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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:01:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

One of the reasons I decided to create this alter ego was this...

I have a relative that told me about Collar Me a loooong time ago.. and she was active in her local community. As well as here...(but I don't know her name then or now)

Anyhow...
I didn't want her to know who I am in the forums, but what if?

What if someone in your family found this site on their own, saw your picture next to a post, a post mind you discussing your sexual activities in the bedroom...

How would you feel? What would you do?

Wouldn't it be cool if you have fucked her? It was some sort of an arrangement where she showed up and you were already blindfolded.....Neato shit, man.

Now why you gotta go and say that shit man? Cheeeese and riceeeeee!

Can you imagine it?

Domme walks into the room and starts strapping her newly acquired blindfolded sub....

"You like this rubber cock in your ass, don't you? You pathetic slut!"

GimpinDenial whispers in a soft and trembling voice...."Mom?"

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:05:21 AM

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Fast Reply:

I actually came out to my parents recently.

My mom's response? "We weren't supposed to know already?"
My dad's response? "Is this stuff hereditary?"

Which led to an in depth discussion on genetic factors in pain response and how individuals process things like adrenalin and endorphins. I love my family.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:07:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: Vigilantejustice

Fast Reply:

I actually came out to my parents recently.

My mom's response? "We weren't supposed to know already?"
My dad's response? "Is this stuff hereditary?"

Which led to an in depth discussion on genetic factors in pain response and how individuals process things like adrenalin and endorphins. I love my family.

-Corinne

So, does that mean your parents are in the lifestyle or a variation thereof?

and you are right - that is a pretty cool response.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:10:36 AM

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my family doesnt care about me so it wouldnt matter. im a crazy fucked up person to them given that 10 yrs ago...i was quite...different...physically.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:22:56 AM

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Kiddo...seriously...
I feel you

It is a shame when this happens (especially when it is a "gender reassignment" related)....

Sometimes life is just screwed up when family decides to be this way...

You would think family would accept you for who you are, not what you look like...

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As for this one......

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Can you imagine it?

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:24:16 AM

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well personallly i don't worry about that.my mom can barely deal with opening emails and such so i know she doesn't even come to places like this,my dad just plays solitare,i no longer have siblings and the rest of my family is too uptight.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:25:12 AM

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oh dear

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:26:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

Kiddo...seriously...
I feel you

It is a shame when this happens (especially when it is a "gender reassignment" related)....

Sometimes life is just screwed up when family decides to be this way...

You would think family would accept you for who you are, not what you look like...

im not trans..i had no reassignment..im intersexed. born all female with both genitalia..but was forced to live male at birth...through a dr playing god.

so family thought i was male...when i obviously developed female. 10 yrs ago i was 200 lb's...still living as male (publically). now 130 lb female.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:26:46 AM

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I made sure I was out to everyone in my family so I'm fine, however I did an interview once, and although I didn't use my name in the interview, enough people heard it on the radio (I taught some celebs how to flog), that it actually became office talk. About two weeks later someone realized that it had been me on the radio, my lunch friends all of a sudden became too busy and I was fired a few days later for going to an "unapproved website". I told them I had gone to a CLIENTS site to get their address, and that it was in no way innappropriate, so they just came out and said, they were no longer comfortable with me in the office.

No big deal really, I had a job 3 days later, but Fuck DuPont.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:32:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: mhawk

well personallly i don't worry about that.my mom can barely deal with opening emails and such so i know she doesn't even come to places like this,my dad just plays solitare,i no longer have siblings and the rest of my family is too uptight.

My mom is the same way, i can't even imagine her surfing the net let alone finding this site. My dad MIGHT come across this site though i can't imagine how but i can't see him checking out the site itself. My sister, i think, were she to find out about my kinky side would be cool with it but i don't think it would be fair to expect her to keep it from our parents.

My family knows i've been meeting men online but they don't know what site. They don't ask and i don't volunteer the info.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:34:06 AM

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I wouldn't think it was a big deal. If a family member were here, it would be extremely unlikely they'd react negatively. No one in my family would be at all surprised that I'd be here, some probably think I'm into more things than I am - I get some weird questions at family bbqs. I'd be surprised to find some of my family members here, but not others. Echoing what some others have said, it's nice to know that you're not the only one in your family with kinks. While I do know that about mine, most are very private about it.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:43:17 AM

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Pfft, my family could care less what I do. What's more, they already know, so if they see something here that upsets them...then well fuck, they should not have been here.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:45:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenialAnyhow...
I didn't want her to know who I am in the forums, but what if?

