slaveluci
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I guess, as usual, I have a bit different take here than just "release yourself and run like the wind right now." First of all, you say:
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ORIGINAL: darkeangelique
i am really after some advice here. i have asked my Master for relase as i cannot give Him what he wants (a child)
Did you know this before you entered into the relationship? Did you just find out? Does your master feel that simply because you "cannot give him" a child that this is worth ending your relationship over? None of this is mentioned. Lots of people "can't give" children to their mates. That doesn't mean they have to part ways. There are alternatives and options.
Secondly, you say:
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i don't want to be His nilla partner any longer as i was devastated to find out that He has belonged to paid dating sites for the last 8 months and has been chatting on msn with a variety of women in explicit ways, and intuition tells me He has been seeing someone else also - but i have no proof of real contact
Again, what was the agreement in the beginning? Before he became your owner, did he say something like: "I am giving you power to decide who else I have involvement with. I will never chat with or be interested in other women. I vow this." If not, maybe running like the wind at the first hint of his interest in someone else isn't the wisest, most adult and mature choice. Perhaps it wasn't mentioned at all and you just ASSUMED since he has you, he would no longer remember there are other interesting women in the world. Assuming is always bad, ya know? Did you assume or did he explicitly promise monogamy and then violate your trust? Big difference. I know in our particular M/s relationship, I don't exercise power over who He chats with, plays with, fucks or loves. Not my choices to make for Him. But that's just us. We both agreed -in the beginning and BEFORE He owned me - that this is what we both wanted. What did the two of you agree to?
Next, you say:
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He won't-says i took an oath of ownership by Him forever
As Evility asked, "Did you?" If so, you have some thinking to do. It always amuses me how people enter into "life-long, forever and ever slave status," agreeing to be owned till death and then as soon as something doesn't go smoothly, they're trying to back out. People do the same in "vanilla" marriages, of course, and it's just as hard to figure out then. In my opinion, it's because (in both "vanilla" marriages and owner/slave dynamics and relationships) that people are willing to vow anything and jump in with both feet, never thinking times might get a bit rough and real compromise and change might actually be necessary. God forbid. If you agreed to become his owned property and you vowed to be owned by him forever, do you really think it's appropriate to decide to "release yourself" at the first sign of discontent? Maybe you do. But then, IMHO, you never planned to be "owned" at all, let alone for life. It sounds way more romantic than it is as does "vanilla" marriage. It's not all roses and love songs. Sometimes it takes work and compromise. Somtimes it takes accepting things you might not want to. If you aren't willing to do that, then by all means, take the advice of the majority and release yourself and run like that wind they mentioned because your heart obviously isn't in it to start with.
Lastly, you ask:
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What is my status?
As I just said, obviously it's what you want it to be, not what your "owner" thinks. Decide for yourself and do what you want. Sounds like you're already heading down that path anyway. Good luck.................luci
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) that means a lot
................luci
That's right - keep the damage confined, and noone else need get into trouble. - Thanks for the laugh! (I needed it badly right now also - just had one of those CM weird pm moments...)
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