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Love and Kink


I want love with my D/s, but can do without
  30% (30)
I have to have both
  64% (64)
I want nothing to do with love
  6% (6)


Total Votes : 100
(last vote on : 8/29/2008 4:05:24 PM)
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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:10:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Thanks for the compliment - trying to show i can be as sophisticated as i am slutty! LOL!


You succeeded wonderfully, my friend.

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As to being able to resist...its kind of like you and your delicious "poll fetish!"  Resisting is only fun when it's against some rope!

 
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As to what the "ancient philosophers" meant when they spoke those eternal words for those of us that "love to love"...perhaps they meant there is something to love in everyone? i like to think that~


True.... but does that person have enough to love? 
 


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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:11:30 PM   
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Love can be a tricky motherfucker lol.... it doesn't always knock before barging in.


You can sure say that again!

Oh, in answer to the question...I used to think caring was enough but in the end it wasn't.

I need both.


Love can be a tricky motherfucker lol.... it doesn't always knock before barging in.
 
Oh, you didn't mean that literally.....
 


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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:12:32 PM   
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  I don't have to have romantic love.  But I do need to have friendship at minimum. 

 
So, there needs to be a level of warmth, some depth of feeling.


Some warmth, yes, although the depth of feeling has varied widely from person to person.  Example: I wouldn't put the buddy I spanked with a belt for his b-day on the same level as my current play partner who isn't at the same emotional level as my SO.


Is there any D/s or kink between you and your SO?

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:14:20 PM   
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Kink and D/s aren't the same for me.

I can do kink without love.

I can do some forms of D/s without love--how much love do I need to feel to fetch a cup of coffee on command?.  But, it doesn't go very deep.

But, I don't think I can love without at least the s part of  D/s.  My internal intimacy model doesn't include the possibility.  I could do without the pomp and circumstance of lifestyle D/s, the vocabulary of dominance and submission that we use here on this site, but if I love someone, I'm going to be pretty submissive to them.

Sometimes I wonder if I can do life without s-ing all over the place.



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Interesting comment..... "if I love someone, I'm going to be pretty submissive to them."

Do others feel that way?

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:16:36 PM   
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Is there any D/s or kink between you and your SO?


No, we're both dominant.  However, we're also poly, so co-topping at some future date is likely enough that I won't call us vanilla.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:19:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		yes Level, if i love a man i will want to submit and serve him.  i have no desire to serve someone i have no feelings for or let them touch me even.  he could tell me to make him a sandwhich and i'd probably tell him to get off his ass and do it himself.  but with someone i love and care for, of course i'd do it gladly and it would be my pleasure, i just have to love him and have him love me in order to serve.  i can't submit to anyone casually.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:21:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmm. Co-topping, that sounds interesting.  Did you both know of each others kink when you partnered?

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:27:25 PM   
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yes Level, if i love a man i will want to submit and serve him.  i have no desire to serve someone i have no feelings for or let them touch me even.  he could tell me to make him a sandwhich and i'd probably tell him to get off his ass and do it himself.  but with someone i love and care for, of course i'd do it gladly and it would be my pleasure, i just have to love him and have him love me in order to serve.  i can't submit to anyone casually.


For you, the love/feelings are like a gateway to the kink....

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:28:55 PM   
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Hmm. Co-topping, that sounds interesting.  Did you both know of each others kink when you partnered?


No, I'm the one who introduced him to the lifestyle.  I'm a corrupting influence. 

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:31:08 PM   
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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:33:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		I went for 'i want love with my d/s but can do without' even though it isnt strictly true.
I'm indifferent to be honest whether love is there or not.
 

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:38:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Simple reply for me, I have to have both.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:39:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi misst...... honestly, you strike me as someone that would be borderline "need both".... you're very heartfelt. Of course, that's guesswork on my part
 
The tally so far:
 
Need both - 21
Want both - 9
Boo on love - 1

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:42:25 PM   
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True.... but does that person have enough to love? 
 



i will ask the "ancients" and get back to ya

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:45:56 PM   
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Hi misst...... honestly, you strike me as someone that would be borderline "need both".... you're very heartfelt. Of course, that's guesswork on my part  


2/3 years ago i would have said i needed both.
1/2 years ago i would have said i wanted both but could live without.
Now i am indifferent. I think that part that wants / needs love has shut down. Temporarily or permanently who knows!!
I kinda hope its temporary.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:49:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Love not required, however, a healthy mutual respect....with a lot of honesty is.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:55:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Funny how things change...my ex-love asked if we could be fuck buddies.... I found myself insulted. If love has died, so does the feeling for sex...?
Had I found myself in a relationship where there was good sex but no love, I dont think it would have lasted.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 1:58:37 PM   
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True.... but does that person have enough to love? 
 



i will ask the "ancients" and get back to ya


Tell them I said hello.
 


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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 2:03:41 PM   
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Hi misst...... honestly, you strike me as someone that would be borderline "need both".... you're very heartfelt. Of course, that's guesswork on my part  


2/3 years ago i would have said i needed both.
1/2 years ago i would have said i wanted both but could live without.
Now i am indifferent. I think that part that wants / needs love has shut down. Temporarily or permanently who knows!!
I kinda hope its temporary.


*hugssssss*
 
Well, we all change. Sometimes things  happen to kill, or stun, that part of us that loves. Given the right time and person, I bet it will just be temporary, misst.

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RE: Love and Kink - 5/18/2008 2:05:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		What is love really?  Butterflys in your belly or a strong friendship and respect for eachother?  I am more for a respectful friend, cause butterflys only live so long...and can't really take a beating.

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