What if someone in your family found this site on their own, saw your picture next to a post, a post mind you discussing your sexual activities in the bedroom...

How would you feel? What would you do?

Well, to your first question: She's the one who told you about here, she's already in the local community... why would it bother you to have her know, really? She clearly been "out" to you, she's not likely to have a fit or spread your business around if she recognizesm most likely. I'm not seeing the problem, is there something going on there that you didn't mention that would make you wary of her?

For myself, on the other questions:

Some of my family and all of my friends know, the family that doesn't know... well, if they found out I wouldn't really care. With my relatives everyone falls into one of two categories:

1) I like them and they like me for who they know I am (that being someone this would maybe be a surprise to but wouldn't be a total shock at all) and

2) I can't stand them and we mutually avoid one another, so if they found out no matter what their opinion on it's null to me... they don't count as people whose opinions matter.

At most, with those that I speak to, it would be a little awkward if one of them wanted to talk to me about it but was embarrassed by the subject. If they brought it up I'd just be honest with them while maintaining whatever boundaries with them I felt was appropriate. It wouldn't be a big deal at all...

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 10:59:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

One of the reasons I decided to create this alter ego was this...

I have a relative that told me about Collar Me a loooong time ago.. and she was active in her local community. As well as here...(but I don't know her name then or now)

Anyhow...
I didn't want her to know who I am in the forums, but what if?

What if someone in your family found this site on their own, saw your picture next to a post, a post mind you discussing your sexual activities in the bedroom...

How would you feel? What would you do?

How would I feel? Surprised that they were on the site, then "cool, you too?"

What's the big deal?

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 11:15:29 AM

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my daughter is 25, and knows that i'm submissive. proving that its not quite genetic, she's more domme than not.

my soon-to-be-ex really REALLY doesnt want to know. in 16 years, he has never once made a non-vanilla move on me, and he just is NOT cut out that way at all.

i dont use my "regular" screen name on collarme, so its not likely that other family members would find me here, but if they did, oh well.

kitten

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 11:29:41 AM

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I have no family members here that I know of... (hi guys, if you're out there!)

My sister would probably try to perform an exorcism....

My pet's exsistance would finally make sense to my mother. - She absolutely hates that he isn't my boyfriend and I refuse to discuss his role in my house (none of her business)

My brother already knows.

Anyone else that finds me will have to have been looking on this site to begin with, that says a lot about them.

Lady Jag

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 11:39:11 AM

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My family is only My UM and she isn't here---I wonder if someone in My town would recognize Me, and I would so hope if they did, that they if they could, would come and say something------and I am outed to select mature individuals at work.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 12:03:58 PM

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In my hometown, my brother is active in the scene. It is not a huge city, it is not a big scene. essentially, there is one munch, and they hold one party a month. I run into him at that party sometimes.
He does not seem to mind at all. To be honest, while i do not mind knowing that my brother is in the lifestyle, and do not mind seeing him dressed (He is TV), i am a bit distressed about seeing him lingerie and cuffs. Kind of like, I don't mind knowing that my parents must have had sex, but i'd rather be spared the details.
However, my family does know of my lifestyle, i just spare them the details.
The same would go for a munch. i wouldn't mind seeing my brother at a munch, but it would make me less likely to participate in the roundtable, if that was the kind of munch it was.
On CM, there is one young sub male whos profile i happen across occasionally, who looks a LOT like my oldest son. I can't be sure how much like my son he looks, since he is in drag in the pic - but this is my son who is trannie that i am talking about. The profile identifies him as being about the right age, but as being in Europe. No, I am not going to write and say, 'are you really in <hometown> instead of London?' My oldest definitely knows about this site, i am on it all the time and he has walked in on me. Once he walked in on me while i was on this site and got very excited - he thought the games here were very neat, old retro games and all. I am pretty sure he went and bookmarked the site on his puter, at least for the games. so who knows? it is really none of my business, so who cares?

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 12:09:45 PM

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They wouldn't care and I wouldn't care.

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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

What if someone in your family found this site on their own, saw your picture next to a post, a post mind you discussing your sexual activities in the bedroom...

How would you feel? What would you do?

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 12:32:21 PM

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A) They have as mujch explaining to do as I would at that point

B) If they want to actively try and find out about me, that's their choice and they deal with the consequences

C) I really wouldn't care. It would fit right in with everything else they know about me. I might never have come directly out to everyone in my family and used the words bdsm or master slave, but I certainly haven't hid the fact that I'm into alternative stuff from them.

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