". puddles is looking for balanced information as there is some information on line, but most is saying things about fad with teenagers, lethal etc. puddles is trying to understand the basics and what is bad. is simply choking a little ok? or is any and all pressure bad? one or two articles is just simply not enough information to make any kind of decision. how does one determine the validity of the claims of the individual making the claims without sufficient background.

puddles is trying to educate herself about the practice because it's definitely a head rush of immense proportions, but just because something feels good doesn't mean one should do it.

puddles guesses that it isn't as if there will be a lot of investigative scientific type research papers describing exactly what is going on and what is good/bad since it is a practice frowned upon, but everything in life has risks. it's understanding the risks, truly understanding the risks to understand whether it's a risk that one wants to take.



Puddles...here is a section of one of the Jay Wiseman articles I linked to:

"As a person with years of medical education and experience, I know of no way whatsoever that either suffocation or strangulation can be done in a way that does not intrinsically put the recipient at risk of cardiac arrest. (There are also numerous additional risks; more on them later.)

Furthermore, and my *biggest* concern, I know of no reliable way to determine when such a cardiac arrest has become imminent.

Often the first detectable sign that an arrest is approaching is the arrest itself. Furthermore, if the recipient does arrest, the probability of resuscitating them, even with optimal CPR, is distinctly small. Thus the recipient is dead and their partner, if any, is in a very perilous legal situation. (The authorities could consider such deaths first-degree murders until proven otherwise, with the burden of such proof being on the defendant). There are also the real and major concerns of the surviving partner's own life-long remorse to having caused such a death, and the trauma to the friends and family members of both parties.

Some breath control fans say that what they do is acceptably safe because they do not take what they do up to the point of unconsciousness. I find this statement worrisome for two reasons:

(1) You can't really know when a person is about to go unconscious until they actually do so, thus it's extremely difficult to know where the actual point of unconsciousness is until you actually reach it.

(2) More importantly, unconsciousness is a *symptom*, not a condition in and of itself. It has numerous underlying causes ranging from simple fainting to cardiac arrest, and which of these will cause the unconsciousness cannot be known in advance.

I have discussed my concerns regarding breath control with well over a dozen SM-positive physicians, and with numerous other SM-positive health professionals, and all share my concerns. We have discussed how breath control might be done in a way that is not life-threatening, and come up blank. We have discussed how the risk might be significantly reduced, and come up blank. We have discussed how it might be determined that an arrest is imminent, and come up blank.

Indeed, so far not one (repeat, not one) single physician, nurse, paramedic, chiropractor, physiologist, or other person with substantial training in how a human body works has been willing to step forth and teach a form of breath control play that they are willing to assert is acceptably safe -- i.e., does not put the recipient at imminent, unpredictable risk of dying. I believe this fact makes a major statement. "



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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 8:40:08 AM   
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my dad worked as a security guard at a local hospital.  he was working the night they brought in a woman who was doing breath play with her hubby, they wanted to try something new.  he accidentally choked her to death.
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RE: choking... the real dangers? - 4/20/2008 9:42:03 AM   
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The fact is that even when someone knows what they're doing, accidents happen. For instance, things are going fine and then there's a sudden loud noise. Both people jump, the hands slip, and all of a sudden the pressure is on exactly the wrong spot, game over, one person is looking at a very dead person.
 
As others have said, it's 100% safe until it isn't and then it's 100% fatal. We're not talking about oops so sorry, here let me get you a bandaid, we're talking about ooops i goofed now you're dead or in a vegetative state.
 
I like to joke that death is definitely a hard limit, but really it's no joke, once you're dead you're dead, there is no recovery from it.
 
There are so many BDSM activities out there it seems silly to me to engage in one where so much can go wrong and the results of a goof are so deadly.
 
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