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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/12/2005 11:59:38 PM

MadameDahlia

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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With still trying to remain on topic, how many women have been accused of being "MEN" after they have rejected someone?
I've never been accused of being a man.
I've been called many things, but never a man. M

-giggles-

I've been considered a man several times in the past. Though that was when I was being a male character for a roleplaying game or two online. I even had a small gathering of young ladies who really liked my characters - and as a result wanted to get to know me.

Some of 'em were pretty strange when they found out I was a woman. And one or two of them said they didn't care.

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 4:54:51 AM

LadyAngelika

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Why would a Domme not send a nude photo of herself? I've never sent a total nude but some erotic half nudes to boys I've gotten closer too.

Milady A.-

Not all are as lovely as yourself-

Stay warm,
Lawrence

Lawrence,

You always say the sweetest things ;-)

- LA

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 1:18:52 PM

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My .02 ...

I have sent naked pics of myself out - to rob, and to the boy from Seattle ... both happened after they had met us and spent quite a lot of time with us. I have not sent any naked pics out to anyone that I have not been conversing with AT LEAST 3 months (the only one who got them without meeting face to face first was one who was stationed in Iraq ... little hard to schedule visits when they are stationed overseas).

As for your question, anthro, it's a very good possiblility that it's a guy playing games, but it could also be someone who realized that she made a mistake in giving you all that info, or someone who doesn't have the personal integrity to tell you that she found someone else, or any number of other options.

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 1:45:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: topcat

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Why would a Domme not send a nude photo of herself? I've never sent a total nude but some erotic half nudes to boys I've gotten closer too.

Milady A.-

Not all are as lovely as yourself-

Stay warm,
Lawrence

Lawrence,

You always say the sweetest things ;-)

- LA

Lawrence :

Don't know ya brother... but I'll second, third, and fourth that opinion.

- The Ranger

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 8:30:38 PM

TexasMaam

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anthrosub,

I've experienced the other end of the spectrum on here: locquacious emails that purport to profess a belief in Female Superiority ad nauseum; others get all 'touchy feely' and simply don't read like anything a man would write: I've assumed on more than one occasion that they were actually written by women.

I'm not much on asking for a cam shot, either. Like John, I assume cyber is in the offing and I'm just not interested. (well, I say I'm not but I love watching bobbi on cam, so go figure!).

I'll usually answer these meandering manuscripts once or twice, and My responses are genuine, until somewhere in the exchange of emails something strikes Me as implausible. Then I stop responding. When this kind of email hits My inbox it simply doesn't bother Me any more, so if the author is trying to get a 'rise' out of Me they've failed. I haven't divulged any r/t identification that can be linked to the real Me, so they haven't gained anything for their 'efforts' other than a little of My time and a little about My background that I've already posted elsewhere on this site.

It gets bothersome and frustrating, but then every once in awhile a sweetheart of a fellow comes along and invites Me to lunch (I enjoyed a lovely lunch date just Today, in fact!) and it makes all of the fluff and nonsense worthwhile.

Something about the story you posted before struck Me as untrue; now that you've elaborated about the pics and visual stimuli I think you're probably on target!

Say, tell you what: you give Me your male email suitors and I'll give you My 'lady friends'!

<laffing good naturedly at the thought.....

Thanks for the smile. Here's a cyber-hug for ya.

Texas Maam

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 8:37:59 PM

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TexasMaam,
Thanks for sharing your experiences. It's nice not to feel like the Lone Ranger once in a while. Nice to hear you get some good apples out of the lot as well and thanks for the hug!

anthrosub

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 10/13/2005 9:12:14 PM

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: anthrosub

TexasMaam,
Thanks for sharing your experiences. It's nice not to feel like the Lone Ranger once in a while. Nice to hear you get some good apples out of the lot as well and thanks for the hug!

anthrosub[/color]

/chuckle mode on

Why, Anthro, here I am thinking you are lonely and now I learn you have a "loyal Indian companion."

