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puella -> RE: Face Slapping (6/3/2008 2:56:46 PM)
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Hello pinksugarsub,
I can understand your immediate reaction to the suggestion of face slapping. I think that given the society we live in and have been reared in, the idea of a person slapping your face is quite beyond the pale. I also think that, were it anyone other than my present owner who were doing that, it would (and always has, previously) cause serious reactions in me which would not be at all good.
It is a very personal, very intense and very powerful power-taking experience. This is not smacking on the ass, legs, arms, tits, etc...it is the most direct and personal invasion of your space... your face.
It was never something I liked the idea of; it somehow conjuring up ideas of abuse rather than 'play' and invasion rather than 'healthy' power exchange. I suppose it is an invasion of sorts, but then I have always maintained that there are some things, when you are in a surrendered relationship, that you give, freely, gladly and eagerly, and then there are things which, no matter how much you want to give by yourself, must be taken by your master.. (I have found that those things tend to be controversial and provocative to me, when considered and confronted...or at least, at first.)
There is something about being slapped that way that very much falls into that category of having to be taken (or at perhaps facilitates that taking?). It is also a sort call to total and immediate focus, without any subconscious thoughts or tapes playing in your head, as well as a complete recognition and surrender to dominance....like a little jolt of "this is who we are, Master and slave."
It can be a very intimate, very very emotional and deeply insinuating experience. However, having said that, it is not something I would approach, accept or even consider from someone unless I had come to a place within myself (and I am sure that that journey takes not only myself but my Master) where it was not something I was 'conceding' to him, but something that seemed natural, right and loving (if one can really understand the grasp of loving sadism), if always a bit of a shock when it happens! It certainly is not something I could engage in casually or willy nilly with any Domliest-Dom who strutted by, or even with people within the lifestyle that I liked or trusted. It is a very personal and profound gesture, in my mind, and when it is done in the context of a genuine dominant and submissive relationship (as opposed to casual play, I suppose) it has lost all the negative thoughts and reactions I had to the mere idea of it beforehand.... of course, out of that context, I still reserve the right to knee the jackass in the balls.
Good luck.
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