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RE: seriously considering leaving the lifestyle - 5/3/2008 7:42:34 AM

CNJDom

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The negativity and insanity that you see here in BDSM is amplified by how close you are to the lifestyle. We live near cities that are dangerous filled with insanity, murder, and crime...and yet we still live there. Life is not very nice in a lot of ways, and though we need and use sensitivity, if you choose to feel it all at once...it'll eat you up. Being in the lifestlyle is not condoning it. We don't all practice negativity, robbing, lieing, and other horrible things...but unfortunately it's there. We can only condone this bad behavior if we practice it or associate with it. Humans are basically good for the most part, but we are not ALL insane and bad. Don't let what you see due to being so close to it turn you away.

Better yet, do what you can to clean it up. If we all worked in that mindset, then we'd all be better off. Condem, and change...not just run from it: running from something is nearly as bad as letting it happen. You don't need to fix all these problems by yourself, but with every voice and action, there is another step towards making it better and change for us all. We're not saints, but there's always hope for progress towards what we expect and want for us all not only in the BDSM lifestyle, but as humans.

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RE: seriously considering leaving the lifestyle - 5/4/2008 5:53:42 PM

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Bad things happen to vanilla people too.   Some people are easy hits whether they're vanilla or not. Vanilla people fall prey to cons everyday, and vanilla people kill themselves over lost lovers everyday - that's not exclusive to the kink world.

Just like any kind of relationship a person has to go in with their eyes wide open and they MUST use common sense and judgement, and most importantly they must not let their fluttering genitals override that feeling that something about this person is just plain wrong.

If you're thinking about leaving BDSM, I think you should. It's not as if the decision you make today is written in stone. If you find that vanilla is simply not for you the community will still be here if you decide to come back. Next time however, like with everything in life, be discriminating in who you choose to spend your time with. There are a lot of good people here, but like any community, you'll also find a lot of trash.

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RE: seriously considering leaving the lifestyle - 5/4/2008 6:02:20 PM

HerLord

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff
Im seriously thinking about packing it in and not associating with the lifestyle anymore. Because every day, someone is hurt because of it. People are abused, debased, robbed of everything in they're lives. People are scammed, lied to, all the time. I knew people that have killed themselves over this.
Is there some part of this lifestlye that appeals to the insane?
Again, the questions flood my mind. Do I want to be involved with that? Do I want to condone that?
Looks like no sleep again tonight...

All I can say is stop debating the antics of the religious zealots and start by finding what truths you find to be self evident. All I see above is the rantings of someone who may or may not have a thought about what they may or may not think about catholicism. You should definately get out of that lifestyle.

As for the rest. The door is in the same place it was when you came in.
Don't let it slam ya in the ass on the way out. That would only be condoning the whole DSM thing. (there is no bondage involved so it can't also include the B thing with it) Good bye and good luck. Or just piss off. Whichever gets you out faster.

I hate whinning.

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