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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 3:55:32 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		My Dom wooed me before we had sex. Took me to lunch(hes usually too busy for lunch), and met me after work(works nearby) just to walk me to my car to kiss me goodbye. He still treats me wonderfully but he doesnt walk me to my car or take me to lunch after  we had sex. Yes, it was a glorious week!

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 3:57:51 PM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains

hmm, Master and i refer to one period of our relationship as "courtship". We both had were dating other people when we met, my relationship was far from serious, but His relationship with the ex had been. He refused to date me until He had the chance to break up with her, but He did ask to marry me, before He broke up with her, and we were engaged, before He broke up with her. During the time before He broke up with her, our relationship was very chaste, as Master didn't want to cheat on His ex. i still smile thinking about it.



Lol boy am I confused.  I guess it's all in how one defines cheating.  If your heart is someplace else that sounds like cheating to me.  I'm a tad curious how does one become engaged without dating???  It appears to be if you can't dazzle em with brilliance baffel em with bull shit.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 3:59:27 PM   
stubborngirl


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Status: offline 		I WANT to be wooed/courted...erin's right about everything being so "drive-thru-ish"...
I like things slow...deliberate...the feeling of being slowly pulled toward someone or something...

I also know that I woo (or would 'entice' be a better word?) very well, too.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 4:00:56 PM   
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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 4:13:00 PM   
Lumus


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Status: offline 		*ponders*

Something warm; something humourous; something smart; always genuine - it's as good a way to introduce yourself as any other, moreso if you give a true glimpse into yourself.

Laugh, share, be civil, be lewd, before and after, and understand each other.

Appreciate.

Give consideration and be considered.

Stroking hair and kissing eyes are loving and intimate, a wonderful way to express how you feel other than horny.

Wooing?  Dead?  Pish-tosh.  But then, I'm fairly certainb you and I have talked before, OP.  Call it an intellectual exercise?


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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 4:16:44 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Most of my partnerships, of whatever length, have involved wooing... I've noticed no lack at all.  Except for one, the only ones that didn't were mutually understood sex-flings (most of these types also invovled wooing, too, though).  Whenever there as a romantic interest between us there was much courting involved, both before and after we "got" each other.

I'm inclined to think it's another of those things that comes down to the sort of person one attracts and one is attracted to.

I get the random "hey baby" comments in life or emails here, too, but they're generic expressions to anyone with an innie.  With those two exceptions, anyone that has taken an interest in me at all has been inclined towards courtship and wooing. 

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 4:25:37 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		When time allows I’ll actually read the replies but for now I’ll address the OP.  Wooing is indeed an art form and in today’s western society is missing mostly due to the “I want it and I want it now!:” This applies across the age spectrum these days. However there are those who follow the Old School who believe in good manners, politeness and chivalry. I see this in some areas of the Medieval groups and of course in areas such as the Victorian Lifestyles. OI call the Art of Wooing as the highest form of the old Mating Game. It is not lost just not as evident as it used to be. Mind you few people recognize it when they do see it and even see it as sleaze. I have in mind one evening at a leagues club when I kissed an elderly lady’s hand and some young fem thing called me a sleaze bag. One of her friends who understood old world courtesy hit time chick for being so damned rude.  Ergo there are those who I will respect and enjoy their company and many more who for me do not exist.
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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 6:01:30 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The majority of people who enter a sub culture do so because they do not find a good fit in the mainstream culture.  Because of this, they often have a frenzy period- they don't WANT the wooing, they can get wooing anywhere.  They want the bang, fizz, zip "special" feeling they can only get here.  Especially since most kinky people still get into this AFTER they've had the marriage and kids and "normal life" and have no desire to repeat it.

Eventually they realize that there's really nothing much special about "it" at all. 

If people want wooing, they get wooing.  Most people don't want wooing.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 6:07:26 PM   
Lumus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Most people don't want wooing.


*woo-d beg to differ*

.oO(Wait.  I don't beg.)



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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 6:20:16 PM   
MissLily


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Status: offline 		oh dear Me! Don't dispare! The art is not lost. Some subs still do it. Perhaps not the majority, but some will woo Me. It's actually the only way to attract My attention...

Miss Lily

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/6/2008 7:54:33 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		Mlady, I don't think it is lost at all.

Men write songs and books about women they want, men have climbed mountains and traveled many oceans for women they want, men have fought in battle and even started wars over women they want, men have gone through jungles and fought wild animals over women they want, the list goes on and on.
 
