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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 7:40:47 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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I am 31. Your age arguement is gone. Try again, since you know she is right and you cant hold anything against her other than the number of years she has been around.
Just becasue someone is on the planet longer doesnt mean they have grwn up. There are a few posters who are living proof of that *ahem*

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 7:43:06 PM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 7:56:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: impossiblesub
I would suggest finding out as soon as possible if they are married or whatever. Then if they are just put a halt to everything. Politely.
"Oh, what a shame it is you are married. You are such an attractive woman. Oh well *feign disappointment* , nice to meet you."
Giving them a compliment will help keep them from getting angry.


I'm not a very good actor, and I'm not going to lie, they aren't all attractive.  

I wish I could do this.  



My general rule of thumb is to never tell someone they are butt ugly or that they should change even if they are or that they aren't even average looking - since I don't promote plastic surgery.  Look at what happened to that actress Meg Ryan, she was turned into a circus freak with the bad plastic surgery.......sadly....(and I liked her in her romance movies before the tragic accident-plastic surgery)...

If its something that is easy to change then it should be mentioned to them........Like I met this guy in college with a uni-brow, and I was like dude, you should shave between your two eyebrows, and I really for the life of me don't know why he came back to check with me but he did after shaving, and I was like yeah, you look alot better.....

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 8:03:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: impossiblesub

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ORIGINAL: christine1
you mean if a woman isn't attractive (to you), she isn't worth arguing with? 


Personally, I don't think anybody is worth arguing with unless we can both be civil and eventually come to a conclusion. I can't stand a woman who is overemotional and irrational.


Most women are over-emotional and irrational.  I guess I'm pretty picky in that I'm looking for someone who knows when they are being irrational.  ;0  There really isn't much point to argue-ing, ever, to be honest.  I got better things to do than argue with people.....

Maybe I should start a new thread about power struggles in BDSM relationships.... how much argueing do you really need to be happy in an intimate relationship?  ;0  Obviously some people think its not intimate unless there is some arguing.....

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 9:28:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KCherry

Knocking us youngins again I see

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LOL, advice and insults from a 22 year old. You haven't even grown up yet.



KC,
I was thinking that same thing. Sheesh, how old do you have to be till people stop calling you too young? I knew more at 18 than I did at 25 for Christ's sakes. Talk about judgmental and narrow minded.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 9:29:45 PM   
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  I never said I wasn't going to be insulting him, I merely said the answer was going to be serious. I can answer seriously and still be a smart-ass. I hardly think discussions of pork-rinds, even if the discussions were led by those older and wiser than myself, were relevant to the OP's question.

  Also-since the OP actually said he WASN'T trying to attract older women, I thought my point of view might be somewhat useful to him.

   It would have been fine if you'd have just called me a hypocrite, but adding in age? Would my answer really have been any different if I were 10 years older? 20? If it's a silly answer when I'm 22, it's going to be just as silly when I'm 36.

Right on!

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 9:59:09 PM   
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Although this thread has degenerated into...something, I'll do my best to give you a serious answer.

You ask why you are attracting married women. I, in return, need to ask whether this is online or in real life. Since you're posting here, I assume that you're talking about on Collarme (or similar sites).

> This is all taking place in Real Life.

First off, don't talk to women who are married, if that's not what you're looking for. You appear to know a good deal about said women, which leads me to suspect you entertained the notion of cheating, so long as they were good looking and you could stay with them for 6 months to a year.

Also-your profile is confusing. You're an "intellectual". We get it. As such, the only women interested in you are those who want a young piece of man-meat. I wouldn't bother trying to get to know a dom who couldn't be bothered to be clear in his profile. It's not your myspace-it's a list explaining a) who you are and b) what you want. Your silly song-lyric-bs-philosopho-confuzzleness may be "Who you are", but it tells me nothing about you. To me, that says you're kind of a hippie who isn't looking for RL relationships and has issues admitting to being sub. Granted, that's just me, but I imagine I can't be the only person who read that as such.

>
Caterpillar: A e i o u, a e i o u, o a e i o u... Who are you?
 
Alice: I- I- I hardly know, sir! I changed so many times since this morning, you see…
 
Caterpillar: I do not see. Explain yourself.
 
Alice: Why, I’m afraid I can’t explain myself, sir, because I’m not myself, you know…
 
Caterpillar: I do not know.
 