/chuckle mode off

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/12/2005 5:46:19 PM

TiNeedsHouseboy

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ORIGINAL: dekley
You're concerns remind me of a Peanuts comic strip from a few years back. Snoopy was sitting at a computer, and Charlie Brown came up and asked him what he was doing. He replied that he was chatting on the Internet. Charlie Brown said something to the effect, "Who'd want to chat with a dog on the Internet?" Snoopy replied, "On the Internet, noone knows you're a dog."

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ORIGINAL: luvdragonx
I thought that was Dilbert

I'm behind in reading this board.

The illustration appeared in New Yorker magazine on July 3, 1993. It's quite famous, drawn by Peter Steiner.

You can see it here:

http://Peter Steiner - Nobody Knows You're a Dog

The above posts regarding this iconic image remind me of a line from SEINFELD, when Jerry exclaimed to George:

"And you wanted to be my latex salesman!"

~ Ti ~

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/12/2005 9:48:23 PM

FelinePersuasion

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I think this sounds exactly the same domina you posted about in the being ignored by domina thread. You're posthing the same info you knew about the domina who lost interest thread as tihs one.. It looks poorly to be saying the domina in one thread bailed and now you're hinting the potentially exact same domina is a man in disguise trying to start something.

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In the next couple email rounds, this person gave me enough information so I know what business she owns, where she lives, what type of car she drives, and what type of boat she owns. After discussing all this and thinking it over, I'm beginning to think maybe this person is in fact a male and not only that, is trying to cause an ex-wife or girlfriend some embarrassment.

What do you think?

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/12/2005 10:36:40 PM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: Misstoyou

I agree that it's unlikely that a female Domme will be sending nude photos of herself (thus fulfilling every submissive's dream lol). But I have known women who send nude photos, not of themselves, but of the body they wish they had, to get the acclaim they want...and then "vanish" because they can't live up to the virtual image they've presented.

Now you all convinced me - I am going to upload my half nude photo on the other side if Mods let me. See if I get any reactions

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/13/2005 12:28:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kasia

Now you all convinced me - I am going to upload my half nude photo on the other side if Mods let me. See if I get any reactions

Oh my goodness, Kassia! You're going to blow out the server! lol

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/13/2005 1:58:37 AM

Kasia

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ORIGINAL: Misstoyou

Oh my goodness, Kassia! You're going to blow out the server! lol

LOL
No, I dont think so - those are my natural tits and I am 42 after all - nothing remarkable

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/13/2005 5:03:23 AM

candystripper

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Please...enough with the psycho stuff. Okay? Thanks for your advice but this is really not at all where I'm coming from. For what it's worth, I'm genuinely thinking about what if the personal information I received was really hijacked by some spiteful former boyfriend or something. If that seems like a stretch to you, I'm sorry.

anthrosub

anthro, dear, there's nothing you can do even if you could prove this person was a male. It's not a violation of the TOS to lie. Obviously this person made you uneasy, so just follow your "gut instincts" and move on. Even if some spiteful ex is distributing a woman's pics, there's no way to alert the woman and tell her.

i applaud your chivalry but i'm afraid in this case, there is no "white knight" option open to you.

candystripper

< Message edited by candystripper -- 11/13/2005 5:04:21 AM >

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/13/2005 10:37:16 AM

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Ask for a web cam session.

That usually ends these games pretty fast.

Yep, love my new webcam. Originally i thought no way would i need a webcam. Now i have decided i can't live without it. I have had numerous people tell me...you sound too good to be true, you can't be real...even after a phone call. Now i can prove i am "ME".

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/14/2005 2:31:20 PM

pandora29

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I have to agree with M/many on this one,if they can't prove who they are via phone or cam then leave it alone.It's not worth getting wrapped up and then "dropped on your butt" if you already have a suspision of ill will.

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/14/2005 7:11:33 PM

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I was going to say "listen to your gut"....but the "right head" is close enough!

Anthro, there are a LOT of men who get their jollies by pretending to be women on the net. I used to hang out a lot in an adult-oriented chat site, and I found it was easy to pick them out. They were the ones with names like "DoubleGTits" and "CheerleaderSuckingCock". And "decent" guys were always complaining about how theyd' been duped by at least one. Many many times, when beginning a new chat, the guy would ask several times if I was really a female, just to make sure. And you're right, guys and girls do have different ways of approaching new relationships/chatting/emailing over the internet.

