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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 9:15:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FullCircle

Why would they be on the site in the first place?

I know this is a small world but I think there are other places they would rather be.


Exactly what FullCircle said.

And if they ended up here, it would make for an interesting discussion - certainly nothing I'm ashamed of. I choose not to advertise, mainly because I don't think people would be interested but if they flat out asked me, I'd discuss it.
If they thought less of me because of it, I'd consider it a mutual eye opener on the perceived relationship.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/26/2008 9:37:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		As i tend to be pretty open about most things, i'd be a tad embarrassed but nothing big. Chances are, they'd never mention it anyway. If they did i'd probably ask if they had any questions... and i'm not ashamed of being who or what i am. 

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 3:05:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not happened yet... could I guess since I use the same handle here as I use elsewhere on the net. Still, if people are looking here then as others have said they must have an interest as well.

Always nice to have something in common with people :)


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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 3:41:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

It's funny that many of you say you don't care...remember that ProDomme that was outed a few months back? They sent shit to her employer, the parents of the students she taught...She caught all kinds of shit...Lost her job and the whole kabootle. Some people work in a profession that would not be so forgiving.

You think it is no big deal? lol.



Didn't say it was no big deal.  It would be difficult to explain, but as others have said...."what were you doing on here checking things out in the first place?"

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 4:10:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'd die. One of the reasons i do not have a pic, or my real name on Collar Me, because my ex-mother-in-law used to harass my husband and i by creating a profile, then spy on us. Her interference in my marriage caused 50% of my divorce by the way.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 4:47:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		My two oldest sons (ages 17 and 20) are aware of my visiting the site.  I used to try and hide where I was, or only visit when they weren't home, etc, but as they grew older it just became less of an issue.  We have always been open about sexual topics.  I told them when they were young that I was available to discuss any topic with them, short of giving details about my own actions.  I feel, as a parent, when my children come to me with valid questions, I am obligated to give them good information.  They have both come to me on separate occasions about their own sexuality questions ('mom, I'm not sure if I like boys or girls' as an example).  The middle one has also found a well hidden toybag while 'plundering', and we had a longer discussion about respect for privacy than about the articles he found.  His only comment on the leather restraints was 'that looks cool, I might like to try that one day'.  We did NOT explore which role he would be using them in.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 8:46:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		 My mother knows, is fine with it, and is really the only person in my family who I care about anyway. I'm estranged from my father for a number of reasons, but if he found out, he'd hardly be the one to judge – he's a far more severe masochist than I am ( my mother is vanilla ). My two step-siblings I don't know well enough to judge, but if they'd distance themselves from me for it, then I wouldn't want to know them anyway. My granparents are dead. I have no other family.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 8:51:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		i have nothing to be ashamed about...i think most of my friends secretly envy my freedom in regards to my sex life and the kink aspect just spices it up for them. Anyone that is close to me knows already  - i really attempt authenticity in my relationships~

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 9:30:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well as long as it's online... I'd be more surprised if ever a family member would show up at one of our bondage workshops or something like that 

But our parents all know we're into kinky stuff, so I wouldn't be overly bothered by it.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 10:08:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		My family - most would go - so tell us something we DON'T know.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 10:17:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I really wouldn't want details of my sex life discussed over the dinner table. I don't want to know if my sister in law uses a strap on or if my cousins like to be whipped. So if someone boasted they were here, I would wonder about why they needed to share that to me a lot more than I would have any interest in sharing.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/27/2008 10:20:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would not be comfortable if my parents knew or found my profile on this site...although I am sure they kind of have an idea on the back of their minds as they know what kind of relationships I like to be in (meaning where I call the shots) but I am sure my mother would be distressed of hearing if I spanked or whipped girls as I was taught to never hit a woman for any reason (I live by that but in this lifestyle its different in that it is consensual and for enjoyment)...however if they did find me I would ask them too how they found me, because to find this website you have to look for something lifestyle related. Same if my cousins or other family members found me. I would be more concerned if my employer found me, however it goes back to the same question, what were they doing here in the first place? I would not mind it if it was my cousins as long as they were cool with it and I would be cool knowing they are also into this lifestyle, hehe.

I am shocked at how uptight some people are, luckily in my family we are not like that and we are very close, I have to say the same for my extended family.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 10:42:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

It's funny that many of you say you don't care...remember that ProDomme that was outed a few months back? They sent shit to her employer, the parents of the students she taught...She caught all kinds of shit...Lost her job and the whole kabootle. Some people work in a profession that would not be so forgiving.

You think it is no big deal? lol.


If you are in a position that people finding out what you are into could cause problems then you should be more careful about hiding your identity. If you put your picture out there on the web you therefore have to take the responsibility for the fact that someone is going to call you out on it.

It was her fault and soley her fault that she lost her job. No one made her have a profile on a open, public, website. She CHOSE to place one. Everything in life comes with risk. She took the risk and lost.

There will always be close minded, narrow opinionated people that will freak out against anything they don't consider normal. You have to deal with it, people will not change overnight. Those of us that dare to be ourselves and are on the other side or the considered norm need to decide how open to be about our lifestyle choices. Which also means accepting the responsibility that our personal choices may effect our professional lives or personal relationships at some point.


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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 11:21:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL...its not like the patterned slices on my back (and other places) like a ferrets with ice skates had a party and demolishin derby are going to give me away.!!!  THe stares i get in public are just too funny...
Some of my family knows..if they where to ask or bring up the topic i would be more then willing to talk about my chosen liftstyle...would i bring it up at a family dinner...no, well at least not yet!!  LOL

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 11:51:01 AM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

It's funny that many of you say you don't care...remember that ProDomme that was outed a few months back? They sent shit to her employer, the parents of the students she taught...She caught all kinds of shit...Lost her job and the whole kabootle. Some people work in a profession that would not be so forgiving.

You think it is no big deal? lol.



Didn't say it was no big deal.  It would be difficult to explain, but as others have said...."what were you doing on here checking things out in the first place?"



Overall, it's a naive response....Many people out here are possibly in a position in their life or in a career that would not be affected by an "outing." Few people that deal with a professional public probably have that luxury.

Once you are outed you are out....The people that possibly hold power over your occupation won't give two shits about how you were outed ....Just the fact that you were and what you are participating in a thang that might be perceived as being deviant.

If you all cannot grasp this concept then you have coming exactly what you deserve. You have to be able to understand the world that we live in.


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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 11:57:53 AM   
subtee


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Status: offline 		Domiguy, this is your Mother. Stop making the girls cry and play nice, young man. And wipe that Tupac off your face, or I'll do it for ya.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 11:59:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subtee

And wipe that Tupac off your face, or I'll do it for ya.



O god... hahahaha....

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 12:08:17 PM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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ORIGINAL: subtee

And wipe that Tupac off your face, or I'll do it for ya.



O god... hahahaha....


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quote:ORIGINAL: subtee And wipe that Tupac off your face, or I'll do it for ya. O god... hahahaha....


I'd like to wipe those hands off of your tits...What's the prob Lynnxzy? Odd looking areolas?


subtee...shut your pie hole....Come to Domiguy. Beeeeeeeyatch.

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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 12:19:02 PM   
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 Yes. I have to hide the fact that my boobies look like this (.  )(  ')

*Not really..that could get awkward*

They also tend to flail around wildly by themselves, as I demonstrate here... 


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RE: Outed on CM?.... - 4/28/2008 12:24:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Yes. I have to hide the fact that my boobies look like this (.  )(  ')

They also tend to flail around wildly by themselves, as I demonstrate here... 





profile vid required!!!


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