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Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 9:10:09 AM

MladyHathor

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NOTE: Not a rant or an issue with either one, just curious without stealong a thread---do you ( the general populis out there) think Tributes are the same thing as paying a Pro?

I for one do not--as I even ask for what can be considered a tribute--a white rose (it helps Me pick someone out of a crowd at a first meet, then I like it from there on out)--

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 9:13:51 AM

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Depends on what the tribute is

A white rose? No. Money, or jewelry? Yup.

Having said that, I don't see anything wrong with any of it, as long as it's all upfront.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 9:15:44 AM

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Nope I don't see giving tribute as paying a pro. Some may say it's semantics and there are probably cases where that is true, but the concept of giving tribute IMO is not the same thing as seeking out then paying a professional.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 9:23:57 AM

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Yep - service for a fee is a professional arrangement.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:03:08 AM

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Depends on if you are asking for something up front, I guess! Is paying for the coffee a tribute? Is bringing me flowers that I didn't ask for, but because he thought I should have flowers a tribute?

Some guys really DO get off on having to bring something to the table (speaking figuratively). Telling him to say, go to the sex shop and buy a buttplug and hand it to you in the store's bag at the meeting.... it gets pretty semantical after awhile.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:10:09 AM

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When they pay the fee I ask for, it is paying me.

When they bring me a new corset, or flogger, completely out of the blue, as an unexpected gift, it's a tribute.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:19:23 AM

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So here we go again.....paying for a pro, I think it's all well and good. A worker is worth their wages. It is too bad for subs that it is so one sided. I am thinking of turning into a pro-sub and charging for honor to whip me and make me clean your house.....Subs...are you with me????? Talk about TPE!!!!!! LOL.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:21:11 AM

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how is it not the same?
you have to pay for in cash what your giving as tribute to.. even though your not actually giving cash. but the fact its cash out of your pocket its still the same thing.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:21:28 AM

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Being a pro sub is harder than it sounds Rule.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:22:41 AM

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They can and are used interchangeably, but I don't.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:37:52 AM

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Imo, as Bobby Dylan says, everybody has "to serve somebody". What difference does it make what the "coinage" is ? In some cases, the relationship may be more clear than in others, and, perhaps that's a blessing. Many, if not all, marriages are arrangements of an exchange of services or more tangible currency, often unconscious, but, nevertheless, operative. Who's to judge ? Not me, thanks.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:38:07 AM

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Some pro's I have noticed demand tributes and will have list of expected tributes on their sites, most running in the $200 and up price ragnge--- this to me is payment for services.

A gift tribute which has not been asked for is a totally different story ...really not much different that a dom asking a sub that he meets on a first meet if they want to go out for supper in which he pays for or if he offers to pay for coffee it does not equate to payment for an expected service it is offered as a friendly guesture

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:38:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

how is it not the same?
you have to pay for in cash what your giving as tribute to.. even though your not actually giving cash. but the fact its cash out of your pocket its still the same thing.

Exactly. The difference is the requirement. If I choose to bring a gift for someone, that is my business. If someone requires anything of value before we meet or play, that is payment.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:40:09 AM

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Said it before and I'll say it again.

This is one thing I understand but just don't GET.

I don't get the throught Process. I understand the desire and the draw, I just don't get the follow through.

I could never be a John.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:48:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RuleMyWorld

So here we go again.....paying for a pro, I think it's all well and good. A worker is worth their wages. It is too bad for subs that it is so one sided. I am thinking of turning into a pro-sub and charging for honor to whip me and make me clean your house.....Subs...are you with me????? Talk about TPE!!!!!! LOL.

I offer to pay ... two day old beef stew, a half piece of rye bread with spicy mustard, two cups of cold coffee, and .... (digs in his pocket) ... one piece of lint (although I can cut it in half if you really want two pieces) ... Now is that a deal or what ??

BTW .. Why is it only females Domme's who want tribute?

Or are men just a bit more subtle than that?

Oh no baby, I don't need any tribute. Just blow me when you get here ...

PS ... No female Muslim martyr's need apply ... I said BLOW ME, not blow me up ...

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:49:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fischen

quote:

ORIGINAL: RuleMyWorld

So here we go again.....paying for a pro, I think it's all well and good. A worker is worth their wages. It is too bad for subs that it is so one sided. I am thinking of turning into a pro-sub and charging for honor to whip me and make me clean your house.....Subs...are you with me????? Talk about TPE!!!!!! LOL.

I offer to pay ... two day old beef stew, a half piece of rye bread with spicy mustard, two cups of cold coffee, and .... (digs in his pocket) ... one piece of lint (although I can cut it in half if you really want two pieces) ... Now is that a deal or what ??

BTW .. Why is it only females Domme's who want tribute?

Or are men just a bit more subtle than that?

Oh no baby, I don't need any tribute. Just blow me when you get here ...

PS ... No female Muslim martyr's need apply ... I said BLOW ME, not blow me up ...

Exactly.. the guys just wanna get laid. :P

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:51:12 AM

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waits for someone to offer me money...its never happened!! and i have a craving for chinese food....but thats atleast $30 that i dont have... hmmm....

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:55:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

quote:

ORIGINAL: Fischen

quote:

ORIGINAL: RuleMyWorld

So here we go again.....paying for a pro, I think it's all well and good. A worker is worth their wages. It is too bad for subs that it is so one sided. I am thinking of turning into a pro-sub and charging for honor to whip me and make me clean your house.....Subs...are you with me????? Talk about TPE!!!!!! LOL.

I offer to pay ... two day old beef stew, a half piece of rye bread with spicy mustard, two cups of cold coffee, and .... (digs in his pocket) ... one piece of lint (although I can cut it in half if you really want two pieces) ... Now is that a deal or what ??

BTW .. Why is it only females Domme's who want tribute?

Or are men just a bit more subtle than that?

Oh no baby, I don't need any tribute. Just blow me when you get here ...

PS ... No female Muslim martyr's need apply ... I said BLOW ME, not blow me up ...

Exactly.. the guys just wanna get laid. :P

There you go Lynnxz ... You just proved in one sentence why women are smarter than men.

Blowjobs only last until I cum, but Diamonds are Forever ...

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:57:16 AM

faerytattoodgirl

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quote:

Blowjobs only last until I cum, but Diamonds are Forever ...

i like gold...its cheaper...and you can get more of it.

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RE: Tributes and Paying for a Pro - 4/27/2008 10:59:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fischen
BTW .. Why is it only females Domme's who want tribute?

Or are men just a bit more subtle than that?

I don't want their money ... just their heart and soul. I think that is much more valuable.

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