Alice: Well, I can’t put it anymore clearly for it isn’t clear to me!
 
Caterpillar: You?!  Who are you?
 
Alice: Well, don’t you think you ought to tell me- cough-cough, cough-cough, who you are first?
 
Caterpillar: Why?
 
Alice: Oh dear. Everything is so confusing.
 
Caterpillar: It is not.
 
Alice: Well, it is to me.
 
Caterpillar: Why?
 
Alice: Well, I can’t remember things as I used to, and…
 
Caterpillar: Recite.
 
Alice: Hmm? Oh! Oh, oh, yes, sir! Um… how doth the little busy bee, improve each such…
 
Caterpillar: Stop! That is not spoken correcitically..."
 


You can still come across as a smart-ass (as that appears to be your goal) with some actual useful information in your profile. Frankly, I wouldn't want to listen to your psycho-babble for 45 minutes to figure out what you're looking for in a relationship. Neither do older married women, they just hope they can seduce you with wine coolers and Zima.

> It's not my goal to come across anything.

All that being said, I've got no problem with smart-assedness (and am frequently guilty of such). And however much your profile might read like a used car description, that's really what people are looking to read when they check profile.

"Male Dom (?), year 1989. Seating for only one. Interested in a long-term lease only. No current car owners need apply. "

> Hahaha! 
 
Then there will be someone complaining that my profile is too boring and there isn't anything that displays my persona... blah blah blah.
 
I like My profile; song-lyric-bs-philosopho-confuzzleness and all. 
 
And it only skims the surface! 


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 10:17:23 PM   
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In answer to your question of "What are you doing wrong?"  I don't think you are doing anything wrong.  Attraction is a strange thing.  I can share with you a little bit of my experience that is sort of entertaining.    I work as a psych nurse and I've dealt with many patients with a variety of psychiatric disorders  and diagnosis.  In my life outside of work  I seem to attract many people who are mentally unstable.  I swear, that if there is a paranoid skitzophrenic within 10 miles of me,  it's like they can sniff me out and find me.  I just dont get it and can't come up with a rational.  Maybe they can pick up my experience in dealing with people with mental health issues once a conversation is started.  But that does not explain why they approach me to begin with.  I don't get it, but thought this would help you realize that you are not alone.                                                           DV8                               

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 10:35:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just because it's taking place in real life doesn't mean you shouldn't evaluate why it's happening and what you cna do to keep it from happening. Where are you meeting these women? What are you doing that's intriguing them? It seems strange to me that somewhere you're meeting and getting to know enough to attract older women. 

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 10:49:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

*smirk* Take Katie's entire entry.
Paste it under my name.
I am 31. Your age arguement is gone. Try again, since you know she is right and you cant hold anything against her other than the number of years she has been around.
Just becasue someone is on the planet longer doesnt mean they have grwn up. There are a few posters who are living proof of that *ahem*

DV



OK *takes gloves off*
The other part of my post is still valid. I know for a fact you do not know what every woman on the planet wants. I also know there are women who like intellectual men. In addition, the smarter you are the more money you make as a general rule of thumb in society AND as a general rule better looking and classier women prefer men who make more money.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 10:55:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: impossiblesub

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

*smirk* Take Katie's entire entry.
Paste it under my name.
I am 31. Your age arguement is gone. Try again, since you know she is right and you cant hold anything against her other than the number of years she has been around.
Just becasue someone is on the planet longer doesnt mean they have grwn up. There are a few posters who are living proof of that *ahem*

DV



OK *takes gloves off*
The other part of my post is still valid. I know for a fact you do not know what every woman on the planet wants. I also know there are women who like intellectual men. In addition, the smarter you are the more money you make as a general rule of thumb in society AND as a general rule better looking and classier women prefer men who make more money.
So wait, now YOU know what every woman on the planet wants?


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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 10:56:57 PM   
impossiblesub


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So wait, now YOU know what every woman on the planet wants?



