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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

In the next couple email rounds, this person gave me enough information so I know what business she owns, where she lives, what type of car she drives, and what type of boat she owns. After discussing all this and thinking it over, I'm beginning to think maybe this person is in fact a male and not only that, is trying to cause an ex-wife or girlfriend some embarrassment.

What do you think?

anthrosub

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ORIGINAL: dekley

anthro...

You're concerns remind me of a Peanuts comic strip from a few years back. Snoopy was sitting at a computer, and Charlie Brown came up and asked him what he was doing. He replied that he was chatting on the Internet. Charlie Brown said something to the effect, "Who'd want to chat with a dog on the Internet?" Snoopy replied, "On the Internet, noone knows you're a dog."

Seems to me that your concerns are valid and are certainly a real possibility.


dekley

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I thought that was Dilbert

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

I'm starting this thread to start what I hope will be a fresh discussion of my recent experience in contacting a member here who is listed as a Dominant female looking for a submissive male. I've long since settled on the outcome but after discussing the exchange with several Dominant friends and not telling any of them what the others concluded...and finding them all saying the same thing almost immediately...I wonder if I've not been the unwitting victim of somebody's little game. It may not matter if it's true but on the other hand, it's possible someone else is being hurt as a result.

I sent an email to a member after reading her profile. The person lives in a very, very small town where I once lived. All my email contained was a compliment about how the profile came across to me and that I onced lived there. The first reply was positive and included a tastefully shot, nude photograph. Because of how the person wrote and how the picture didn't appear raunchy by any standard, I wasn't given to feeling shocked but simply surprised a bit.

After two more rounds of emails back and forth, I received three more photos...all nude...and all full frontal shots in different poses. I was asked to describe the person in great detail from head to toe. This person has some obvious scars on her inner left thigh and inner right forearm. I thought this was her way of introducing me to the fact that she had scars or something; otherwise, I think I would have been curious why someone I don't know would send me so many nude photos so early in our exchange.

In the next couple email rounds, this person gave me enough information so I know what business she owns, where she lives, what type of car she drives, and what type of boat she owns. After discussing all this and thinking it over, I'm beginning to think maybe this person is in fact a male and not only that, is trying to cause an ex-wife or girlfriend some embarrassment.

What do you think?

anthrosub

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

I'm starting this thread to start what I hope will be a fresh discussion of my recent experience in contacting a member here who is listed as a Dominant female looking for a submissive male. I've long since settled on the outcome but
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What do you think?

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

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Very well could be. Is this the same "woman" that blocked you recently?

Akasha

Yes and curiously, she's not been back here for nearly a week. I know that doesn't mean anything in and of itself but the reactions I got from my friends and the reasons they gave for thinking it's probably a male were pretty convincing. For one, the content of her text (aside from the pictures) was all visually based, imagery in words. Correct me if I'm wrong but this is not the focus of most females. Second, although she did ask some general questions, her focus seemed to narrow very quickly to a sexually based discussion. And lastly, a female is not likely to be divulging personal information to a stranger online.

anthrosub

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

Please...enough with the psycho stuff. Okay? Thanks for your advice but this is really not at all where I'm coming from. For what it's worth, I'm genuinely thinking about what if the personal information I received was really hijacked by some spiteful former boyfriend or something. If that seems like a stretch to you, I'm sorry.

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ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan
What do I think? I think...same story, different thread.

My best advice is for you to let it go, antrosub, and move on to something positive. I do question why you feel the need to dwell on this particular situation. What could you possibly gain by this continued, and dragged out discussion, over a failed connection?

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

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In your other thread you seemed pretty taken by her. Did her visually-based tone or focus on physical things make her more attractive to you, or did you think it was weird? What about the emotional side -- where did the attraction develop, you said it seemed mutual. Did she seem sensitive? What aspects of her personality made you think she was a good catch? You obviously thought she was the cat's meow. Was the despite the maleness of her approach or because of it?

Sometimes people (either gender) embellish when they are really into a person. She might have been hamming it up because she thought you liked her approach. If not, it was probably a guy. If that was the approach from day 1, almost certainly it was.

Why no phone call early on to verify? That's the best way to avoid the drama. If "she" was perfectly happy sending naked pictures, a 15 minute call wouldn't be a problem. I assumed the "gender proof" call had taken place when all the personal info was shared. Is that not the case?

Akasha

I've thought about this and actually, there was an inkling of this going through my head while we were communicating. What I mean is, I was taken by how her replies and the subject matter she introduced seemed to be hitting my buttons. You might say this distracted me from thinking clearly and I don't mind admitting it here online. At best, I was surprised that I'd be at the receiving end of such enticing discussion.

In retrospect, the emotional attraction from her amounted only to her saying she was attracted to my intelligence (presumeably from the way I write). She also said she thought I was handsome. I would say the thing that was hitting me the most was what I perceived at the time to be unexpected sexual frankness.

There was no phone call discussed and no numbers were given. Since it was still early in the exchange and she was sending me specific questions to answer (and asked me to send 10 of my own), I was assuming that would probably come next. I sent her my reply to her 20 questions on Friday before the weekend in question. I was at the point of considering asking her if we could talk by phone if her reply to those answers didn't suggest doing so. I mean, at the point of detail we were approaching, it seemed to make more sense to be talking instead of writing lengthly emails back and forth.

anthrosub

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Listen to the right head.

Akasha