IF, a man really wants you and you expect to be wooed?
Guess what, he will woo and court you, and be glad to be able to do it!
 
If you don't accept anyone that will not woo or court you, you don't have that problem.
 
If someone can't be bothered with getting to know me well, which includes not only wooing, but
literally begging and pleading............then we have no beginning.
I also fucking love crawling.

dang now I want to hear "Ain't to Proud to Beg".

 

< Message edited by MzMia -- 5/6/2008 8:22:49 PM >

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/7/2008 5:17:05 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		last night, i was tired and cranky and didnt feel well.  TheEngineer called to talk to me, and when he found that i was out of sorts...

told me to go get the teddybear he gave me,  to snuggle into the bed, and listen..

and then he sang me a lullabye, blew me kisses over the phone, and told me to go to sleep and feel better in the morning.

that, i do believe, is wooing.

kitten, pretty well content.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/7/2008 3:47:19 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: Kirren

I dont think wooing per say is a lost art, I just think finding the time to do it is.


it's not a question of "finding" the time..... It's a question of "Making" the time!

Seems many people want things Now!  Wooing gets in the road of that.

I like making the time... have made the time.... the effort has proven to be well worth it.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/7/2008 8:32:43 PM   
mercifulsiren


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Status: offline 		I think wooing is one of the most important things you can do.  I have been wooed by the same man for the past 13 years.  The little ways he shows that he loves me, like for my birthday we didn't have alot of money but he surprised me with my favorite chocolate.  He makes a point to tell me he loves me everyday in one way or another.  I will never forget the day that I answered the door and the fedex man was standing there with a package from my sailor.  When he called a few hours later I was still  walking around with a huge smile on my face.  I will never forget how I felt that day. 

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 3:37:45 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		Surprisingly to me, I sometimes feel like my Master is wooing me.  He has told me that He prefers that love not be a part of a D/s relationship because it makes things very sticky if the D/s side of the commitment breaks up.  He says that one person can adore another forever, but love is tricky.

First of all, I was amazed that my Master would come to adore me.  If we are in public He opens doors for me and is a perfect gentleman.  Even though our relationship is not based on romance He can be incredibly romantic.  He tells me I am His shining star, or talks about needing me.  We exchanged diamond earrings so that we always carry a visible piece of each other with us.  I was never wooed so well by my husband.  : )

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 4:05:22 PM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		Wooing? Why beat around the bush...
 
Why not *can I beat you*?
 
Or...
 
*Hurt me, please*

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 4:34:12 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

I thought about this when I was making morning coffee and the thread about curtsies and erins post about instant submission/domination reinforced My thinking--what happened to wooing?
 
I speak more from the FemDomina aspect---that though the males seek a submissive role, there isn't any wooing--its like, ok you're a D, i'm an s--so we can cut to the chase--you take me and we're off---whatever happened to wooing as well? Whatever happened to working to keep one's attention? Ok I am the Dominant, but dammit, I want to be wooed to for gosh sakes!
 
Have we lost the art of wooing?


Wooing is wonderful.

As a guy I can tell you...wooing is a prerequisite to finding "The One".





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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 5:20:28 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

I thought about this when I was making morning coffee and the thread about curtsies and erins post about instant submission/domination reinforced My thinking--what happened to wooing?
 
I speak more from the FemDomina aspect---that though the males seek a submissive role, there isn't any wooing--its like, ok you're a D, i'm an s--so we can cut to the chase--you take me and we're off---whatever happened to wooing as well? Whatever happened to working to keep one's attention? Ok I am the Dominant, but dammit, I want to be wooed to for gosh sakes!
 
Have we lost the art of wooing?


Wooing is wonderful.

As a guy I can tell you...wooing is a prerequisite to finding "The One".







Um....Gris?  What if that includes SHOPPING????

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 5:28:36 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

I thought about this when I was making morning coffee and the thread about curtsies and erins post about instant submission/domination reinforced My thinking--what happened to wooing?
 
I speak more from the FemDomina aspect---that though the males seek a submissive role, there isn't any wooing--its like, ok you're a D, i'm an s--so we can cut to the chase--you take me and we're off---whatever happened to wooing as well? Whatever happened to working to keep one's attention? Ok I am the Dominant, but dammit, I want to be wooed to for gosh sakes!
 
Have we lost the art of wooing?


Wooing is wonderful.

As a guy I can tell you...wooing is a prerequisite to finding "The One".


Um....Gris?  What if that includes SHOPPING????


(Where's my lawyer?)

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/9/2008 5:34:06 PM   
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