Did I state that anywhere? No.
But, in a way, yes I do. They are all different and all want different things, same as us.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 11:14:47 PM   
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*smirk* Take Katie's entire entry.
Paste it under my name.
I am 31. Your age arguement is gone. Try again, since you know she is right and you cant hold anything against her other than the number of years she has been around.
Just becasue someone is on the planet longer doesnt mean they have grwn up. There are a few posters who are living proof of that *ahem*

DV



OK *takes gloves off*
The other part of my post is still valid. I know for a fact you do not know what every woman on the planet wants. I also know there are women who like intellectual men. In addition, the smarter you are the more money you make as a general rule of thumb in society AND as a general rule men who make more money get better looking and classier women.

I would like to know just who is deciding which woman is better looking and more classier than other women? I dated a man you would have thought he was Sean Connery AND he had money as well. I don't and never have seen myself as particularly beautiful or classy. I am a blue jeans type of girl. Yet this man swore that I was the most beautiful woman on earth. Now, you may not think so, but he did, and he had looks and money. I don't think he attracted women who were prettier or classier than the average woman walking on the sidewalk, window shopping. I have see beautiful women marry men who were just plain ugly. Well, Julia Roberts is one. She married Lyle Lovett  (I was at the concert in Indpls. when she came onstage and he announced their wedding) and he was ugly IMO. But...Ms. Roberts loved him and must have thought he was the most handsome man in the world. Who decides who is beautiful and classier? You don't. I don't. The person who decides, is the person who is interested in you, regardless of your finances and your beauty.

MoGa

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 11:20:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Who decides who is beautiful and classier? You don't. I don't. The person who decides, is the person who is interested in you, regardless of your finances and your beauty.

MoGa


I agree, you decide who is beautiful to you. I said as a general rule. General rules are of course just that, general. Obviously society has decided who is better looking and those people are now superstars or models.
Yon young brat proceeded to dis the OP and indicated she was speaking for the entire female population.

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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 11:23:16 PM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/27/2008 11:31:24 PM   
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I have see beautiful women marry men who were just plain ugly. Well, Julia Roberts is one. She married Lyle Lovett  (I was at the concert in Indpls. when she came onstage and he announced their wedding) and he was ugly IMO. But...Ms. Roberts loved him and must have thought he was the most handsome man in the world.
MoGa

As I said - they are all different and all want different things. There is no "one size fits all" approach to what women want or what men want. I personally have known beautiful girls who dated guys with no money, and I have known beautiful girls who would date anyone with a corvette.

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 5:13:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		   Well, if we're talking real-life, I'll have to admit I can't offer you much more advice than to stop hanging around at knitting circles and Weight Watchers meetings! I'm not really sure where it is girls your/my age hang out (like they're slouching around on the internet), but I'm fairly certain it doesn't always coincide with ladies a few years older. Perhaps married women are simply more bold, since, if you turn them down, they've still got a husband to soothe their hurt feelings?
         Seeing as I evidently speak for every woman ever, I could tell you what it takes to attract women of different ages. But I'm not gonna .
     
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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 5:58:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: impossiblesub
I also know there are women who like intellectual men.


This is true. But intellectual does not always equal intelligent, nor does it always equal intelligible. [grin]

Anyway, as DV said, Katy's post echoes my feelings as well, and I'm 57 (far too old for the OP, I'm sure). I do, however, remember being in college (God, how long ago that was!), and the intellectual doublespeak and babble that passed for small talk among the students. It was one of the reasons I left school to go to work in the real world.

OP - you are just too good-looking for your own good. That's all there is to it. Your looks appeal to certain women and not to others. When the woman you find appealing also finds you appealing, then you've hit pay dirt.

pip, it's all very scientific

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 6:04:49 AM   
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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 6:27:19 AM   
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Maybe asking Me My definition of what a Dominant Male & Female is, would clear up your confusion?


OK upto THIS post I was quite sympathetic. I've no problem with someone who shares My distaste of the dishonesty of cheaters but... WTF!!!! The world... and specificaly this site doesn't revolve around YOU.... if you enter an enviroment where certain concepts/labels are genericaly shared and start using those in a manner contrary to the situational norm then it isn't upto everyone ELSE to ask in order to avoid confusion, it is down to YOU to clarify... in this case maybe you should do so in your profile and take the "teen knowitall' chip off your damn shoulder!

communication clearly isn't your strong suit as shown in this thread and I suspect therein lays the answer to the question as to why you are 'attracting' the 'wrong type'.... learn to communicate clearly, send out the 'right signals'... signals the people you are looking to attract will recognise and understand rather than ones only applicable to ubermunchkin land!


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