I think it was a male, too, based on what you described. My experience has been that men (especially conceited men) are much more quick to post nude pics of themselves right away, and take an attitude it you don't respond in kind.

This is probably trivial, but the thing that raised the biggest red flag for me was your quote of "what kind of boat she owned". Now, I may be sounding sexist, but owning their own boat isn't usually a "girl" thing. I live in a big boating/fishing area, and I don't know any women who own their own boats. (I wish I did!) It's almost always guys who own them, or couples together. I'm sure there are women out there somewhere who do solely own a boat, but I think they're rare.

Chalk it all up to experience!

chymes

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/14/2005 7:53:06 PM

GordonFreeman

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Maybe you got duped, maybe you didn't.
At least you're not this guy...

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=23174

or is it urban myth?

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/15/2005 8:04:59 AM

HeavenlyCeleste

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anthrosub, it's the internet..it takes all kinds. Put it behind you, you will never know for sure. Move forward, not back. After all, you have the quote at teh bottom of your screen: "Stop thinking...and end your problems." - Lao Tzu

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/16/2005 10:07:45 AM

TiNeedsHouseboy

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ORIGINAL: GordonFreeman
At least you're not this guy...
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=23174
or is it urban myth?

Is that a rhetorical question or did you want feedback on perceptions? I'll take the Dan Savage approach and give you a serious reply, since you have no emoticon in your post.

Might that recap be based on truth? Sure. Some people are sufficiently naive to let hormones get them into potentially outrageous, stranger/danger situations. That's clearly why Dan Savage decided to err on the side of caution and give the guy a reply that wasn't filled with Dan's usual boatload of hilarious sarcasm. It's analogous to the time I happened to be standing by the reception area in the out-patient clinic where I worked, when someone else's patient called, saying she had a gun in her hand and wanted to kill herself. Since the person's regular therapist wasn't around, and I was right there, the secretary handed the phone to me. Was the call for real or just a manipulation for attention? No way to know. So, I acted as if the gun was real and the conversation proceeded accordingly.

OTOH, when feeling comfortable behind the anonymity of the web, it's not beyond the realm of possibilities that the guy who contacted Dan Savage had just gotten done viewing THE CRYING GAME, spinning off a wild and crazy fantasy that he decided to dump on Dan as a real-time experience, providing a lovely wanking opportunity when he discovered his letter in print.

Life is filled with mysteries, not to mention people who act like jerks.

~ Ti ~

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RE: Is She Really a Male? - 11/16/2005 2:33:09 PM

anthrosub

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

I was going to say "listen to your gut"....but the "right head" is close enough!

Anthro, there are a LOT of men who get their jollies by pretending to be women on the net. I used to hang out a lot in an adult-oriented chat site, and I found it was easy to pick them out. They were the ones with names like "DoubleGTits" and "CheerleaderSuckingCock". And "decent" guys were always complaining about how theyd' been duped by at least one. Many many times, when beginning a new chat, the guy would ask several times if I was really a female, just to make sure. And you're right, guys and girls do have different ways of approaching new relationships/chatting/emailing over the internet.

I think it was a male, too, based on what you described. My experience has been that men (especially conceited men) are much more quick to post nude pics of themselves right away, and take an attitude it you don't respond in kind.

This is probably trivial, but the thing that raised the biggest red flag for me was your quote of "what kind of boat she owned". Now, I may be sounding sexist, but owning their own boat isn't usually a "girl" thing. I live in a big boating/fishing area, and I don't know any women who own their own boats. (I wish I did!) It's almost always guys who own them, or couples together. I'm sure there are women out there somewhere who do solely own a boat, but I think they're rare.

Chalk it all up to experience!

chymes

This thread seems to have caught a second wind. You know, I was thinking about the boat thing too back when this all happened. What I was thinking about was her claim to be spending the night on the boat over the weekend off the coast of an island. The island is roughly 7 miles from the NH mainland. I'm not sure many women would do that. Thanks for your feedback.

anthrosub

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