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Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:26:43 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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Status: offline 		I have been unintentionally attracting the wrong type of women (women between the ages of 25 - 35); almost all of the women who "come onto me" want to cheat on their husbands, fiancés or life long boyfriend.

I feel very bad for the men who are involved with these women; but these men are not loser's either. They have great jobs and high paying salaries. I'm a college student and I'm only 19!!!

The younger women have boyfriends that aren't necessarily successful in the financial world like the older men, but they are extremely attractive (you know the whole "metro" thing).  

Obviously if I was the "flingy" type I wouldn't even be typing this, however I'm not ( I want a monogamous long-term relationship ) and I would like to know...

What am I doing wrong?

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:28:09 PM   
softness


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:28:38 PM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:32:25 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
take your pics off your profile. 


No, I'm talking about real life.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:34:02 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: softness
attention seeking?


?

Please use complete sentences.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:39:28 PM   
sunlitflames


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Status: offline 		i'm a tad confused.... your profile says you are a Dominant Male... yet you are seeking a Dominant Female?  you say you like pleasure and pain...... the Doms i know enjoy giving pleasure and pain not receiving it.

maybe clarifying how you see yourself would be a start.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:43:13 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		It's not called "cheating on your husband" it's called Cuckolding.  There are a lot of us who do it.

Furthermore - All together now - BDSM is NOT just about sex!


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:44:53 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunlitflames
i'm a tad confused.... your profile says you are a Dominant Male... yet you are seeking a Dominant Female?  you say you like pleasure and pain...... the Doms i know enjoy giving pleasure and pain not receiving it.
maybe clarifying how you see yourself would be a start.


Maybe asking Me My definition of what a Dominant Male & Female is, would clear up your confusion?

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:47:25 PM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:50:23 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

It's not called "cheating on your husband" it's called Cuckolding.  There are a lot of us who do it.



I'm not talking about Cuckolding. I'm talking about Cheating. If it's not Consentual then it is Cheating.


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:53:16 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
take your pics off your profile. 


No, I'm talking about real life.


ok, so wear a ring on your left ring finger....


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:53:16 PM   
softness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

quote:

ORIGINAL: softness
attention seeking?


?

Please use complete sentences.


That is a complete sentence ...you could tell by the questioning indicator known commonly as the "question mark". A questioning indicator denotes that the preceeding statement was in fact a questioning statement. A questioning statement can be of anything as little as one word (Who? What?Why?When? Where? How?)

In the long winded version that you requested "Attention Seeking" can be translated as this.

Your profile has all the intellectual self indulgence of an educated 19 year old who wants people to admire his brain, no doubt you will do that in real life also. You come to a public forum to complain about how older women are throwing themselves at you. Anyone will realise after 10 minutes on this site that *younger* than you is illegal and so yes people will be older and yes there are a lot of married women around and so a piece of 19 yearold ass will be amusing and ultimately disposable...donot believe for a second that these women see youas a replacement for their successful and stable husbands ... its like the yard boy ... only kinky

how do i know this ?... from the piles of mail from married men that I, and every two eyed non window licking submissive woman under 30 gets on this site, get everyday just like the real life attention you are getting

and the reason that most of us dont start threads about it

we are *not* attention seeking

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:57:09 PM   
softness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST


Maybe asking Me My definition of what a Dominant Male & Female is, would clear up your confusion?


a little latin and they think they know everything ... uber ... maybe you would have more pleasing answers from people,,, if you offered a less .. errr... abrasive tone?

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 2:57:11 PM   
DesFIP


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As far as a ltr goes, at 19 how long a relationship are you talking about? 3 months, 3 years, decades, forever? Because the truth is that at your age a person does better to date many different people. The reason for this is that you ought to be keeping a list of what were the characteristics or qualities a person had that caused you to be attracted to them as well as what were the reasons you broke up. Obviously until you are exposed to something you won't know that you like or hate it.

You're creating your own little statistical universe here. Wanting someone to be a self professed submissive isn't enough. Neat freak? Night owl? Artistic vs practical? Sleep with the window open or shut?

Now if you want to know why none of your past gfs are still with you, ask them if you're still in contact. Or ask friends of the opposite sex who will put up with stuff from you as a friend that they won't do in a relationship.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:08:46 PM   
sunlitflames


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you're in a forum where some general terms are loosly defined so we have a vague idea what people are talking about.  if you want to redefine terms.. knock yourself out... but include the dictionary where it's readily accessible... and don't blame others who don't know that you're calling an apple an orange.. and a lemon a strawberry. 

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:09:27 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:13:26 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: softness
In the long winded version that you requested "Attention Seeking" can be translated as this.

Your profile has all the intellectual self indulgence of an educated 19 year old who wants people to admire his brain, no doubt you will do that in real life also. You come to a public forum to complain about how older women are throwing themselves at you. Anyone will realise after 10 minutes on this site that *younger* than you is illegal and so yes people will be older and yes there are a lot of married women around and so a piece of 19 yearold ass will be amusing and ultimately disposable...donot believe for a second that these women see you as a replacement for their successful and stable husbands ... its like the yard boy ... only kinky

how do i know this ?... from the piles of mail from married men that I, and every two eyed non window licking submissive woman under 30 gets on this site, get everyday just like the real life attention you are getting





Did I offend you because I asked you to use a complete sentence?

If I did, I apologize.

I didn't want to jump to any conclusions about what you meant and complicate things further.


How does my post seem "Attention Seeking"?

I posted a real legitimate question, with the hope of having useful answer.

No. I don't get piles of e-mails from married women, if I did, it wouldn't be a problem and I wouldn't have started this thread.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:15:02 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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ORIGINAL: softness

quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST


Maybe asking Me My definition of what a Dominant Male & Female is, would clear up your confusion?


a little latin and they think they know everything ... uber ... maybe you would have more pleasing answers from people,,, if you offered a less .. errr... abrasive tone?


I wasn't trying to be abrasive at all!!! Besides... the only latin I know is pig latin.

Maybe I should start using more emoticons, they seem to soften up everything.

< Message edited by UBERMUNSCHIST -- 4/27/2008 3:17:24 PM >

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:16:03 PM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 3:16:15 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunlitflames

when in Rome... do as the Romans. 

you're in a forum where some general terms are loosly defined so we have a vague idea what people are talking about.  if you want to redefine terms.. knock yourself out... but include the dictionary where it's readily accessible... and don't blame others who don't know that you're calling an apple an orange.. and a lemon a strawberry. 


You're absolutely right. For Me, the problem is the limiting "orientation" choices. 

< Message edited by UBERMUNSCHIST -- 4/27/2008 3:29:24 PM >

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