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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/10/2008 5:25:26 AM

Deliena

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My Master wooed me for 3 months, I was working in a local pub and everytime He came in He would smile at me as if I were the only person in the room (and on a Saturday night they were 3 deep at the bar!) Every break I got He would find an excuse to come and talk to me, just to find out how my day was, how I was feeling, that kind of thing. He asked me on dates several times before I accepted (he's younger than me and it was an issue for me as I felt that an older woman with a 9 year old child was not necessarily the sort of relationship He might want and if I was going to be with Him it wasn't going to be part-time friends with benefits, I knew I wanted to be with Him)

We've been together over 3 months now and he still woos me, still misses me when we are apart (even if that's only the 12 hours He's at work that day), sends me a "good morning babe" text message every morning whether we're together or apart and insists on paying for things if we are out. This point goes directly to Steel <wink> I offer to pay, get to the stage of trying to hand over money and He won't let me, he's old-fashioned enough to belive that the man pays. It drives me nuts - I earn more than Him and am quite capable and willing to pay at least my share (or indeed treat Him) and am rarely allowed to do so. I guess it's different for different people, but that's not a huge suprise really is it?

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 9:46:49 AM

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In 4 pages on this thread about woo I've not seen anyone use the phrase "pitching woo."

I've always been pretty athletic myself.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 10:16:07 AM

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For me, it depends on what kind of wooing your talking about.

The general rule I have developed is that there is at least 3 months before I'll even consider accepting a request for my collar. The hardest part I have had with this rule is getting the girls to actually slow the fuck down and just date and get to know me. In a couple of cases, they lost patience and I never heard from them again.

I am more than willing to take the time to get to know someone and more importantly, let a submissive get to know me. I consider it to be essential for a successful power based relationship.

However, being the self important, arrogant, and demanding dominant that I am, what I won't do, is chase a girl around like a hungry, begging dog trying to get her to be with me. If she doesn't show interest in me and show some motivation to spend time with me, I will lose interest very quickly. If at any point, I feel like I am "convincing" her to take my collar or "trying to win" her over, I will drop it and move on.

I find it to be a bad way to start off a power based relationship. If there isn't that initial interest, desire, and attraction and your following them around, begging for table scraps, trying to cultivate a desire for someone to do what you "want" while you are very clearly doing what they want, there is a good chance it's not going to change and the girl will end up continueing to wear the pants in the relationship. If you don't establish early off that you are the one in charge and things are on your time, it's a hard thing to change later on.

Taking the role of "Dominant" in a relationship, particularly with women who are quite used to controlling things with "pussy power", often requires being able to go home alone, jerk off, and not be bothered or phased by it in the least.

I'm a good catch and I have a lot to offer a submissive. I have no intentions of doing any begging in the least.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 6:45:22 PM

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to woo (third-person singular simple present woos, present participle wooing, simple past and past participle wooed)

To endeavor to gain someone's affection.

There are many ways to do this. What does it take to gain your affection. There are those who let their affections go to another too easily. There are those (me lately) who hold their hearts much too close. What is the process by which you will let another gain your affection? Roses and champagne? A glance and a spanking? Each of us much decide what our worth is and what it takes to gain our affection.
(Here is the undomly part)
I want romance. I want intellectual stimulation. I want a woman that lets me open doors for her. I want to hold hands and hold her possessively in public. I want to give flowers and have her cry on my shoulder because I've made her happy. I want acceptance. What is your price?

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 7:25:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

to woo (third-person singular simple present woos, present participle wooing, simple past and past participle wooed)

To endeavor to gain someone's affection.

There are many ways to do this. What does it take to gain your affection. There are those who let their affections go to another too easily. There are those (me lately) who hold their hearts much too close. What is the process by which you will let another gain your affection? Roses and champagne? A glance and a spanking? Each of us much decide what our worth is and what it takes to gain our affection.
(Here is the undomly part)
I want romance. I want intellectual stimulation. I want a woman that lets me open doors for her. I want to hold hands and hold her possessively in public. I want to give flowers and have her cry on my shoulder because I've made her happy. I want acceptance. What is your price?

And no one has snapped up this fineass caveman? There truly is no justice.

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 7:50:41 PM

MidMichCowboy

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LadyHibiscus is such a lovely lady

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RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? - 5/11/2008 7:57:40 PM

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