persephonee
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All of about 15 years ago i came out to my family as being a lesbian. Partially because i was so young and partially because my family was sooo dysfunctional while my father was in the picture;i had a lot of trouble getting it out. i attempted to do it in person and on the phone and finally decided to write a letter. Once i read the letter i knew exactly what i needed to get across to them (really only my mother). This letter allowed me to come out despite the fact that just as i was about to open my mouth and let it rip, my dear, sweet, thinks-shes-a-liberal mother began a long story of friends of her's daughter had just come out to her--that ended with the statement, "its every mothers worse nightmare, isnt it??" This statement actually forced me to respond because i was horrified that i had thought my mother really was liberal.
Flashforward past a string of terrifyingly butch girlfriends, a same sex marriage and a AI baby....now that i had to come out to her about going back to dating men....i realized that she had had some rocky moments accepting me and my friends, but for the most part had been very open about it...esp after the wedding and thru the baby. And she realized that she was ok with the lesbianism and the leather....but had issues with me allowing myself to sub to a MAN.
So there is a long convuluted road between coming out of any sort and true acceptance...let alone from someone who technically is supposed to love you unconditionally...so if a letter helps you get a little of it out clearly....more power to you.
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